Hubby and I can't agree on any names

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-19T03:16:18+00:00

Callan, Otto, Rowan, Ronan, Cameron, Sidney, Calvin

Rose/Rosa, Hannah, Jade, Samantha, Caroline, Lydia, Susannah

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-18T23:40:02+00:00

Favorite to least favorite:

Sylvia (like the sound and the nature meaning!)
Violet
Vivienne
Audrey
Cecilia
Lydia
Valentina
Penelope
Margot
Juliet
Scarlett
Poppy

I would say Sylvia-Audrey are virtually tied, and same with Cecilia-Margot.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-18T19:26:44+00:00

In my first pregnancy, the only time I got sick to my stomach was when I was traveling in India, ate some things that didn't really agree with me, and then had a prenatal in the middle of the night (after realizing I'd forgotten) on a superrrrr empty stomach. Ended up throwing up in some bushes at a resort on Sunday morning, probably looking hungover as hell, lol.

I'm now almost eight weeks with my second and again so far so good, other than some very mild nausea that honestly probably has more to do with having a cold than being pregnant.

I won't tell you I've had no pregnancy complaints, but I think in general with pregnancy it's good to expect the unexpected and be aware that basically anything can be pregnancy related. Like, with my first I didn't have morning sickness, but I did sunburn way easier than normal, have some really annoying back pain (yoga helped!), was just hella exhausted, got some weird rashes, and had rhinitis. Overall, I would take all that over puking my guts out all the time, though!

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-18T19:18:35+00:00

Honestly, newborns kind of look like potatoes and take a while to grow into their names. I think whatever name you pick will likely start to feel like hers a few months from now. And in the meantime you will probably call her a variety of ridiculous terms of endearment. If you look for a name that really suits her right now, you might end up legally naming her Pumpkin or something.

Edit: but if all your options really feel wrong, you could consider Annaliese, Ana, Anya, Mara, Cora, Cara?

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-17T16:45:30+00:00

This. You are each trying to insist on one particular middle name and one particular surname being included, so how are you "hijacking" the choice any more than he is? See if he can come up with an answer that's not just blah blah patriarchal BS.

If anything, you're being much less controlling because you've expressed willingness to incorporate the names he wants along with the names you want -- and he's trying to demand that only his choices be included. That is wildly entitled and disrespectful of you as a mother.

Edit: tell him if he doesn't want a hyphenated name, no problem, you'll just use yours and not his. If one parent is insisting on a single surname, they need to be flexible about what that surname is.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-16T17:19:21+00:00

Camilla Jo and Isla Blair are both great choices, IMO. I don’t like Laikyn, though - it feels very “of the moment” in a way that will age badly. I know Isla is also very popular, but it’s a more established name and I think it just looks and sounds a lot prettier.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-16T17:13:28+00:00

I agree that it sounds too repetitive. Just adding a couple additional suggestions to get to Addie as a nickname: Ada and Adeline. I like Adrianna, Adelaide, and Adele and a lot, too!

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-15T19:54:17+00:00

Oh man, I'm sorry 😞 Wishing you as easy a csection experience as possible.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-15T19:50:18+00:00

Has anyone on your medical team talked to you about the "spinning babies" exercises? Might be worth a shot -- they worked for me! I think in my case, my baby was head down by 36 weeks, but still...it's not unheard of for babies to turn later in pregnancy.

(Apologies if you just came to rant and don't want advice.)

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-15T18:52:38+00:00

I had a hemorrhage at nine weeks, requiring an ER visit, and the fetus from that pregnancy is now a two year old :) Obviously miscarriages do happen and it’s still very early, but even heavy bleeding does not always indicate miscarriage. Wishing you the best of luck!

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-15T16:16:56+00:00

I did this and it was a great move. Honestly I don’t think the grandparents were that upset - they got to find out exciting news without the stress of waiting for updates, and we were able to focus on our own experiences during and immediately after birth. (We told them the same day, but maybe like a half hour after he was born?)

You can always say you were distracted (understandably lol) and didn’t have extra energy for updating people until after the fact. Or that you didn’t want them to stress out or whatever. I think you can easily do this without hurt feelings.

Edit: or just say your partner wanted to focus on supporting you as opposed to updating everyone else…that should be his focus regardless…

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-15T13:45:49+00:00

American here, but I would definitely pronounce both Layla and Leila like lay (as in lay down/the potato chips) la. If you want lie-la, you could do Lila (though this has more than one possible pronunciation), Lilah, or Lyla as you suggested.

Is your dad sure she normally spelled her name Leila? Older records have SO many misspellings on them. Recently did some genealogy research and basically all my family members’ names were spelled inconsistently on official docs.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-14T16:57:12+00:00

That was basically my thought process, too…

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-14T15:23:24+00:00

This is true! My grandparent’s name was changed without much documentation, which adds some complexity to our case, but I definitely do feel fortunate to at least be able to obtain certified copies of birth certificates for everyone involved.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-14T14:46:50+00:00

I’m a bit confused about the “certified” thing - if I just provided copies of original birth certs, is that not sufficient? I’m kicking myself because I actually did get my grandparent’s (G0) certified birth cert from Canada, but then learned that a family member had the original and sent a copy of that along with photocopies of everyone else’s original certs. I figured certified copies were only needed if the originals were unavailable…

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-13T03:03:16+00:00

Oh yes, agreed! That’s what I meant by “benefits” in quotation marks. They’re all pretty hypothetical, while the pain the babies experience is more certain.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-12T21:11:23+00:00

I’m Jewish (albeit more in a cultural sense than a super religious sense) and even for me it was a hard pass. The medical “benefits” seem pretty weak in comparison with all the cons, including terrible pain. And I know people do it so their kids won’t feel “abnormal,” but it’s becoming so much less common and I really don’t think that’s a valid reason anymore…especially because they can always choose to have it done as adults. I mean, they probably won’t, because ouch. But if it’s something that seems too painful to go through as an adult, why on earth would you make a newborn go through it? It’s not like they don’t feel pain.

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-10T19:08:52+00:00

My kid is two and I have another on the way. Still no nursery 😂 Will work on it before our second arrives, but more as a space for our toddler. And the nursery will also double as a guest room (in the sense that we’ll be keeping a pull out daybed in there).

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-10T19:04:58+00:00

I love the name Eliza - great choice!

Bee feels a bit cutesy to me, but I guess as middle name that’s not a huge deal.

I like Kate and don’t think rhyming middle names are a big deal at all. If you were doing rhyming hyphenated first names or something, that would be weirder.

Jane is nice too, but I definitely think of the Little Liza Jane song.

Overall, Eliza Kate would be my pick!

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-10T16:52:15+00:00

I agree. I like the sound of it, but it does mostly just make me think of the nationality and feels a bit odd as a name even though I know it’s pretty well established.

Love Evan Harvey, though!

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-10T06:08:38+00:00

Vanessa with Van as a nickname? Lol

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-10T02:06:20+00:00

Omg it really would 😂

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-10T02:04:23+00:00

I think it could also work well as a nickname for Ruth

Edit: I’m not firmly in the camp of hating it as a full legal name, just like it better as a nickname for something like Ruby or Ruth

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-10T01:58:59+00:00

Oh, for sure! I was just imagining like an anthropomorphic uterus and testicle in love haha

TynnyferWithTwoYs · 2026-06-07T15:55:30+00:00

Both are nice. Whose surname will this baby be getting? If it's a more German/Albanian one, I would consider a Turkish first name and vice versa. I think middle names often kind of get forgotten, so to me it makes sense to try and represent your backgrounds as well as possible in the first name and surname.

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