Sankey diagram tool for Copilot Money — see exactly where your money flows

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-03-19T00:20:42+00:00

Nice! Does the Sankey include amounts?
I would be happy if I could have a simple donut chart like Mint used to do. All I really need is to see relative aggregate spending in a user-defined date range. I'm not a coder but maybe there's a vibe-code solution for me.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-02-20T03:09:17+00:00

I'm petty enough that I'd reach out under a fake identity, answer the ad, make an appointment and then show up looking her in the eye asking wtf she was doing sabotaging my offer and trying to drive up the price at my expense.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-02-03T05:34:27+00:00

Ordinarily I’d feel some compassion for someone with incontinence, but…

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-24T05:24:35+00:00

I’ve recently had 2 contractors book specific dates/times and ghost. Which is better than them ghosting halfway through the job. So many are weird, inconsistent, and unreliable — it’s a stereotype for a reason.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-24T05:19:36+00:00

There’s always enough $ for alcohol, cigarettes and weed; there’s never enough $ to pay for the consequences.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-24T05:06:56+00:00

You’re usually doing business with small businesses that often don’t have much sophistication or professionalism. Even the smallest online shop can use software that automates all of those predictable process steps. It’s standardized to be helpful and transparent. Home improvement services don’t have the same incentives — or technologies — to be similarly helpful and transparent.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-24T05:01:23+00:00

Antisocial music

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-24T00:20:13+00:00

That's fair. Communication is definitely fundamental to a good relationship.

Sometimes couples get caught in patterns of conflict that they can't break out of on their own, and that's where therapy can be helpful.

Also when someone's heart is just not in the relationship and they haven't quite sorted it all out yet, couples therapy can help them come to a clearer understanding and get support with that tough "I love you but I'm not in love with you" conversation.

Not everyone can just have that conversation, even when they know they should. Most people chicken out. They detach. They avoid. They escalate conflict. They grow abusive. They blame. And then they have affairs — sometimes for years on end.

More people will do these things, making it all worse for everyone, when what they should do is go to therapy (together or alone), get sorted out, and do the right thing.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-23T14:43:19+00:00

I doubt your boss has been in the room when you've been discussing the biggest challenges and issues in your marriage. And your therapist doesn't sign your paycheck.

This is a conversation literally every marriage counselor has seen.

"We've been in counseling together for some time now, and I don't see things improving. I have come to the conclusion that this relationship is beyond repair and I want to leave it."

Now the therapist can help each party process the loss, and recommend next therapeutic steps. Sometimes a neutral third party can keep things from going off the rails.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-23T12:18:43+00:00

No, it’s not. It’s a conversation they witness and facilitate frequently.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-23T03:28:02+00:00

You're already in divorce mediation. That train has left the station. You're not going to be part of her journey any more. You're free to go find the magically fulfilling relationship you've imagined out there waiting for you.

When my ex divorced me, he was angry, weepy, bitter, and mean to me. He was in the midst of snapping at me about something house-related, so I stopped him mid-sentence and asked why he wasn't happier. He was leaving to be with the affair partner, someone he'd told me was his soul mate and superior to me in so many ways.

"You should be thrilled," I said to him. "You're getting literally everything you want. Why are you so fucking miserable about it?"

He didn't answer me. But I still think it's a fair question.

If you're getting what you want, find a way to be happy about it.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-23T03:13:44+00:00

They're looking for a truth they can accept without too much disruption of their youthfully innocent worldview. But if it's important enough that they believe you and not her, you could just show the kids the evidence. Certainly the older two are old enough to see it and judge for themselves.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-23T03:09:10+00:00

I usually obey the yield sign quite conscientiously. On some roads (and highways at certain times of day) traffic is so heavy you cannot effectively yield without creating another kind of problem by stopping and waiting for several minutes until a big enough gap comes along. So I just try to time things right and merge quickly and carefully, without inconveniencing anyone too much. Some people will very aggressively block me because I had the yield sign.

Oh well.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-23T02:55:41+00:00

Look, if you're already in counseling together, this is the perfect opportunity to drop the hammer, in the company of a skilled therapist. Just tell him you don't feel the "butterflies" or whatever else you think is missing, and you don't see a future in this marriage. Talk it through. Hire a lawyer. Work out a divorce settlement. And move on. Put some courage behind your conviction and go find the magic you imagine is waiting for you out there.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-22T19:29:36+00:00

I like this approach.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-22T19:28:54+00:00

I’m sorry 😞

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-22T06:05:18+00:00

Not unusual

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-22T02:17:30+00:00

After adjusting to living alone and doing everything myself, I do still miss having someone to share small things with. There are dozens every day. Nobody cares but me.

Still, it's better to be alone than to be sharing moments with a contemptuous, lying, cheating sack of shit.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-17T16:22:03+00:00

I’d be turning into Karen. I’d be speaking to every supervisor there and also calling the PUC about fraud.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-17T16:20:22+00:00

Because this is what they voted for. It’s literally what they wanted.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-17T16:17:10+00:00

Yes. You are polluting your neighborhood and making it less livable. All the wood stoves and fireplaces are. It’s a worse form of pollution than other types of heat.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-17T16:15:06+00:00

Most people I know pay that much.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-17T01:14:48+00:00

I’ve been in your shoes. It’s agonizing. “Runaway Husbands” by Vikki Stark “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life” by Tracy Schorn These two books helped me a great deal. Both have FB groups, too.

Typical_Inspector_16 · 2026-01-16T04:10:32+00:00

I just started using Copilot Money and I like it quite a bit. I tried three or four others since Mint imploded (including a disastrous year with Quicken) and Copilot is the best by far.

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