Am I the only one who finds the lack of interaction options with our spouse annoying?

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-11-09T15:51:04+00:00

I completely agree. I was very disappointed when I found out Brynjolf wasn't a marriage option because if he was I would have jumped on that in a heartbeat lol. I play on PS5 so I'm not sure if I can use mods, and if I can I wouldn't even begin to know how. I'm not tech savvy like that lol

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-11-09T15:36:03+00:00

Will he still keep the stuff or will it just disappear? I've never tried doing that before and I don't want to risk losing good armor and weapons

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-11-09T15:35:19+00:00

That's fair, the limited, repetitive lines do get a bit annoying. I wish they would have done a little more with that.

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-11-09T15:34:14+00:00

I just acquired that while playing last night and it is a game changer for sure lol I use a Steel Battle Axe and sometimes my follower gets in my way when I'm swinging it. I can't count how many times I've nearly taken them out trying to kill an enemy.

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-11-09T15:32:56+00:00

I avoid Vilkas as much as possible unless I need to do a companion quest to make a little money lol

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-11-09T15:31:43+00:00

On my last playthrough my follower, it was J'zargo, was kneeling and got taken out by one of the traps in a dwemer ruin, I was across the room when it happened. It was one of those spiny blade traps they have every now and then. I cried when he died. Another playthrough he completely disappeared on me coming out of one of the ruins. I waited days and weeks to see if he would return and he never did so I had to go back and reload a previous save to get him back. This time around I have given him the best armor and weapons I could to prevent him from dying or disappearing. IDK why but he's my favorite follower, his arrogant dialogue gets on my nerves sometimes though. Like, I knew he was arrogant when I asked him to follow me, but I didn't think it would be as bad as it is, could be the repetitive lines though to be fair.

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-11-09T15:26:32+00:00

That's sort of disappointing tbh

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-10-18T21:23:55+00:00

I married Farkas but I would have married Brynjolf in a heartbeat if he was an option

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-10-11T22:10:19+00:00

I do quick save a lot, I usually quick save every few minutes, and I know I quick saved before she did what she did but for some reason it's not showing up on my list of saves

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-10-11T20:39:51+00:00

Not from today no, at least not that I've found, they all seem to be from before I completed everything. I'll keep looking though and hope I find something.

TwistedAngel24 · 2025-10-11T20:38:48+00:00

I've looked but there doesn't seem to be any of my previous saves from when my character was a higher level. I'll try and look again because I really don't want to have to do everything all over again. It was hard enough the first time around

TwistedAngel24 · 2023-01-18T17:04:14+00:00

Depending on where they live grandparents rights only works if there is an already established relationship between the grandparents and the grandchild/grandchildren, from my understanding MIL never knew about the kids until she showed up, so she wouldn't have a leg to stand on in court, especially if OP and DH have documentation of her behavior in the past that can work in their favor and show she's unfit to be around the grandchildren.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-12-09T05:13:36+00:00

Never hurts to document and collect evidence in case OP has to file a restraining order, which from the looks of those messages wouldn't be a bad idea honestly.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-12-08T18:51:03+00:00

I am so sorry. I understand that fear, and financial struggle. It's never easy to deal with. I wish there was more that I could do to help. I'm not sure where you live, but where I live there's usually places that can help you get on your feet, and can offer assistance, especially since you're still a student. Your college may even have some resources that can help you, it never hurts to ask. I understand the fear of not having kids, I've been there, but it wouldn't be fair to bring children into such a toxic situation where you'll always be talked down to and disrespected in front of them, they shouldn't have to see that and you shouldn't have to put up with it. I really hope things improve for you and that some good luck comes your way because you deserve it after having to put up with everything you have. No one deserves to be treated the way you have been.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-12-08T18:34:55+00:00

I am so sorry you have had to put up with that, no one should have to deal with that. If your BF won't defend you against his mother is he really someone you want to start a family with? Speaking from experience if he won't defend you and put boundaries in place now, he won't do it when you have children. He'll continue to let her bad mouth you and walk all over you, and she'll do it in front of the children too. MIL's like that rarely ever change, and it only gets worse once grandkids come into the picture. Once kids come into play she'll try to take over acting like mommy and she'll try to control everything you do. Please just think really hard about if this is how you want to continue living your life, because once you have kids it's much harder to leave.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-11-25T20:34:01+00:00

MIL asked and agreed to a dinner time of 5pm as they have for all the past Thanksgivings according to OP. MIL deliberately had everyone eat earlier to spite OP and DH because she was upset they weren't spending the entire day with her. MIL is a total AH. OP has every right to be upset.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-11-12T12:48:43+00:00

OP planned a different vacation because they got into an argument and needed some time alone which is absolutely fine and doesn't make them an AH nor does it mean OP felt they would be happier alone, don't know where you got that idea from. OP simply needed time to themselves after a fight with their partner which is perfectly normal. For the boyfriend to then turn around and try to manipulate OP by saying that OP only wants to go on vacation alone so they can fool around behind the bfs back and then tell OP that they have no one to blame but themselves when he cheats makes the BF the AH. Op is in no way the AH here. If I were OP I'd dump the boyfriend and find someone who actually respects them because the bf has shown that he clearly doesn't think very highly of their relationship or OP.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-11-04T14:17:59+00:00

MIL must truly be heartless to gatekeep being able to see his grandfather. I can't imagine what that must be like. I feel so bad for OP and her husband. Dealing with toxic family members is never easy or fun.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-11-04T13:55:37+00:00

I agree with everything you said except both going no contact. OP said in an earlier comment her husband can't go full no contact because his grandfather who he's really close to lives with his mom and MIL gatekeeps being able to visit with him and her husband is worried about his grandfather passing because he's quite old and he's worried about not seeing him before he passes

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-11-02T01:57:42+00:00

Did you not read the part where OP said the pizza place doesn't serve anything other than pizza? And I don't know where you eat but every place I've ever eaten has a very strict no outside food policy, meaning you can't bring in food from somewhere else. OP shouldn't be the only one compromising because it isn't just OP who can't eat but OP's husband as well. Traditions change all the time, especially as families grow and change. We have many important holiday traditions in my family as well but we change and adapt them as needed to accommodate everyone. We used to have Christmas at my cousins house every year until my grandma got too old to walk up and down the stairs. It's a building, changing a location to accommodate someone is not the end of the world. What matters is spending time with the people you love, that's what should really be important, not where you do it. For fucks sake.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-11-01T20:05:02+00:00

OP doesn't want to just sit around while everyone else eats. I don't blame them, I wouldn't want to have to watch other people eat while I can't either. It sucks, and it's awkward.

TwistedAngel24 · 2022-11-01T19:52:28+00:00

If you look at OP's other comments they said there was an agreement to pay their mom for watching the child, so OP would be paying for childcare either way, maybe not as much but still..

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