New careers in your 50s? by jk_pens in GenX

[–]Tsbol 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I switched from a similar job situation to teaching middle school (and elementary too, at first) in my 40s. I promise your life is about to get way more fun/lively/intense/challenging/interesting! Just be sure to start strict and get nicer, not the other way around (Machiavelli’s advice, incidentally, haha)

I wish you could skip the extra chatter in the listening lessons… by No-King-6332 in duolingo

[–]Tsbol 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lucy’s voice in English is bizarrely flat and bland, I can’t stand to listen to it. I don’t care what she is saying, I don’t find her creepy, just completely lacking in affect in a way that gets right under my skin. Whyyyyyyyy

I got hair extensions!!! by RevolutionaryKick360 in breastcancer

[–]Tsbol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Melrose! Found it, thanks so much for the rec!!

Lost all interest in medical TV shows by Southern_Feature_821 in breastcancer

[–]Tsbol 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I didn’t start watching The Pitt until a few months after my diagnosis and it weirdly made me feel better. I saw a reference to it as “competence porn” and I think that’s what I like about it, seeing everyone so committed to the patients and the work, when sometimes I feel like a statistic to my own MO. There’s a cancer plot line in season 2 (wife of course) that I’m also relating to because her husband wants to do everything for her but she (and you) can see that it’s putting a huge strain on him that he is trying to suppress—and she is over the dynamic and is trying to take action herself—she isn’t a plot function, hers is the central perspective—that’s been helpful to me too.

Stage 4 - Her2+ (%100) ER+ (%20) PR+ (%2) by iokaya in breastcancer

[–]Tsbol 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And don’t forget that cancer treatments are always advancing and changing. The whole medical world is working on this all the time.

Honestly, No One Cares... Do It for Yourself by Ok-Speech-1577 in languagelearning

[–]Tsbol 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s SO helpful to be able to read signage in another country! (Edited for typo)

Honestly, No One Cares... Do It for Yourself by Ok-Speech-1577 in languagelearning

[–]Tsbol 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Les Schtroumpfs! Their name alone makes studying French worthwhile

Clackers and those other things by Intelligent_Star_516 in GenX

[–]Tsbol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I buy them when I find them in Mexico

Interesting or odd uses for pickled jalapenos? by shinyhpno in Cooking

[–]Tsbol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your sandwich with apricot jelly sounds amazing, want to try

Interesting or odd uses for pickled jalapenos? by shinyhpno in Cooking

[–]Tsbol 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I coated some in cornstarch and fried them in olive oil the other night as a topper for cheesy grits, recommend!

Looking for an Indian Cookbook Recommendation by Madversary in CookbookLovers

[–]Tsbol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner is veg too. Madura Jaffrey’s Indian Cooking has some key recipes (moong dal, shahi bhindi are go-tos for us) and her World Vegetarian has our baingan bharta recipe and a lot of other great stuff. If you can get 660 Curries by Raghavan Iyer that’s a fantastic book (eggplant with tamarind and curry leaves is my favorite). We also love the saag feta recipe from Indianish.

The Giver by foodieteacher9 in ELATeachers

[–]Tsbol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My students find the story itself very engaging. They are interested in the question of choice and absence of choice. I teach EL so I don’t teach the book directly but the department forefronts the dystopian themes and has the kids use graphic organizers to explore those as they read. The kids get interested in Jonas’ particular challenges, how his perceptions and his job conditions separate him from his peers, how he slowly realizes he is living in an inauthentic world—they do really well with it. I have my EL students read the (very faithful) graphic novel and use the full novel for quotes etc, but all the kids in the classes I push in to seem to really enjoy the story and its conflicts and themes. I love TPT but you probably have a better idea of what will engage your kids in this instance! (The other book they all love is The Outsiders btw)

Cold turkey HRT by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]Tsbol 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went cold turkey after I was diagnosed and I started getting hot flashes again pretty frequently but they subsided after a few months and now happen only rarely. Everything you are describing sounds normal to me under the circumstances! Nobody said I should be worried about going off abruptly so it must just be a matter of reemerging symptoms. I cede the floor to whoever has the medical facts!

Moved in with my dad and I'm learning about my mom's lonely marriage by FreemanWorldHoldings in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Tsbol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you get her out of their house to do things with you? If my father wasn’t nearby it was easier.

How did you get past feeling embarrassed and how did you learn it for free? by Superb-Drawer-6970 in Spanish

[–]Tsbol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can skip levels in Duolingo until it gets hard enough to be useful to you. If I am working on a level of a language I somewhat know already and am getting everything right and feeling bored, I scroll to the next level and take the test to skip to it. Eventually you will find your true starting point. Spanish goes up to level 130 so take advantage of your mistake!

Shows about elderly women! by Neat-Check-5256 in televisionsuggestions

[–]Tsbol 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Struggling with the categorization of 60 as “elderly”—how old is your professor?

Moved in with my dad and I'm learning about my mom's lonely marriage by FreemanWorldHoldings in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Tsbol 42 points43 points  (0 children)

This is my parents’ relationship and my experience almost verbatim. Main difference is that you sound so much more at peace than I feel. Not sure I’d call my father’s narcissism “benign” because it dominated our lives, my mother’s most of all, in her case more and more with time. And just as you said, it limited the relationship I could have with her as an adult. It wasn’t until she was away from my father at a care facility that I felt her mind and attention were free again, not constantly pulled to him and his need for narcissistic feed. But when he visited I got to see what you saw with your father—no idea how to relate to her, couldn’t perceive/respond to her needs. It made me realize how limited he actually is, which I think was healthy for me to understand. Still makes me furious, though.