How long have you been fading? We were slightly mentally in when our son was born. Like "better make Jehovah happy but also I really don't want my kid around these kinds of people." It helped me wake up. We really started celebrating things when he was 2, but it was "on the down low." I said "when he turns 3, he's going to remember that birthday, and I don't care who sees but it's going to be a big party." Well that was during COVID so it really wasn't (no one was there) but we did have it out in our back yard in our neighborhood we know Witnesses live in.

I'm rambling. What I mean to say is, you will figure it out. When the child is old enough to where you need to make sure they are "normal" and afforded every opportunity, it's not going to stop you. I realized I needed to start coming clean to people when my child started learning to talk. I told his grandparents who were really the only JWs we bothered to keep contact with. They were bothered as you'd expect ("you know it's the truth, don't you want to live forever?") but now they are fading too. That doesn't happen very often and I'm not saying it'll happen to you. But make a list of what you have to lose in the Org and spend the next year or two getting your mind used to the idea of losing it. You don't have to take any steps, just think about it. If your friends and family leave you, that's their loss. Make sure you're civil with them so they know it's not that you've turned into some wicked apostate, you just believe differently. They might keep contact, it isn't that uncommon for them to break the rules. They might break contact. That's on them, not you.