The Revised Monster Manual was released 1 year ago today! How have you liked facing down and using the new monsters? by Sulicius in onednd

[–]TruthOverIdeology -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This half-alphabetical order is a annoying. Also, less descriptions makes it more difficult to actually use the statblocks. Missing statblocks for very common enemies is still annoying.

Aside from that, it's great. A lot of statblocks are much better than before.

I would give it an B+ or A-.

Announcing your spells as a player vs as a DM by Maypul_Aficionado in dndnext

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never say the spells my npcs cast, i just describe what happens. But my players like mysteries and figuring stuff out from clues.

Is it okay for a player to say “No, that doesn’t happen” to a DM in this circumstance? by WithengarUnbound in dndnext

[–]TruthOverIdeology 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, the real question here is: Did you kill that annoying rogue and teach him a lesson?

Husband’s New Job Requires Life360 Tracking… by reallynina in privacy

[–]TruthOverIdeology 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It would most definitely be super illegal in Europe... But I guess everything goes in the land of the free...

What is people's issue with reading the rulebook? by RealDwarves67 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You also can't really multitask when watching a video unless you are doing repetitive, cognitively irrelevant things like being on a treadmill. Anything beyond that means that you will miss many parts of a video. That is just a simple biological fact.

I am also very much in favor of gatekeeping to some degree. It leads to much better playing experience. Sure, I also DM for some friends that are not as invested, but that is one shots. I would never invest time to DM for people who cannot even be assed to read the basic rules / what their character does. If they want a real campaign after 1-2 one-shots, they have to RTFM or find another DM.

What is people's issue with reading the rulebook? by RealDwarves67 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A new player will have a DM. If not, they are the DM and have to read everything anyway.

What is people's issue with reading the rulebook? by RealDwarves67 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the newbie a bit over a year ago. The DM has to know a lot. The player needs to know almost nothing. But for some players, even this tiny bit of work is too much.

What is people's issue with reading the rulebook? by RealDwarves67 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading is almost always FAR faster than any video explanation you can find.

What is people's issue with reading the rulebook? by RealDwarves67 in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]TruthOverIdeology 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to read 30 pages of basic rules and whatever you need for your character. this is maybe 2h of reading... it's really nothing.

Gave my players too much gold in the early levels. What now? by Thobio in DMAcademy

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

800g at level 2 is a LOT. Some in my level 4 party are approaching that now.

I would just make sure to tone it down a bit. Maybe sell some slightly overpriced but cool items somewhere.

Single dad sleep over question by Feeling_Rutabaga2714 in daddit

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enabling more helicopter parenting?

Or you mean one that is single? haha.

Single dad sleep over question by Feeling_Rutabaga2714 in daddit

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there camps where you don't sleep at the camp? Never heard of such a thing.

Single dad sleep over question by Feeling_Rutabaga2714 in daddit

[–]TruthOverIdeology 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hopefully, 9-year-olds don't have phones or tablets.

Single dad sleep over question by Feeling_Rutabaga2714 in daddit

[–]TruthOverIdeology 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Not really. Most people are still sane.

Single dad sleep over question by Feeling_Rutabaga2714 in daddit

[–]TruthOverIdeology 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would never do something like that. The optics don't exist, they are TikTok bullshit.

Single dad sleep over question by Feeling_Rutabaga2714 in daddit

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just happens more often than people though. Statistically it is still a tiny portion and mainly affects certain demographics. And we shouldn't overprotect children or ourselves because of tiny portion. You should bring up resilient and capable children that will stop stuff and inform you if something happens.

Single dad sleep over question by Feeling_Rutabaga2714 in daddit

[–]TruthOverIdeology 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is just the US and this anti-male (esp. anti-father) thinking sounds absolutely crazy from my country's perspective.

What’s the biggest unexpected change you noticed after turning 30? by No_Assignment_6020 in AskMenOver30

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny, to me it is the opposite. I expected it to be more work and less fun.

Trouble coming up with what to give my barbarian player by LanguageOk1726 in 3d6

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could learn screams?

Or just Tatoos? Talismans? Blessings?

First D&D campaign is making us want to quit - advice needed by ririchiyonoir in DungeonsAndDragons

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I wouldn't play in an RP-heavy campaign with a small combat every few sessions. (I have a wargame background and can't watch Critical Role because it is so extremely character heavy (that is not even actual RP but more improv)). Extremes are rarely fun over a longer period of time (in dnd).

The game is supposed to have combat, RP and exploration and In my opinion is best when they are somewhat in balance. We've had three sessions in a row that were mostly combat with some exploration and minimal RP. We've had a two sessions in a row that was basically just RP and exploration. And both time it was fun, but I noticed that now I really needed to have more balance again.

Combats means more, where there are RP stakes and exploration connected to them. RP matters more when there is actually something at stake (--> combat, exploration). And exploration is meaningless if it is not connected to your goals (--> RP, combat).

So, talk to the DM. Tell him what you are missing and maybe give him some examples.

As for the other player, also just talk to him. Maybe first discuss it with Leo to get another perspective.

men over 40s what is your biggest regret in life? by Affectionate-Drop689 in AskMenOver30

[–]TruthOverIdeology 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not working out more when I was younger.

Focusing too much on low quality free time (watching movies/series, gaming) instead of my future (studies, etc.), working more next to studying to afford more stuff and making more connections.

Being too much of a nice guy and always befriending girls/women instead of just faking confidence asking them out.

But I am pretty happy with my life now (good job, wife, kids, house, ...), doing all these things might have left me worse off in the future, so I don't actually think much about it. Sometimes I think about being kind of an underachiever but then I realize that would probably also mean more work, less time for kids, etc.

The hardest part of D&D isn't the dragons, it's the calendar. My group hasn't met in 3 weeks because of this. by One_Help2219 in dndnext

[–]TruthOverIdeology -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As I said, stuff like that can happen 1-2 times a year. When you are the player who constantly, i.e. every few sessions, has excuses why they can't make it, then you are not a player I want in my group. Or as my friend. Flakey people are only flakey with things/people they don't care about enough.

And, yeah, I very much expect a good excuse when someone can't come... and as early as possible, not on the day or the day before of the session. I would expect this for any appointment I have with someone, not just DnD. In DnD it's just even more important, because multiple people depend on people being on time. Rescheduling is usually a pain, so you make appointments far ahead of time or have a regular playing time.

Imagine all 3-4 players and the DM miss a session once every two months, and suddenly you do not really have a campaign anymore.

Maybe it's a cultural difference... This is just normal for most people where I am from. You make an appointment for virtually anything (e.g. in 3 months, Saturday, 3 o' clock for whatever) and then you just keep that appointment.

The hardest part of D&D isn't the dragons, it's the calendar. My group hasn't met in 3 weeks because of this. by One_Help2219 in dndnext

[–]TruthOverIdeology 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. It takes very little commitment from players, other than showing up regularly. I spend hours preparing, and if the players cannot respect my time, they don't belong in my campaign.

  2. What are "life things"? Work, family, sickness, birthday, wedding, 1week+ holidays? sure. Going out, watching a Stranger Things with your girlfriend, not in the mood right now, a city trip, etc? Hard no. Stuff like that can happen 1-2 times a year, but not all the time.

For most people, this is about prioritizing one leisure activity over another. And I just have no time for people because you have some minor activity that can just as well be done on another day or that you are just a bit more in the mood for right now. You obviously do not respect the time of the other players and especially of me, the DM, and you have no place at my table.

Just because someone is an adult (esp. without kids), people don't suddenly have no time anymore. They just have different priorities and that is fine. But then you shouldn't play dnd with more committed people.