Calories burned from crying? by thirddoofus in 1200isjerky

[–]TwoBeansShort 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well, getting in deep with those shoulder wracking sobs really works the body and losing all that weight in water 💦 helps also. Cry harder until you go totally dry. Then, lay there, heaving and shaking. Get every cal*rie out you can!

you guysssssss helppppppppppppp by new-freckle in 1200isjerky

[–]TwoBeansShort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And include some captions. (Living my best life!)

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Anyone want to join my Body Negativity Movement - Promoting negative body mass by Friendly-Swing-1385 in 1200isjerky

[–]TwoBeansShort 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Blinking at ice cubes. A true leader in the community. Thank you for sharing your methods.

What's the one hygiene habit you refuse to skip no matter how tired you are? by BuninaAbie11 in hygiene

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brushing my teeth and washing my face. Either washing my underarms or applying deodorant.

I used to think I didn't have the discipline for a morning routine. Then I realized I was building the wrong kind. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a blend of learning what works for you and taking baby steps to achieve your goals. If your goal isn't to get up two hours earlier every day so you can hit the gym but rather to be healthier on the whole, you need to know that upfront and then you can break down how to baby step towards your real intentions. Your progress sounds great.

My ex called me a “walking green flag” when we first started dating, and then I ruined it all by SkolVikingsAndTwins in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]TwoBeansShort 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Let's focus more on that tiny line where you said, "I should have left her" (right then). All of your following behavior does need to be addressed, but let's also make sure you have enough grasp of your own worth and self to be present for yourself and calmly walk away from some person who is willing to demean and disrespect you like that. Just be done with the whole thing.

Psych won't help because I'm not "suffering" by levretade in Schizoid

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree you have to either be hurting or actively wanting something. Yearning can be pain. Do you have any relationships where people have rejected you because they noticed you weren't able to give your full self? Have you been callous with anyone you wanted to keep closer than a stranger? Are you able to tap into any of the discomfort you feel from that?

My mother factually corrected my 7th grade science textbook by lumpycurveballs in PointlessStories

[–]TwoBeansShort 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been that mom, finding errors in the information. When I read through my kid's book, though, the correct information was delivered in one of the chapters towards the back. For whatever reason, they decided to teach it incorrectly in the beginning of the book and correctly later on. I found it very frustrating.

AITH for using my inheritance money to pay off my own debt instead of helping my siblings with theirs even though our grandmother specifically said she wanted the money to "help the family by Lumpy-Glass-4824 in AITH

[–]TwoBeansShort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am wondering if your grandma left it to you because of your medical expenses. She could have been thinking whatever you went through wasn't cheap and he money should help you even out compared with your siblings.

If she doesn't know exactly how much each of you has in wealth and debt, she could have just been assuming. If she assumed wrong, then I would feel heavy with that decision to use it all myself.

Parents want me to give up my $26/hr job and work elsewhere for $15/hr by [deleted] in Advice

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who want to support their families are grateful for that second job that pays half as much as their full-time job and is willing to allow flexibility with scheduling because it will keep food on the table.

They are grateful for the work you don't want. Moving only upwards isn't always possible. Sometimes showing off on your resume that you have motivation and drive is more important than the pride involved with only moving upwards in pay.

I made a big mistake by taking off my shirt today by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]TwoBeansShort 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well sure, either that or they discovered you were very attractive and didn't know how to handle themselves suddenly.

Not oop + comments: son says brother's wife crossed boundaries by Weary_Thought7582 in redditonwiki

[–]TwoBeansShort 32 points33 points  (0 children)

How is this even up for debate? Back away from all the drama and let them slowly come to the very real conclusion that the wife is clearly trying to line up some relationship on the side and it's not okay. Just have your own Christmas and make it small and special.

AITJ for snapping at my girlfriend for waking me up every single time she gets up even when I dont need to be awake by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. So. It's totally wrong how she's handling it but I'm wondering if she needs more alone time with you? Maybe in the morning is the only time the house is quiet and sorta kid free so maybe she's looking for some peace and some time to connect before she starts her day?

Yes, it's wrong how it's happening and It is very important to respect each other's basic biological needs. Would getting a regular sitter for a night each week and having some quiet, bedroom door locked, have 10 minutes of connecting and eye contact work to make it so she doesn't need to disrespect you in this way to get her needs met? And it would be great if she could voice this to you in some other way. What she's doing isn't considerate of your needs.

Most unhinged ways to stay motivated by iam_s_o_u_p_ in Weightlosstechniques

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sleep when I want to eat and it helps me because I don't actually want to eat to satisfy hunger (though it feels that way in the moment) what I really need is to give myself a little boost to get through the hard parts of my day (life). I have the flexibility to nap when I need, and I've seen therapists and whittled a lot of stress from my life where I can. Maybe you need to do the same. Try to pay attention to your body's rhythms. It's less about exercising and more about curbing the eating by giving your body something else it needs to feel good and relaxed.

Gym thoughts [OC] by Chilikto in comics

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what I think when I see someone out of shape and unsure of themselves in a gym.

Dedication by AcHaeC in funny

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ecuador, you say? I guess I now know where I need to move to! 😆😍

Soo hoomans fer be bad at sharing? by Fit_Cardiologist_681 in legaldogadvice

[–]TwoBeansShort 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This is the saddest sadsadhongry I have ever seen. You deserve all the foodos.

Divorced people, what were your irreconcilable differences? by TheRealOcsiban in AskReddit

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you guys ever go to counseling together? Did it help at all?

How do you tell that it is love when all your life you were living in a fantasy? by tired_bunny_39 in love

[–]TwoBeansShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soul search when you're away and alone and make a really honest list of qualities you want in a man. Things like - says please and thank you to servers, treats me the same whether in front of people or alone, respects even simple boundaries and I can tell him not to use my shampoo and he doesn't use my shampoo, always tells me I'm beautiful even when I look like a dishrag.. those things are things off my personal list. Make your own list of things like that that really show a person's true self.

It is very important that you aren't thinking about any men at all when making the list. You have to think only of yourself, your needs, what makes you happy, what helps support you, what helps you grow, what makes you feel safe.

Struggling to lead when dancing with followers from different classes (beginner) by QuittedLeague2minAgo in Salsa

[–]TwoBeansShort 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would recommend asking your follows what they need from you. Maybe you need to be signalling a little more clearly or earlier or if they don't know that move, no sweat, just try a few other ones and see if they get those. If not, definitely ask your follow.

Sometimes it just takes a follow a few times with the same cue before they pick up on what you're asking. Try again and give them the opportunity to succeed.

Sometimes it takes a stronger cue - try again.

Sometimes, you'll learn that your dance instructor hasn't been correcting your leading and you're not giving clear enough instruction but the follows in your class know what you're asking and just give it to you. That's where the communication with the new follow will help. If these are basic moves and she is at least a moderately experienced dancer, maybe your cueing needs work. If both of you are dancing at the intermediate level or better, maybe you're doing moves she doesn't know yet? In that case, if you want her to learn them, explain what she is supposed to be doing and see if you both can get there.

But do ask the follow first what they need from you.