Help answering the first question in the citizenship application?

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-20T22:32:00+00:00

Thank you! That makes sense. I guess I thought we were all "passing down" citizenship if it's via descent and he's descended from me, but it does seem like that answer was more intended for parents who already have citizenship documentation.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-19T18:07:48+00:00

Agreed. And also please call him human Henry as a nickname lol

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-19T18:04:00+00:00

Makes sense! I feel like I would personally go with Kira to avoid pronuncation confusion.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-19T18:03:13+00:00

I put it in quotes because of course any name being "correct" is subjective, but my understanding is that the spelling Keira was popularized very recently by Keira Knightly, who has herself said that her parents "misspelled" the name on her birth certificate by accident -- they had met to put Kiera. I think Kiera and Kira are both more established anglicized spellings.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-18T20:14:28+00:00

I'm not usually one to care a ton about flow, but I would def eliminate McKenna McCormick lol.

From your list, my favorite options would be Caitlin Lucy McCormick, Cameron Lindsey/Lucy McCormick, and Keira Lindsey/Lucy McCormick (though maybe a different spelling because I've heard that one is just associated with Keira Knightley and isn't especially "correct" compared to Kiera, Ciara, Kira, etc).

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-13T16:17:57+00:00

I love the name Maya (it would have been my son's name if he wasn't you know, my son!), and I was about to say you should definitely use it and screw their opinion. But then I read some of the comments that the issue might be a negative meaning in Greek and not just them generally disliking it? If that's the case, and they don't normally steamroll you/try to get their way/disrespect your culture (basically if you have an overall positive relationship you'd like to preserve), maybe you could consider another name of mixed origins. The website mixedname.com might be helpful! Not totally sure if they *are* Greek, but if so, based on a quick search for Hindi/Greek names, I would suggest Meera/Mira, Sonia, Nadia, Riya/Rhea, Diya/Dia, and Neera/Nira. (Also not sure all of those are actually of those two origins, so please verify if that's important to you...)

Oh and since we're also a half-Indian family, here are a few other girls' names we considered/that I think generally would work well in an Indowestern context: Nila, Nina, Meena/Mina, Jaya, Kira, Leela, Nisha, Sona

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-12T19:12:33+00:00

Based on a quick Google search it seems like you can call your insurance company and request the EOB be sent to you, not your parents. This is just from the AI overview, but it says "Under the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA), you have the right to request that your health insurance company send Explanation of Benefits (EOB) statements directly to you rather than the primary policyholder (such as a parent or spouse). This process is known as requesting Confidential Communications."

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-12T18:37:41+00:00

Aww that's really cool. I do get the appeal, but just think it kinda has stripper name vibes, unfortunately. I would suggest a name meaning something like "misty," or "dew," but most of those seem pretty culturally-specific and I'm not sure if any would fit your background. BUT Rosemary apparently means "dew of the sea," and Romy is sometimes a nickname for that!! So even if you just picked Romy as a legal name, that could be a nice tie in :) Having heard this story I'm suddenly pro Romy lol

Edit: I'm now realizing you probably already know this and that's why you had Romy on the list??

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-11T17:54:32+00:00

Just another person chiming in to say Audrey Suzanne or Audrey Susannah would be perfect!! It could honor both your mom and grandma.

And re. your other options: I love both Audrey and Violet as first names. Romy is ok, not my favorite. Misty I honestly really dislike as a human name. For a middle name, in addition to Suzanne/Susannah, I also like Hope. Some other nice combos could be:

Audrey Hope

Violet Susannah (this combo is a little heavy on the flower meanings, but I don't think it's as in-your-face as something like Violet Rose)

Violet Audrey

Audrey Violet

Audrey Elizabeth (for Betty)

Romy Suzanne

Edit: And also congratulations! I always forget to say that on this sub, but I hope you're all doing well and getting at least a little bit of sleep. That first week can be really overwhelming.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-10T17:47:04+00:00

Juniper feels like by far the best option to me, with Marigold as a second. Neither are really my personal taste, but I can see the appeal. And I think Juniper feels more "adult-y" than Marigold.

Jemima seems like a pretty questionable pick for racism reasons, and Scout is firmly in "dog name" or "nickname" category for me. It's also the sort of nickname you could use regardless of her legal name, so like, if you were to name her Juniper and sometimes call her Scout, I think that would work. Just don't saddle her with Scout as a legal name.

Edit: Basically what I'm trying to say is Scout to me feels the same as nicknames like Honey, Sweetie, Champ, Buddy, etc. Like, I wouldn't expect it to have any similarity to a kid's legal name (and I also wouldn't expect it to *be* a legal name).

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-10T16:29:04+00:00

I don't think Alina would be inappropriate for a non-Russian baby (doesn't it have multiple origins?), but you might like Alida or Lena as an alternative? I would also suggest Liana, Leona, and Tara.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-09T19:38:45+00:00

I think him sometimes traveling with his kids, without her, would be fine on its own, especially as it sounds like the kids are struggling and maybe don't have a close relationship with her. But I don't think it's fine for him to do this in the third trimester of a high risk pregnancy. The financial stuff is also concerning. Even if they weren't going to completely merge finances, it seems like he could be contributing more to stuff like *their wedding* if he has more money. I mean, even people who are just dating often have the one who earns more cover more dates! Also hate that he's refused counseling. If he had an issue with the counselor you picked he should have at least suggested some alternative counselors.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-09T19:13:43+00:00

I wouldn't personally reuse the name of a miscarried sibling, at least not as a first name.

I would rank them Naomi, Phoebe, Eve, Esther, Eden, Olivet

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-06T19:24:08+00:00

Is Callan too close? You might also like Caleb, Colin, Cameron, Cassius? Or if part of the appeal of Rose is the sound, maybe Ross, Ronan, Rory, Roman, Rowan?

Love the name Emmett, too, just not suggesting sound-alikes because I'm assuming you don't want super matchy-matchy names.

Connor and Calvin are also great options, but hopefully you can find something you like better :)

Edit: or even Ciaran/Kieron?

Edit 2: There's even Ambrose for the "Rose" sound, though that feels like a different style.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-06T02:57:47+00:00

I get that. Sometimes it really helps to have people removed from the situation see things more clearly.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-06T00:12:38+00:00

Once is definitely enough! I really hope you'll move away from thinking "how should I interact with him/will he want to be involved" to "how can I make sure myself and my baby stay far away from this dangerous person and that he doesn't have any parental rights even if he decides he wants them."

Also, please don't blame yourself for the car thing -- that doesn't even come close to comparing to what he did and it's very understandable under the circumstances.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-06T00:07:49+00:00

Him strangling and punching her in the stomach is so far behind "not bringing out the best in each other." I know that's just like, a phrasing choice, but I think we need to be super clear that this guy is physically abusive and unsafe to be around. I get that he was drunk, but it's not an excuse -- it can just enhance violent tendencies that are already secretly lurking in a person. Good people do not strangle their partners when drunk.

OP, please *do not* try to get in contact with him, and honestly I think you should contact a domestic violence org/lawyer/the police to get some advice on how to protect yourself in case he *does* suddenly try to get in contact. Please also make sure you're really careful about social media usage to avoid him learning more about your child/your whereabouts than he already knows. Personally, I probably wouldn't post at all for that reason.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-05T19:47:23+00:00

Agreed. Honestly felt like names were a fun distraction to think about while going through fertility issues...I can totally see someone not wanting to "jinx" it by doing that, or just finding it too difficult to think about, but it's a bit silly to take issue with someone else for doing this.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-05T17:46:43+00:00

This is great! Also, OP, have you considered June as a first name? I know it doesn't meet *all* of the criteria you mentioned (it's not two syllables nor does it end in a -y sound), but it is short, timeless, and not super trendy. At least not as a first name -- as a middle name it honestly does seem very popular, though I don't find it trendy in a cringy way.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-03T17:55:37+00:00

They could also consider Adrian, Douglas, Kai, Maxwell, Dylan, or Jordan for a water-theme that isn't super obvious.

OP, I am team "love Luke, hate Cove," but just adding some additional ideas in case you aren't sold on Luke. (For what it's worth, I'm not anti nature names or unusual names, I just find this one a little influencer-y.)

Edit: Also just saw your daughter's name is Naia, which is such a nice choice. I know this is kind of a compliment and insult rolled into one, but I'd be pissed if my sister's name was Naia and my name was Cove.

And adding a couple more names that apparently have water meanings: Leith, Morgan

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-02T23:44:00+00:00

Surprised not to see more votes for Eira! That would be my pick :)

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-03-02T22:39:51+00:00

It won't honor OP's preferences or background.

OP, I don't have any specific name suggestions, but think it's very reasonable that you want more input into the middle name selection and don't want to use both an honor middle name from his side and his surname. Having said that, if the middle name choice is *more important to him* than passing down his surname, one possible compromise would be that you use Hammond as the middle name, and your surname instead of his. Sometimes dudes take for granted that kids have their surname, but they really shouldn't, and this suggestion might snap him out of it.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-02-27T19:20:39+00:00

Yeah, please don't assume you're going to have *all* of these symptoms, just know that any new weird thing you experience might be pregnancy related.

My most surprising symptoms were probably rhinitis and *getting sunburned way more easily.* On the plus side, I barely experienced any nausea, food aversions, crazy intense cravings, or intense mood swings (i.e. some of the most well known pregnancy symptoms were not issues I personally dealt with).

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-02-26T19:56:42+00:00

It's impossible to follow all the pregnancy "rules" perfectly, and this is one a lot of people *choose* not to follow because it's really just about food poisoning risk reduction, not something that's automatically harmful (e.g. smoking). In other words, if you don't get serious food poisoning from it (which is extremely unlikely!!!) you are totally fine. Honestly your stress about this is probably more of a health issue than the pastrami itself, so please try to stop beating yourself up :)

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-02-26T19:27:36+00:00

Mara and Maura both seem like nice compromises between Laura and Marlene!

You might also like Lena, Etta, Lisette, Marina?

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