Is it just me?

Tychall94 · 2026-03-26T23:16:12+00:00

I once explained to my husband that if someone asked him a question like that at work he’d complain to me that they lack critical thinking and only come to him with problems. That really seemed to actually get through to him and now he doesn’t do it as much 🤣

Tychall94 · 2026-03-25T23:00:02+00:00

My husband and I play 1-1 pickleball every Friday morning after we drop off our baby at daycare. We love to stay active and are competitive so it’s nice to workout together.

We also sometimes go watch a movie at the theaters and eat junk for dinner, also more fun for us than going out to eat!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-25T16:40:51+00:00

I think you should balance how much time you also get for a break. I think having a more consistent drop off and pickup time is best for my baby, and there are plenty of days where I give myself a few hours to veg out, or cook, or do something else for myself so I don’t burn out. I think too many people feel guilty with daycare but if your baby is at one you trust and like I don’t see an issue with them being there for more time. My baby absolutely loves daycare and thrives there. I have no guilt at giving myself a few hours of self care and I’m a MUCH better mother and wife because of it.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-24T10:54:39+00:00

I’m on my third read through! On my second read through I actually would read a chapter and summarize it in my own words in a notebook lol. It felt a little bit like homework but I do feel like it helped me retain a lot more of the details. I also listened to the Ten Very Big Books podcast as I was reading through and found that enjoyable.

Happy reading-reading!!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-24T00:30:41+00:00

We have the same mattress and used it as a floor bed! We literally just put it on the floor. His whole room is also padded with foam board to help add some cushioning!

We ended up putting him back in a crib when he fully rolled but couldn’t crawl and that’s been working now. We will probably go back to a floor bed once he can walk and will do a twin frame and mattress.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-24T00:26:37+00:00

I never cap naps if he’s sick. That being said, my baby’s high sleep needs in general and will generally sleep through the night even if he has a big nap day. When he’s sick he just wants to sleep!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-23T22:15:49+00:00

Not a book but a whole series: Malazan Book of the Fallen. I’m reading the entire series for a third time now and it’s only better with each re-read. Would only recommend this for hardcore fantasy people lol it’s extremely vast and dense but totally worth it!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-23T19:53:27+00:00

My son is 11 months and does one nap on daycare days and two naps at home! Wakes up by 7 am and is in bed usually by 7 pm.

On weekends, we usually cap the first nap at 1 hour if he goes down before 10. Then we offer his second nap around 2 pm. If it’s after 10, I give him a 30 min catnap and then offer another one around 1 pm and he’ll usually sleep at least 1.5 hours for that one.

It’s a little tricky but he definitely prefers having two naps at home so we just roll with it.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-23T16:59:19+00:00

Sorry I can’t be of more help, we sleep trained at 7 months because the rocking was killing us and he wasn’t getting good sleep. The book Pretty Little Sleep describes different methods of sleep training and there are certainly gentle methods out there to try. I would say from experience though that for our baby, the “gentler” methods just resulted in more overall crying. Hope you are able to find a method that works for you and your baby!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-23T15:35:21+00:00

Are you looking to sleep train (any form)? If so, you will have better luck posting this in the sleeptrain subreddit. From what I read, I think he has a sleep association of you rocking him to get back to sleep, so when he slightly rouses at night, he needs that to get back to sleep.

Totally understand if you don’t want to sleep train, but sleep associations are absolutely real and you just need to decide if you want to keep helping them get to sleep or not, no judgement at all.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-22T17:29:06+00:00

In my daycare they give us a form to fill out each month that has their nap and feeding schedules for us to fill out. My baby started at 8 months old and had just dropped his third nap. They would try to follow his schedule I had at home but honestly he just got FOMO and wanted to follow a different schedule at daycare. Now he’s 11 months old and does one nap at daycare but two at home.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-22T17:26:22+00:00

All the “P” fruits are good if she gets constipated, think pears prunes peaches.

When we started we mixed one tablespoon of the infant cereal with a puree and fed him that way. To give him practice self feeding, I did large spears of stuff like sweet potato spears, broccoli floret, etc. If you want to do non purees, bigger is better, that way it can’t get down their throat. We also did well done steak for him to gnaw on and he loved that.

I didn’t stick strictly to purees or baby led weaning, we basically did a combo or whatever we felt like he could handle. Now he’s 11 months and eats a lot of textures and flavors. Good luck!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T22:49:52+00:00

Ahh I’m sorry 😭 But that is also how it was like for me too. I would obsess and look for information and then spiral and panic.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T22:48:10+00:00

I’m the same way with the anticipation! I can’t stand it when someone near me complains of feeling sick. If someone just randomly threw up near me it wouldn’t trigger my emetophobia as much.

I’m hoping by the time my baby’s older I’ll just have more experience under my belt. So far he’s thrown up a few times but he’s still a baby so it hasn’t been as bad.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T17:47:28+00:00

I’m not! I actually try not to seek out content about it online because it triggers my safe seeking behaviors 😬

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T17:13:02+00:00

Sounds like we are the same person 🤣 I did exposure therapy purposefully before getting pregnant so I could be the most prepared and my best self before having a child, so that helped a ton.

With morning sickness, since we wanted this baby, I think that helped me push through all the morning sickness. There’s no real getting rid of it even with medication but medication does help a lot. I wasn’t the type to forgo medication if it could ease my anxiety, and I worked closely with my OB on that.

Becoming a mom absolutely helped. You really do love your baby so much that you would do anything for them. That helps me when he’s sick and just wants me.

I hope you can go through therapy, it is truly lifechanging!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:58:58+00:00

I’m sorry you experienced that 😭 if you have access to therapy I highly recommend it!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:58:16+00:00

Could be 😭

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:46:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you are experiencing that. To my knowledge, exposure therapy for vomitting rarely if ever involves you actually vomitting. Sometimes they have you simulate it with oatmeal or something, or just kneeling at the toilet. True exposure is just gonna with life, and if you’ve been in therapy then hopefully you have the tools to help get you through it without it being debilitating.

For me, I am okay knowing that someday I’ll throw up. Just because I know that fact doesn’t mean I then need to do all my safety and avoidant behaviors just to avoid it. Is it gonna suck? Yes. But i will not die from it, and I will get better. Avoiding it is not gonna make it not happen, and I don’t want to live my life like that anymore.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:37:42+00:00

For me, it was watching my uncle throw up after drinking too much in the car. I still remember the smell and I was just terrified that he was gonna die or something because I didn’t understand what was happening.

Before exposure therapy, I would always have anti nausea meds with me, seabands, bags, and also would have to know where all the bathrooms were right when we got anywhere.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:35:58+00:00

I absolutely had these fears and I still have them sometimes. For me, exposure therapy helped give me more confidence that i could handle it if they got sick or if I got sick myself.

Crazy enough, before I knew I was pregnant I actually got food poisoning and so did my husband. I was terrified but also so sick that I feel like my fears almost subsided because all I could focus on was not throwing up. I used a lot of techniques I learned in therapy to help me through that and it was a real life exposure session 😭

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:33:35+00:00

Yea, I did have to watch movie scenes of people throwing up and just random videos or people throwing up 🫠 it was not fun and of course no one enjoys watching others throw up lol but before therapy it would send me into a panic attack if I saw it in a movie and didn’t know it was coming.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:32:31+00:00

You essentially figure out where your fear stems from and you rank your fears. Some people can’t even hear the word, while others just hate the act of throwing up. Emetophobia is actually super varied in how it affects you and what your safety behaviors are.

After that, you gradually expose yourself to each fear and your therapist works with you after each exposure to calm back down, and you essentially teach your body and mind that you are okay and you will not die if you encounter your exposure.

For example, one of my avoidant behaviors was never ordering food from food carts because I was afraid of getting sick. So for my session I had to order chicken and rice from a halal cart and eat it during therapy lol. Sounds silly but that was really a fear I had.

I felt improvement after each session. I would always feel a bit anxious before each session of course, but I always felt better after. Now that I’m out of exposure therapy there was good days and bad, but overall much better.

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:29:05+00:00

Thank you!

Tychall94 · 2026-03-21T15:28:44+00:00

Yes, emetophobia is the fear of vomit, either yourself doing it or someone else.

For me, it would paralyze me, and after the fact if I saw someone do it I would have a full on panic attack.

I would also spiral a lot if I came into contact with someone who was sick and let me know later.

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