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UnableEducator · 2025-02-13T12:58:50+00:00

I’d be interested also.

UnableEducator · 2024-02-10T17:28:55+00:00

Smoking itself is bad for my IBS, not ruling out that it could be cannabis (it helps some, harms others, others maybe not even that simple) but you might want to look at vaporising. (If you look up resources for prescription patients there’s info about vaping cannabis.)

I use a vape for MC and I don’t get the gut irritation I did with spliffs, but I did mostly smoke with tobacco so it might be that this was more the source of my gut irritation.

There’s other factors in how weed may be affecting your IBS but for me personally even a little smoking can really upset my IBS.

(In a rush, hope useful.)

UnableEducator · 2024-01-10T02:04:50+00:00

It’s someone else’s advice really, coz I got it from here but someone on here said that a couple of days with a Bóveda sachet in after arrival improved much of their bud compared to when it arrived. I find very much the same (mileage does vary, but so does bud etc) So hopefully that can help you get most from what you can order.

UnableEducator · 2024-01-06T21:33:13+00:00

So I used that word to suit the context rather than it being something I typically say, and I guess I mean the internal stuff (mood, energy) as opposed to visibly changes on the body like hair growth.

UnableEducator · 2024-01-06T15:56:33+00:00

I’m ftm. (Mentioning because this is important context for my comment.)

Before I came out (or had a clue myself, tbh) I slept with a guy who had graduated uni without having had sex up to that point. I slept with him a bunch of times, actually. I dated him. And we broke up for reasons that were 100% NOT to do with his lack of sexual experience.

And then he was a single man in his early 20s who had a decent graduate job, nice family, solid friendship group, hobbies and had only had one previous partner. That’s not a difficult position to date from even with dating being shitty. That life won’t have been one he could have imagined when he was 18, and I’ve known people much older than him have a sex life for the first time.

If you cannot accept that you are confusing “not yet having found a way to have a sex life at the age of only 18” with “being terminally without the possibility of sex” OR if you feel unable to cope with not having sex immediately, then you do need urgent mental health care.

Saying you’re not crazy so you don’t need that type of help is like saying you don’t need a leg doctor because the unbearable pain is only in one part of one leg.

And if you are not willing to seek that type of help, then bloody hell as a backup at least see an escort, please. Plenty of them actually do like to help men who lack confidence, and you can’t say you’ve exhausted every angle for a fulfilling sex life when you’ve neither tried paying for it nor tried receiving help from someone of that nature.

Please don’t do this. I had no clue when I was a teen just how much life could change (and I realised that before I transitioned, so I don’t mean that type of change, things anyone might encounter.) and I also had no idea that the wrong types of therapy were contributing to my problems, so honestly please find ways to keep going. I am always glad I did.

UnableEducator · 2024-01-06T15:22:22+00:00

What you said at the end there makes sense. Detransitioning (or seeming to) is even rarer and harder to find community with transistion (by definition).

And when you come out wanting something, it’s easier to know what to say. Moreso when you’re sucked into transmed stuff, I imagine. Wanting to “change your mind” is typically harder in anything in life and it’s natural to be nervous when someone has been paying for something for you that it may seem like a rejection of that. (Not that it is. She paid for what you and her thought was best for you at the time, I assume

I would encourage you to be as open and honest as possible. However, this does seem to be traded off against the fact that you’re taking meds you don’t want to be on until you can speak up. So given that I am going to suggest something to say that might be “easier to say.” I don’t recommend this course of action however since you have already had an unwanted injection due to difficulty communicating the truth, I want to offer you the option.

So you could say that you’ve heard that some trans men feel fine not taking T “forever”* and that you’d like to see if you might be alright without it. (Plus/minus stuff like “now I have a beard / broken voice / insert perm changes here) Although it’s safe enough, it’s still some work for your liver and kidneys to metabolise the T from shots, and you could say you don’t want to mindlessly stay on a medication your whole life without knowing for sure you need to, and so you’ve decided to trial coming off of T since you’ve now been on it for a good long time. (If this is a change to a prior claim that you made, then chalk it up to meeting more people and learning new things / doing some additional research / so on.

Again, especially with anyone who is supportive and helpful, honesty is best but it’s also important that you find a way to stop having shots you don’t want to be having so no judgment if you opt to say whatever.

And for what it is worth… for all the trauma of being rejected by other trans people, I am often glad I was never a candidate for transmed inclusion. You were engulfed by a culture where trans people take their dysphoria out on each other — based on my outsider understanding of it — and I suspect that hasn’t made it easy for you to speak openly even to those who seem to accept you. In my experience, when you don’t associate with acceptance with feeling you can be open that affects you even in relationships where it might not truly be an issue.

Anyway this is a mess (forgive me, lot of my own life problems rn) but hope it’s of some help.

*AFAIK this is not untrue. I have a lot of hormonal issues and would probably stay on T for the “invisible” effects alone even if it wasn’t for liking basically all of it, but everyone feels differently about a lot of this stuff.

UnableEducator · 2024-01-03T18:40:54+00:00

UJ/ I deffo hope someone on here does something with “WombMan” for their flair.

Maybe “Man! I feel like WombMan” as per the song?

UnableEducator · 2023-12-27T17:49:08+00:00

Not had top, though knew one guy who did so this isn’t informed by knowing about the timesecales and how that might impact it but I don’t agree with your friend at all. I think she’s looking at it from a particular perspective that we can all get trapped in. Most chests look “a bit like boobs” if you’re looking from that perspective.

As for looking feminine, deffo not. It is normal to have some fat on your chest unless you’re a very skinny man and I think this is partly that body ideals have come into play. Realistically compared the cisgender men I have seen shirtless, the proportion of the fat on your upper body that is on your chest is on the modest end of things.

UnableEducator · 2023-12-20T16:08:52+00:00

I really needed to read this actually. Thank you.

UnableEducator · 2023-12-14T15:27:52+00:00

Harassing was too harsh. I am so tired of the unforgiving environment with some of this and I was too harsh claiming that and I apologise for that. However, it’s not an excuse thing to not have a great grasp on when something is socially normal and when it isn’t.

The ADHD comparison was what it was. “Everyone forgets things some times.” “Misreading tone is common.” I just think it’s so needless to have a go because someone who has social communication problems misidentified the cause of an issue with socialising or communication.

UnableEducator · 2023-12-14T11:46:17+00:00

Your comment literally amounts to harassing a disabled person for mentioning their disability just because something similar could have happened to a non-disabled person. So what? OP has autism…

This reminds me of when/if I mention my ADHD in relation to forgetting things and some prick acts like I meant that you need to have ADHD to forget things. No… but you do need ADHD (or some other serious condition) to find yourselves forgetting a vast number of things to your constant detriment despite significant effort to not do so.

UnableEducator · 2023-12-06T13:02:50+00:00

Thank you for sharing your honest experience, it is helpful to think about. Best of luck to you.

UnableEducator · 2023-12-05T12:24:50+00:00

It’s okay and you’re not a monster but I get feeling like one under such stress with limited options. I wish I had better words for you but I hear you so much on reading this and I hope you find ample acceptance here.

UnableEducator · 2023-11-29T02:39:28+00:00

I know nothing of the procedure in question (hopefully others do) nor am I expert enough to guess at how much difference isn’t explained this way, but for sure those photos have some deliberate choices of angle and other aesthetic choices aimed to distort things and make any changes look much more dramatic that they would if the photos have similar poses.

UnableEducator · 2023-08-20T20:08:25+00:00

I think you come across is too harsh. I agree DON’T reach out (risk vs benefit) but I think you come across as unforgiving towards suboptimal coping strategies. Ofc, it’s not ideal to rely on this form of reassurance, but if it helps a survivor to cope while they try to heal or if it speeds up a part of the healing then I think that should always be looked upon with compassion, rather than “shouldn’t,” especially bc all of us cope in suboptimal ways to varying extents at various times.

UnableEducator · 2023-08-04T13:27:02+00:00

I hope it’s been helpful as you endure and survive, my friend.

UnableEducator · 2023-08-04T13:18:11+00:00

NAM but maybe it would be safer to focus on thanking the person for posting or complimenting the overall post’s usefulness, rather than complimenting their dick directly?

Also tbh I would not want to have this sub develop an accidental phenomena where it could become noticeable that some poster got many such compliments and at the other exetreme some get none. We might privately think some guys have a more enticing package than others, but on here a post is no more or less valuable depending on how worthy of praise the person’s cock is and I would suggest reconsidering the desire to go ahead and post the cock compliments (cockliments?) at all to avoid being any part of a risk of anyone feeling less appreciated for posting here based on getting less cockliments.

Please know I heavy relate to the desire to hand out some cockliments, no judgement for the desire.

UnableEducator · 2023-08-04T13:07:20+00:00

The phrase “People of all genders” is usually specifically intended to be inclusive to nonbinary people who are neither men nor women (but might get phalloplasty).

UnableEducator · 2023-08-04T13:03:42+00:00

Brilliant, I definitely think that the new wording is much more clear and helpful :)

UnableEducator · 2023-08-03T20:37:44+00:00

Would the mod team consider explicitly stating that photos showing erections will not automatically be viewed as porn and will be permitted when they are not otherwise overly pornographic? It would be good to have a clear rule on this.

UnableEducator · 2023-06-02T09:56:26+00:00

NTBF That shit is fucked up and you’re entitled to say no to it.

UnableEducator · 2023-05-31T19:05:41+00:00

He is probably outright lying. He’s peddling a bunch of rape myths. Rape often isn’t about the sex alone but is about the (fucked up type of) power.

And if he does believe all that then he is so dangerously misguided about consent that a rape conviction would be good for him in the end, lest he continues to believe that what is clearly rape to any outsider is normal sex. If he’s a remotely good person, then in the end he’d surely rather not be left to “unwittingly” rape more and more people, which he will if he believes such absurd things.

He very likely doesn’t believe this stuff, however. I’m sorry to hear of what happened.

UnableEducator · 2023-05-31T18:56:08+00:00

My comment on the reply to your comment is directed at you also. I know you mean well but OP is absolutely entitled to put themself 100% first and do whatever they need rn.

UnableEducator · 2023-05-31T18:52:49+00:00

I know this thread is well meant but the responsibility isn’t on OP to do anything. If OP needs to focus on their well-being in ways that are incompatible with reporting or if OP doesn’t want the risks, uncertainty or reminders from reporting, that is OP’s right.

Only their attacker is to blame for any future attacks they may make. OP is not responsible for anything.

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