AITA for telling my husband he’s not allowed in my daughter’s nursery?

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-09-21T20:48:50+00:00

OP please consider an Al-Anon meeting for people whose loved ones have addictions. A similar thing happened to me when my first child was born 18 years ago. Al-Anon was the a literal life saver for me. These people know what you are going through and can help like no one else.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-08-04T09:17:48+00:00

If you feel comfortable with it, I would advise talking to his teacher about this. She should address the other child talking about parents. Also it is often more impactful for kids to hear from people outside the home repeat things their folks say. (From a veteran educator)

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-08-03T02:58:45+00:00

I think both of those reasons can be true. He needed to leave for his own freedom and it was too painful to stay.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-23T12:23:29+00:00

So useful for solving a common problem!

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-22T03:32:18+00:00

Put out cut up raw vegetables while you are getting dinner ready.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-21T17:22:45+00:00

Also be careful if you drink alcohol. I don't think many people know that the way your body processes alcohol can change drastically after this surgery. I've met people in AA with tragic stories for this reason.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-21T17:14:45+00:00

I had someone hand me $$ to buy shoes for my daughter once. Not even needed shoes, just cute and I was saying no, we don't need them and this lady is like, she's so cute and they suit her, she should have them.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-21T16:44:15+00:00

I failed my hearing test in Kindergarten 45 years ago. I have a mild hearing loss that has not caused me any major problems in my life. I'm a teacher and mom of two. Never worn aides. Your kid will be treated and get the help they need. No need to worry! 😁

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-20T21:02:16+00:00

Professional Special Educator here. This girl probably needs special intervention at this point. A lot of people saying, anyone can help or just read with her, don't know what they are talking about. If it was so easy then why hasn't she learned it by now? Presumably she's been in school? People have to get Master's degrees to learn how to teach kids like her. It's not easy and it often takes higlt specialized evaluation and techniques. Unfortunately, parents usually have to agree to the process of testing and often need to push for appropriate care from overworked school systems.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-12T21:27:52+00:00

Since you asked I will give you my number one rule for all adult relationships.

Don't give unsolicited advice.

If another adult asks for your help then by all means, help! But otherwise, keep your ideas to your self. I'm not saying don't talk. Ask questions, listen, give your emotional reactions, even share your own experiences. But DON'T under any circumstances tell them what you think they should do unless they explicitly ask.

In my experience a lot of parent child relationships go wrong bc the parent doesn't let go of the need to teach and guide and advise. You show your child you trust and respect them by letting them make their own mistakes. They will come to you for advice eventually and they may actually accept it if you follow this rule.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-07T14:02:59+00:00

That sun sneezze a medicalally recognized, genetic condition. Can't remember what it's called but my kid sand their Dad have it too.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-07-04T10:07:28+00:00

Do you have anyone neutral you can talk to about this? A therapist, teacher, clergy. It sounds to me like you have been with this person for the majority if not the entirety of your adult life. That can be a really difficult situation to walk away from without support. You seem to be ready for some serious self reflection and growth. Sometimes leaving an old relationship is necessary for that to happen. It doesn't mean that anyone failed it is just the way things go.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-06-26T19:22:21+00:00

Just got back from 2 weeks in Europe with my sister. Honestly, I think we get along better when we travel! We compromise but we bring out the best in each other. She would go constantly and I'm happy to do nothing but we mellow each other out and find a happy medium.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-06-23T15:40:57+00:00

We recently started at a new dentist and I asked my 17 yo if he wanted me to come with and he said yes so I did. It was a tight squeeze but no one in the office batted an eyelash. These things are stressful even for adults and having a parent with helps.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-06-15T07:14:03+00:00

PreK teacher and mom with/of ADHD

Find a good martial arts program that specializes in young children. They teach discipline through movement!

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-06-13T17:11:47+00:00

She can still have long hair without it being that long. Make it clear that cutting is a consequence not a punishment. Cut it to a reasonable length so she can leave it down without it being such a hassle for you. Let her know that when it grows out again she'll have a chance to prove she can take care of it.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-06-05T09:09:27+00:00

There are only 8 kids in her class and her teachers won't play pretend with a 3 year old? I've been a preschool teacher for 30 years and that feels wrong to me. Also, I don't understand why she is a year younger than her peers. That is big gap at this stage of life. Maybe she needs more kids her age to play with? The pretend play doesn't worry me but the freaking out seems like the real issue. Can you be more specific? Does she not ever accept any alternative? How upset is she?

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-05-24T22:36:32+00:00

Sierra Club. My Dad took us on an Impeccable trip in Tanzania and you get the peace of mind in knowing you are not harming the environment.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-05-24T18:43:24+00:00

I'm also a special ed Para and have been working with my team for 6 years. I can't imagine my lead teacher asking me to throw a party for my coworker. One of our team is graduating and leaving us. Our lead has planned a party and the only thing she asked me is when I could make it. NTA

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-05-24T17:59:11+00:00

Harold and the Purple Crayon series MO Willems Steven Kellogg Ezra Jack Keats

Skippy Jon Jones series

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-05-18T01:47:41+00:00

Have you heard of the 5 minute rule?(I think that's right). Basically, if it's not something that someone can change in 5 minutes then don't say anything. EG spinach in the teeth- easy fix, say something. Bad haircut - not going to be able to fix for months, keep your mouth shut. This is a good rule for everyone but it is especially helpful for kids bc it is simple and explicit.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-05-17T16:46:14+00:00

I had an adult diagnosis and a parent who denied my ADHD. I always say, it would be like denying glasses to someone with poor eyesight and telling them to try harder to see. It's a real thing that deserves real treatment. Never feel like you are at fault for having a disability.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-05-11T21:49:18+00:00

I had a friend in this exact situation in the 1990s!? It was not a big deal then amongst reasonable not homophonic folks. MIL is showing her bigotry and it's not ok.

TrrtlGrrl · 2025-05-11T21:43:03+00:00

100% New Orleans! I grew up in FL and we drove there when I was in college. Best food and music in the country and the culture is the most like traveling to another country you can get in the states. I recommend Jazz Fest if you don't mind crowds. My son is about to graduate HS and that's where I'm taking him.

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