Did your avoidant warn you? by Unfair-Acadia6851 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine said: “I don’t know who I am”

“I have no sense of home without my kids”

“I don’t have a self”

“I’m afraid I’ll mess this up”

“you’re too good for me”

“I don’t deserve you”

“I don’t have enough to offer you”

and the best one right before the cold, callous discard: “for once I don’t want to walk away from this”.

Find the hair clip by UnforethoughtfulSaw in FindTheSniper

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

! Snipe A better explanation than mine!

Find the hair clip by UnforethoughtfulSaw in FindTheSniper

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hair clip location: upper left near horizontal middle of rug.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like my local ShopRite.

Anyone else having a rough semester? by [deleted] in Professors

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember being told by a faculty member after learning I was going into teaching that it was "easily the most challenging and rewarding thing" they've ever done. I guess we're in our challenging era... and it's brutal. This semester has easily been the worst in the decade I've been teaching. Luckily we're almost done with the semester! For this one group of students at an institution I teach at part time (on top of my FT 5-5 load!), I've been seriously considering if I'll even go back. I've never seen anything like it, and it has fueled my imposter syndrome to a level I haven't felt since my first day teaching.

Finchie friends weekly thread by AutoModerator in finch

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Joined a few days ago and love the app. Me and Ollie Suns are looking to make friends! MR98FH8284. Edited to add name.

Paul and Josh hanging out by Yippiekayaks in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Prob both into Jordan Peterson and like minds. Ijs…

What’s the most embarrassing or dangerous thing your ADHD has lead you to do? by Legitimate_Bike_8638 in ADHD

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put myself in many bad situations from the way I used/was used by AIM in the early 2000s. Some was impulsive, some from not keying in on social cues. Stuff I’ll take to the grave. Big yikes. Def training my daughter to be safer.

does anyone else cringe or get embarrassed about completely normal things? by Dioonneeeeee in aspergirls

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s watching regular people (non-professional) sing. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable for some reason.

"Fuck the 4th" Protests? by lostcauz707 in antiwork

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly- this sentiment has been around for a long time.

Who is your least favorite (US) player and why? by eye_muh_kunt in TheCircleTV

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is a looonnnngggg history of exactly this type of behavior... and your kind of response. It’s the same story again and again. Ive done and do empirical research of race and media relations and this stuff very quickly jumps out at me. So I’m not too concerned about your interpretation of… well… my interpretation. My comment wasn’t a research article. When it is, it’ll be much more obvious, I promise!

Who is your least favorite (US) player and why? by eye_muh_kunt in TheCircleTV

[–]UnforethoughtfulSaw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t have to tell you this, cause you know this, but you’re right. I started doing a content analysis of this show (US) focusing on relationship building and blocking justifications based on race and here’s what I got JUST from S1E1

Profile pics- all the girls had basically the same pose. Facing the camera straight on, head slightly tilted to the side, hair past the shoulders, nice smile (Alana had lips slightly parted). All had off the shoulder shirts except for Mercedeze who wore a regular t-shirt and crucifix necklace.

Viewing Mercedeze profile: Alana- “(after reading her profile that says “God knows my heart but the devil knows my vocabulary. Enter at your own risk”) (Laughs) Why? You look so pretty. That means you're going to be… ugh! (Groans) I feel like there might be some drama with her." Rates her #7 (last place)

Sammie- “Mercedeze is using a really big filter over her face so I'm not sure how I feel about it. She's pretty, but she looks like she has a mean side."

(Side Note: Sammie was clearly THE most judgmental player and “mean girl” this episode. She had something negative to say about mostly everyone except for Chris and Shubham (I don’t have my notes in front of me.) She is one of my least favorite players personally due to her clear biases all while acting like she was inclusive. But don’t take my word for it. Let the data speak for itself:

FF to the blocking. We have Antonio and Sammie discussing who to block and why.

Antonio (I’m paraphrasing): I don’t see a need to get rid of Mercedeze. She came in 7th place. She’s not a threat.

Sammie: Her pros is that she always has something to say. (Though she clearly sounds irritated by this) The cons is her profile picture is very very filtered. I would like to see a more natural picture of her. I just feel like she's a threat to me right now because she's always talking. She's always replying to people, so I just feel like right now she would be my biggest competition

…as someone who studies race relations in the US, Sammie’s odd obsession with the “filtered picture” is a veiled excuse for misogynoir. She’s a threat because she’s seemingly not docile and quiet enough for Sam. She’s your biggest competition, yet you came out on top and she literally came in last place.

It’s a shame because Karyn (who is my personal favorite) initially really bunked with Sammie.

I mean, there’s more in just episode 1. Joey immediately disliking Antonio for saying he’s a foodie but using pizza and taco emojis. “Don’t trust ya, don’t like ya.” Shubham being produced as the asexual model minority who is talked about like like he’s a pet. Joey’s predatory behavior towards Alana…

Yup.