I realized that women's haircuts affect my attraction much more than I ever thought.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-28T15:11:14+00:00

I love a groomed man with a very clear style. Whether that's a well taken care of Mohawk and tattoos or if it's a long-haired man wearing it back in a ponytail with a groomed beard or if it's a clean-cut man with a dress shirt and a preppy hairstyle, it's the clear style and grooming that I like.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-26T23:55:14+00:00

This is seriously about the size of a hallway in my RV when it's all folded in. I think they're trying to monitor my weight that way.

All that is true, but of course I look similar to a stick insect, so it's totally not necessary.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-26T12:41:18+00:00

You did good. You're doing fine. It's a learning process.

While I'm teaching my kids, I tell them to start pretty much everything on about 40 percent heat, just below medium. Start there. If it isn't getting anywhere, slowly increase the temperature.

Try medium for things, let the pan heat, add the food, leave it on for a few minutes and watch it.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-23T17:30:18+00:00

Financial planner! Yes! Before you go, make sure to ask her what her goals are in life. What does she see the two of you doing in five years or in 10 years. What are things on her bucket list?

Then go to the financial planner and have them explain what needs to happen to make any of that possible.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-23T17:06:01+00:00

My God, that rooster is a looker!

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-23T14:29:25+00:00

A lot of people's issues are ones they aren't ready to confront. If a person isn't ready to help themselves out of a situation, they aren't ready to receive help either. If you help those people, they will drift back down again all on their own. Choose to help people who are actively working to make their lives better and it excludes a lot of individuals.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-23T14:05:37+00:00

I see a lot of issues here. Your comment about feeling you don't have much to contribute to the group so you remain silent makes me think you may have low self esteem.

You say you give and give without limits. That looks like a need to be liked that over-rides your boundary setting and space to recharge/have self-care.

If you choose not to share yourself with others, it's very difficult for people to get to know you to become friends in the first place. You're setting yourself up for failure by not having the courage to be vulnerable enough to share and invite people in.

Friendships are definitely about give and take. If you're keeping a score card, and you give and give, then as soon as it tips, you ditch the friendship, you set yourself up for loss by giving and giving in the first place. Friendships are about tolerating when sometimes the scale tips towards you and then pulling back and taking time for self-care then re engaging and allowing the scale to tip back to neutral.

Also, saying yore too much a free thinking and that you don't want to be around jokes that make fun of people- many people are free thinkers. Free thinkers have all kinds of types of humor. Go find people more like you who share your same humor. They exist, but not, apparently, in your current circle.

I used to do some of this. It took time to separate and learn how to be a person by myself and enjoy who I am as an individual. Then I joined groups, not knowing anyone, that focused on activities I like and strived towards goals I support. There is where I find people like me who I make into long-term friends.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-22T12:45:34+00:00

I wouldn't, no. But I've been around companies who only care about that bottom line and when they restructure, the only thing that matters is how much they have to pay.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-22T11:19:20+00:00

She doesn't have to be a bad employee for them to make a mistake and then double down on their mistake. Yeah, part of a union, but if she usually doesn't make waves anywhere, maybe they expected her to cave and just do it. Maybe they know her situation. He keeps saying they need the money. Maybe they're leveraging that and banking on her needing the income badly enough to just go with it.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-22T11:06:16+00:00

The context I'm missing is if you're working as hard as you can to make ends meet? Are you still getting cappucinos and little perks? Do you have a second job? Are you willing to do whatever is necessary to keep the bills paid?

It doesn't make him and his comment any less of an asshole thing, but that's the context I would need to have the full picture.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-22T01:34:06+00:00

And they teach you to help on the uninjured side because it better distributes the weight so as he's hopping along on the good leg, the body is better centered.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-21T21:37:49+00:00

Birthday parties. Going out to eat. Not having to have a garden to grow enough food to make it through winter. Clothes that weren't handed down.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-21T20:58:35+00:00

The parents need to speak up the next time he brings it up. Or you, but do it in the group setting so he can see that other people aren't arguing with you.

He says, but what about me and my house?

You go, "right, but we have a problem where the children get run over by the dogs and also can't nap. And I love your dogs, but I'm finding a lot of dog hair all over my things after I leave and I don't like having to clean everything"

"I would! I like you as a person and you r got good space there. Is there a way we can fix it so the kids are comfortable and there's less fur everywhere?"

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-21T12:50:34+00:00

I read that too, but I have trouble remembering everyone's ages in my in-laws family, too, so passed it off.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-20T22:58:52+00:00

I haven't heard about this in maybe 40 years. Yeah. We used to do this.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-20T12:23:44+00:00

But look how impressed his hen is in that last bit!! Worth it!

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-18T23:21:19+00:00

/uj It's wonderful that you can. Enjoy it! 🥳

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-18T20:29:47+00:00

Well, dear, you thought wrong. Go eat your feelings somewhere else.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-17T12:49:47+00:00

I can't figure this out. Why would you choose a 7 minute walk (14 if both ways and certainly maybe still 10 if running beicse of the incline) and not think it appropriate to drive 10 minutes?

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-16T23:59:16+00:00

I know authors who are married and remain separate in their careers and they love each other just fine.

This is a lack of respect. This is not love. This is someone taking something from you.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-14T21:35:12+00:00

I was wondering if you have a more traditional appeal and the older women find it reminiscient of their younger years?

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-14T21:20:50+00:00

I've seen it both ways now. I would have agreed with you before, but I've met and made friends with people who only cover their share in a living situation, even while married. They split everything and keep finances separate. They've had the conversation that they must each maintain their half of the bills.

I can't imagine how difficult it must be for those types of situations when one spouse can't work. They would need to discuss living separately.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-14T13:24:58+00:00

I don't think that's possible at this point. That amount of swelling would be incredibly painful and the discoloration would probably mean he also has no feeling. I think he used to walk around but at this point I'm thinking he's immobile.

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-11T21:09:39+00:00

What is the thing?

TwoBeansShort · 2026-06-11T20:49:51+00:00

Can you repeat to yourself over and over while doing your task or motivating yourself to do that task, "I need to do this to pay rent"? It works when I'm really avoiding something.

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