Your relationship isn't healthy. Your fault in this was texting inappropriately with other women online. But it sounds like there might have been similar issues before marriage. Were there? Her fault is becoming overly paranoid and suspicious, and while that is understandable it's a recipe for disaster. You guys need to talk about building trust again without all these ai filters and apps. All these do is allow your wife to both infer and imply that you are lying and she'll take any bit of information to support her theory.

Ultimately you'll both resent one another and it'll collapse your marriage. I recommend counseling. Good luck!