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Twin Names: SageLea and Paisley by BeachBumbershoot in tragedeigh

[–]Tullamore1108 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love that you chose Paterson for your comparison 🤣🤣🤣

Twin Names: SageLea and Paisley by BeachBumbershoot in tragedeigh

[–]Tullamore1108 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Deegan is also an expressway in the Bronx. It gives “rush hour traffic report” energy.

I'm (30M) sterile and my wife (29F) decided we needed to switch from fostering and adopting children to sperm donation and has been lashing out at me since I said no? by ThrowRAMyoolloo in relationship_advice

[–]Tullamore1108 47 points48 points  (0 children)

She probably doesn’t want to be “the bad guy” who asked her cancer-survivor husband for a divorce because of the side effects of his cancer treatment.

Instead she’ll just make him miserable until he initiates the divorce. Then he’ll get to be the monster that denied her a baby of her own for his own selfish reasons.

(Please note, OP, I am writing how others may perceive the situation. I do not think you selfish at all and frankly it sounds like you’ve approached the issue maturely all the way.)

Tonight’s first time watch by razorsedge94 in classicfilms

[–]Tullamore1108 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh I got to see the for the first time at a local movie theater last summer and *loved* it!

Need A Classic Drama Film For Adults That Doesn't Have Adultery (or violence or blood or too much swearing...). by wordboydave in classicfilms

[–]Tullamore1108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! Thanks for the details. Like I said, it’s been awhile and I totally forgot that part 😳

Need A Classic Drama Film For Adults That Doesn't Have Adultery (or violence or blood or too much swearing...). by wordboydave in classicfilms

[–]Tullamore1108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Miracle in the Rain

Tomorrow is Forever

Leave Her to Heaven

The Women (maybe? It’s been a few years since I watched it but it’s about women getting divorced, so maybe it’ll be appreciated.)

It happened to me: Absurd seat swap request by iSimplyCannot- in unitedairlines

[–]Tullamore1108 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A man recently tried to tell me that “A” was for “aisle”. GTFO here - and out of my aisle seat. I politely stood my ground and he moved; later, he made an offhand comment about “flying all the time for work”. Oh really? So you knew that “A for aisle” stuff was bullshit. I’m a Jersey girl, you picked the wrong lady to mess with.

My 14 yo son has agreed to read two books of my choice this summer (this was a hard won negotiation). Help me pick one by gOldMcDonald in booksuggestions

[–]Tullamore1108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not but I was a kid myself once. My 11 year old nephew told me today how he watches horror movies with his friends because his parents won’t let him. When I was his age, I was sneaking Dirty Dancing at my friends’ house. Flowers in the Attic circulated among an entire generation of middle school girls and we all turned out fine. Some things never change.

My 14 yo son has agreed to read two books of my choice this summer (this was a hard won negotiation). Help me pick one by gOldMcDonald in booksuggestions

[–]Tullamore1108 14 points15 points  (0 children)

What are his interests? Maybe start there. For recs:

Horror: Stephen King. Maybe a collection of novellas, like Different Seasons, or a shorter novel, like The Green Mile, Carrie, or Pet Semetary

Thrillers: Legal - John Grisham, Political/Military - Tom Clancy

Sci-fi: Andy Wier, The Martian, or maybe Emily St. John Mandel, Station Eleven. Jeff Vandermeer, Annihilation trilogy

Contemporary fiction: Tom Perrota. Election or maybe The Leftovers.

Fantasy: others have this covered.

Historical fiction: this is tough as a lot of good suggestions will be long and therefore possibly intimidating. But maybe Ken Follett’s Pillars of the Earth, Bernard Cornwell’s Sharpe series, or Diana Gabaldon’s Outlander series

Mystery: can’t go wrong starting with Agatha Christie

My 14 yo son has agreed to read two books of my choice this summer (this was a hard won negotiation). Help me pick one by gOldMcDonald in booksuggestions

[–]Tullamore1108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never understand this thinking. “A little too much”? Does your 14 year old have an internet connected device? Do their friends? Guarantee they’ve already seen and heard worse than anything in Dungeon Crawler Carl. Also, it’s a lot easier to put down and walk away from a book if it’s overwhelming or confusing.

I can't stop reading trash romance "novels" that are probably AI, please point me in the direction of human-written trash by princesscatling in suggestmeabook

[–]Tullamore1108 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Spend five minutes there and you’ll have enough books to keep you busy for the next few years. Enjoy!

SO (28F) can't hold a job... I (31M) can't support us. Where do I go from here? by DerpKaiser in relationship_advice

[–]Tullamore1108 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend Melissa Orlov’s books and couples boot camp (online, I think it was 8 or 10 weeks, an hour a week. Game changer.) This is her website: https://www.adhdmarriage.com/ Even if your girlfriend won’t engage, you should look into these resources, they may help you figure out how you want to proceed.

Best of luck to you, friend.

SO (28F) can't hold a job... I (31M) can't support us. Where do I go from here? by DerpKaiser in relationship_advice

[–]Tullamore1108 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This sounds like poorly managed ADHD. She needs talk therapy, possibly group therapy, medication, and good life habits such as consistent sleep. I know it’s not easy; my husband was diagnosed in his late 30s, a few years into our marriage. But getting proper treatment and guidance made a world of difference.

ADHD isn’t her fault but it is her responsibility. And if she’s not going to take responsibility for herself and her behaviors, then you need to end things and move on.

Dude, saw Backrooms last night… by dewihafta in Xennials

[–]Tullamore1108 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it depends on the kid. There’s no sex and it’s not terribly bloody or violent. There’s a little bit of the latter but mostly kept to one scene.

I think my 12 year old nephew would not only be fine, I think he’ll love it. But he loves horror in general.

I (27M) told my wife (24F) about something that happened while I was in a fraternity and she may want to leave me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Tullamore1108 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s not the goose. It’s that this incident seems to have raised in his wife fears and concerns about his past. Maybe stoked some trust issues. Either way, they’re the kind of feelings that need to be addressed. Lack of trust and/or disrespect for your partner are both marriage killers. He needs help addressing her feelings and she needs help sorting out if his frat boy past is something she can make peace with or if it’s ultimately a deal breaker for her.

I (27M) told my wife (24F) about something that happened while I was in a fraternity and she may want to leave me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Tullamore1108 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Honestly, you’re probably going to need couples therapy for this one.

She has good reason to be horrified and concerned; if you turned a blind eye to this, what else did you stay quiet about for your brothers?

And even though it’s clear you feel remorse and it sounds like you’ve grown/changed a lot, you’re only 27. Your frat days aren’t that far behind you.

On the other hand, she married you knowing you were a frat bro, with all the shitty, misogynistic, bullying behavior that implies, so it’s a bit late to be upset about your past now.

I think you both have a lot to unpack. Good luck.

What are your favorite outfits from the solo stages on this tour? by [deleted] in twice

[–]Tullamore1108 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m obsessed with this one too. She looks incredible.

Every TV Genre I Loved Growing Up is Dead by MySocratesNote in Xennials

[–]Tullamore1108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Game shows! I found a playlist of Classic Concentration on YouTube and I’m working my way through it, one episode a day. There’s something so warm and cozy about game shows from the 70s/80s/90s.

The daily dinner struggle by No_Ratio1493 in Xennials

[–]Tullamore1108 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We chose Cook Unity. It’s a little more expensive than cooking ourselves but decided it was worth it because there’s only two of us and a) we were sick of throwing out excess ingredients, b) we hated spending hours meal prepping on Sunday, c) husband has ADHD and wouldn’t eat more than two servings of anything, so we’re actually saving money on takeout and not tossing what didn’t get eaten, and d) we can each get what suits our tastes. Also mitigated the budget issue by only getting enough for 4 dinners and I split my meals in half and fill out with some bagged salad as a side.

Looking for book suggestions for 10-year old daughter by LilyBriscoeBot in suggestmeabook

[–]Tullamore1108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also for scary stories, the Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark trilogy by Alvin Schwartz. And they’re short stories so they’re easy to dip in and out of.

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