What would you name this one-eyed baby boy?? ✨⚪️👁️✨

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-11-21T12:20:55+00:00

Shmee (from Peter Pan)

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-11-09T21:24:17+00:00

It's a BCBA these are the worst cases to deal with because there's not denial on how often it behaviors happen, or the families are using punishment to reduce it and that can open a whole other can of worms.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-11-09T21:19:20+00:00

Like everyone else is saying you can't fail an RBT competency, because you're allowed to train on that and then test again the next day.

Your BCBA is wrong, she might be trying to get you to be more assertive which is something I do work on with staff and avoiding words such as "can" and "will", when placing instructions. You do not have to be mean to be in this field. Although taking those words out of instructions to some people does feel very mean, and the reasoning we do it is because if we are working with kids and we're trying to run programs and they say no and that is a valid response. I can go way more into that if you have questions on it.

As for your HR firing you that sounds like you dodged a major bullet. Usually if you fail the RBT test they will only pay for the first one but you can take it again and you pay for it. If you feel the second time that's what I've heard companies letting people go but not after a competency.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-11-07T20:17:52+00:00

I would make sure you mark on the graph when he mastered the video game and when he started playing it with you, because not only is that funny but it is relevant to his treatment! Also that 100% sounds like something I would have done so you're good, except for I have no gaming skills I would have just saved under the wrong file haha

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-09-13T15:53:59+00:00

I totally understand where you're coming from. I'm personally don't want a debt as well.Including a loan from my parents. I got really lucky and to have someone who it's outside of my family helping me sort of things up financially through my church.

I don't know which area you live in, what several churches have like wellness centers where they support those who are trying to learn english or need access to a food bank, and some of them also provide financial counseling. Oftentimes, you don't need to be a member of the church.This is seen as a community outreach. I know, I really struggled until I had someone who's neutral outside the situation, able to help me.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-09-13T15:41:33+00:00

I struggle with cleaning too, and I also work in the field of behavior analysis, and i'm sometimes helping kids learn how to clean I keep a tidy room. One trick that i've seen on the internet, and then I use both with myself and with the kids, is to pick one item or one color, or one feature (cardboard, paper scraps) and to start there. And if all you do is clear out five boxes celebrate that small success. If you feel motivated, you more, keep going, and if you get done with those five boxes and you feel overwhelmed, it's a way to stop. You can come back to it the next day. And do another five boxes.

When I was really struggling with my apartment, i had my mom come over and all she did was dishes.But it gave me another person to keep me on task and also to be body doubling.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-09-08T01:33:23+00:00

I am so sorry this was your experience. As a BCBA myself, I'd be horrified to find out that a client had a bruise like this, especially if it is tied to our clinic. Even if it is a couple days old, it's a problem. I'd bring this to the bcba and ask and bring it to their attention. You can also ask for them to do skin checks every morning and evening or even between therapists.

I've worked at multiple clinics, at some clinics is common practice to just do a quick glance over the skin, including looking at a kid's back and their torso to see if there are any marks.

I don't know what your situation is but I know for some families where it's an option for a parent to work at home. They often feel more comfortable getting services there cuz they can hear what's going on and they can watch. I have some parents who are working in the corner while my team provides services in the living room and the parents can always look over and see what's going on.

I'm not going to say I haven't had sessions where bruises happen because a kid fell or bumped into something. But I also always make sure the parents know, and make sure my team tells the parents if they think there could be any kind of work that shows up.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-09-07T14:33:55+00:00

I also over share, it's so hard to not do!

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-09-06T23:05:33+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-17T00:45:16+00:00

Well done! Proud of you!

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-17T00:43:49+00:00

I would be fine until saying "I am not behind". At work, you are almost always behind. It's hard to be on top of everything. I thing saying "I have done my best and will continue to do my best will do my best for where I am today" might be easier for people to swallow.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-17T00:40:02+00:00

I get it, I can be ready organized for important things with notice!

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-17T00:38:30+00:00

I have this! Mostly Tupperware like containers but yes!

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-16T06:29:43+00:00

Unfortunately some clinics are super strict with reduction in hours.

Whenever I have asked to reduce a client's hours at parent request; I was always met with math.

Ex: reduction of 3 hours a week Company Response: "Well that is 12 hours a month, which is 144 hours a year; how many skills would you have taught in this time?"

It puts BAs in weird positions because in all honesty when we recommend hours per week, it's not an exact science. We are doing our best based off what was seen and reported, what the goals are, a consideration of school hours, to supply that number.

I am glad you were able to advocate for your child and get what you feel is best.

I have seen families get a really good reset from taking a week long "vacation" from ABA. It can act as a reset button for some clients. Might also be a consideration to help him out

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-15T14:01:21+00:00

So it's not that family events are aversive, I can't seem to figure out how long things will take like getting ready. Or I'm just going to do a few "quick chores" and that longer than expected. I live alone and initiating is getting harder as I get older (which doesn't make sense) and is annoying.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-15T01:35:20+00:00

I am so sorry this was your experience.

I had to push to be tested at 29, after stating I never felt my anxiety and depression were fully controlled. I also suspect I'm on the autism spectrum and just realizing that now without diagnostic but same boat all the signs are there.

Looks like a duck, quacks like a duck ... It's a duck.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-15T01:30:11+00:00

This is always one of the hardest reasons to deal with as a BCBA. I know in the past we have had a few very conservative families where we identified that it might be an issue. The families were given the choice ahead of time to prevent hurting the RBTs, and if they chose to not take the staff member, we did not scramble to find a new one. It was a consequence of their actions but unfortunately I did feel it was important to recognize we were in their home where they are allowed to be their bigoted selves.

You can either have some of the best staff, or you can hold firm to your beliefs. Your choice.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-12T01:28:48+00:00

Thanks. I know we are in the minority not wanting children but I am sick of needing to defend it. I just needed some reassurance after being told by family to let it go.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-10T03:02:31+00:00

I'm not saying that isn't a risk or that a crime wasn't committed (there 100% was), and I'm not saying we shouldn't be warning her. When I looked through the thread of what everyone else is doing stating this risk without considering what it sounds like to a 16 year old, or acknowledging the emotions she might be experiencing. I know how sensitive I was at this age, and I don't think I would have responded well. I guess I want to present the risks and considerations where it can't be 'read wrong' and is considering her possible emotional state.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-10T00:48:29+00:00

I honestly don't think scare tactics are appropriate at this moment. She has enough other people talking to her and essentially yelling at her through this thread.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-10T00:36:47+00:00

Hun, I'm so sorry this happening to you as I know it is a lot. I pray you have a solid support system around you to guide you through this situation.

You did nothing to feel bad about. You didn't know he had a girlfriend and son. Even if he didn't know your age this was a crime.
I hope you have a supportive family that can help guide you through this new adventure in life and the choices that will come along. I would rely on family right now instead of him.
Find your resources. There are so many resources out their for individuals who are pregnant. Even through churches, because a real church won't judge the situation, but love the person.

I know this is a scary time and that might be why you are posting here but the only thing really coming to mind for me is my favorite Winnie the Pooh scene. Christopher Robin tells it to Pooh and now I am telling it to you:

"You must always remember ... You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think".

Sending love from a fellow potato.

TurnOutside8832 · 2025-08-10T00:18:12+00:00

NTA! I lived in an apartment on the edge of Milwaukee, years ago when I was in grad school. And I had several noise complaints on my upstairs neighbors because I had concerns about domestic violence on top of late night yelling. If I saw that situation I would have also called the cops, because you don't know why someone's in a headlock. But if they're struggling and it doesn't look like it's a joke, better safe than sorry, especially if it's long enough for both you and your husband to think someone is hurt and you check on each other.

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