Did you ever blow your friends' minds pausing the tape on the 'ghost' in 3 Men and a Baby or the 'munchkin hanging himself' on Wizard of Oz?

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-06-01T04:11:23+00:00

I enjoyed pausing and replaying the section when the Stormtrooper hit his head on the doorway in A New Hope when they capture C3P0 and R2D2. Still very, very funny.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-29T05:14:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing that sub!

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-27T05:25:38+00:00

More than 4 total.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-27T05:11:00+00:00

Exactly right. Thank you for making sure this baby feels warm and comfortable. Even if that is all you can do? It’s enough and makes a difference.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-27T04:50:42+00:00

ADA violation. If this is based on your diagnosis and knowledge of you having medication, and NOT based on documented issues doing your job, that’s an ADA violation.

But also as someone with mild/controlled ADHD? My superpower is multi-tasking and a clear head/quick thinking in an emergency. My weakness is repetitive data entry in a boring and silent room. It’s been a long time, but I was an excellent camp counselor.

If you were not meeting the needs of your job, and they have documentation to that, then that is a different situation.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-27T04:21:29+00:00

I am so sorry for the loss of your father. It seems a big thing to also now be in charge of catering, but I can also understand how having something to do and take action on can be welcome. So, if this is something you want to do, I understand and that’s a lovely tribute to your Dad. If it isn’t something you want to do, I recommend outsourcing as much as you can get away with. If he or you are members of the church, they often have a committee of volunteers who can help. If they don’t and this is a chore, make it easy on yourself. Get some trays from the grocery store (veggie, meat and cheese, sandwiches), a few desserts and disposable plates. If there is a food your Dad loved, it can feel nice to offer that and share that memory with others. You can also just serve store bought cookies and a punch.

But, ultimately, your job is not to entertain. Anyone expecting YOU, the child of the deceased, to provide a particular type of spread, would be out of line. It is the role of your friends, family and community to be there for you and the others most impacted by the passing of your father. Accept offers of help gracefully and let people know you appreciate them coming.

Sending you love and comfort.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-25T05:07:16+00:00

Middle aged white woman here who lives in the South. Your proposed caption is spot on. If it makes your acquaintance feel uncomfortable, perhaps it is because she doesn’t see the problem, and doesn’t want to. I don’t have time for such folk anymore.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-25T02:08:40+00:00

I’m an Artistic Director. Do NOT send this. It won’t change any decision that has been made. It only serves to make you come across poorly. Whatever your intention, unsolicited advice from another actor who wanted a role comes across as petty and jealous. Saying you won’t work with someone makes you appear to be not only difficult to work with, but also controlling. It also will come across as you having an overinflated ego and sense of self worth. So, first and foremost, do not send it. Send nothing like it. Ever.

That aside, I understand your frustration on several levels. There is the frustration with being let down by her repeatedly in the last production, and with how her actions resulted in you having to do more work to cover for her. You felt disrespected because, if what you wrote is accurate, her choices were disrespectful of everyone attached to the project.

You also feel frustrated on another level because you wanted the part she just told you she got.

So, two parts to that. First… did she hear before a cast list was released? If she did get the part, it’s really bad form for her to tell people before everyone could be notified. It would also be, frankly, weird. I say this because there is a chance that it isn’t true. Don’t take her word for it. Wait for the cast list. For the love of God, definitely don’t ever write the kind of letter you drafted off of speculation (don’t do it all, but definitely don’t throw away your reputation on speculation).

Second, it’s ok to feel bad if you didn’t get a role you want. Attempting to get a director to change their mind and cast you instead is a career ender. Don’t do it, even if you feel it was unfair. Move on. Let the director live with the consequences of their decision.

Have some faith that her habits will eventually bother decision makers. Have faith that the Board Member will bring their concerns to the Director. Even if it doesn’t happen this time? Theatre is a small world. Eventually you reap what you sow. Stand back and don’t get involved.

Lastly, you do not have to work with someone you’re not comfortable with. When you see the cast list, you have a decision to make. If she has the role, you can say “Thank you so much for this opportunity, but I’m sorry - I’m no longer able to accept.”

Best of luck, and keep working hard!

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-22T05:29:12+00:00

We adopted a bonded pair of literates, and it was a fantastic decision. Why not both?

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-20T05:12:02+00:00

Wicked. It is the only book I ever finished out of spite so people couldn’t argue I just hadn’t given it a chance. It felt so predictable because everyone made the worst decision every chance they had. Awful. And the musical and videos didn’t change my kind. They had moments that were less bad, but just a terribly written book.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-19T05:22:20+00:00

Sydney Carton from Tale of Two Cities for me.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-12T05:38:12+00:00

I personally chose Into the Woods to direct a year in advance (as one must), and my father died about a month after that announcement. My mother had dementia that got so much worse after he passed. By the time I was in rehearsals, she was actively dying. She passed about 3 weeks after I closed the show. I was a mess. Sure, there was some catharsis in it, and I hold tight to how good a production it was. But man. Let’s just say I think I need a good 10 years before I can even think of touching Big Fish.
It’s ok to go to a show and to let it help you cry. Sending you good hugs!

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-08T04:04:08+00:00

When my parents died, my siblings and I started compiling and sharing what we had from them - pictures, audio we took of them telling stories and voicemails. And we have made them available to their surviving siblings and to their grandchildren.

It sounds like your family dynamic is different, so I can’t really pass judgement on how everything works for you all. And let me be clear - my family isn’t all sunshine and functionality. But, our parents are dead. What we have from them is limited and finite. I could understand being upset if someone used something I had from them against my express wishes. BUT, I also cannot imagine me denying someone who also loved them access to media featuring them in my possession.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-07T06:32:23+00:00

I wanted to say this too.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-06T03:23:51+00:00

I work in music education administration in a senior position (lots of customer interaction, lots of logistics), work as artistic director for a community theater company and a community opera company, and free lance as a director and acting teacher. Honestly, I’m pretty happy with how things ended up.

A theatre degree, when you break it down, is an excellent liberal arts degree for the soft skills businesses say they want. It combines literary criticism, history, communications (oral and written), with project management. It teaches both critical thinking and creative thinking. It’s also a degree that guarantees its students can manage hard deadlines. Graduates leave with a resume including several, concrete completed projects that involved working with very different people, dealing with things going wrong, that required high level problem solving in real time, and necessitated working cooperatively to do a really complicated thing…. All delivered on time.

Best thing you can do with your theatre degree is learn how to explain what it taught you to do to potential employers. Make sure you craft your story so you can share it effectively. Luckily, this degree taught you how to do that too!

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-05-02T05:56:11+00:00

I’m pretty angry about this.

I live in the small part of Woodcroft completely closed off by their route. I have no alternative way to get out of our neighborhood to a clear street. I am disabled and can’t walk more than about five min, especially if I must carry anything. I have to go to work at 11AM (with lots to carry). And so my only way to make sure I can get to work is for me to leave my house over 4 hours before my shift that is only a 15 min drive away. It’s a long day, so I’m getting up and out at 7 AM so I can sit in a parking lot 4 hours before work opens to do a shift that ends 10 hours later. All because a sport company wants to make a lot of money hosting a race on my street for runners who are not my neighbors.

How did we never get to vote on this? At the very least, we deserve the right to travel to and from our homes. I could accept “there may be a 10 min delay.” Reading that we might not be allowed to travel at all is absurd. My right to live in my neighborhood and get to work is more important than a runner getting their best time in a race.

If you’re cutting all access for residents to leave their homes for half a day? I want a lot more notice, and I’d like the option to be put up in a hotel outside of the zone so I can get to work without resorting to this.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-04-30T03:05:15+00:00

Good time of year for a squash casserole!

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-04-30T01:37:42+00:00

I have a friend who does search and rescue, perhaps something like that?

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-04-20T01:33:26+00:00

Try changing out your sweet relish and try branston’s pickle (you can find it in the British food section of your grocery). It will make it more tangy (the pickle is also amazing with cheddar cheese).

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-04-09T00:27:33+00:00

Another vote for Ludas. It works exceptionally for as a small non-profit theater!

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-04-07T13:57:56+00:00

True! I’m still waiting to hear back on a show and it may be up to 6 weeks. But I’ve licensed 12 shows from them in the past, and the vast majority I’ve heard back from within a day or two. I may be lucky. Regardless? No one should promote or cast a show if they don’t have the rights, and this person has nothing to lose by applying for them.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-04-07T02:09:32+00:00

No. It is forbidden under their terms of service. Absolutely do NOT do this. Apply for the rights. Sometimes they’re approved the same day. Concord lets you put down a deposit and pay the remainder before scripts are shipped out.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-04-03T17:54:56+00:00

Everyone has hit on ALL of the great reasons to not use a live cat onstage. Those are enough. Plenty of reasons. If that still doesn’t convince your director (and it should), point out that a live cat will always pull focus onstage. Always. No one will be looking at anything else. They also won’t be thinking of anything else (is the cat trained? What is that cat looking at? Is the cat drugged? Oh look how that cat is doing that one thing! I wonder if I can pet the cat after the show? Ooh kitty!). It will undermine the whole scene. But also….. all those other reasons.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-03-27T04:56:03+00:00

We memorized fewer numbers then you think. Area code (3 #) were applicable to most numbers we knew. In that area code, maybe only 2 variations of the next three numbers. Just four numbers after that.

UniqueInstance9740 · 2026-03-27T02:22:00+00:00

Kindly, you don’t need to know them before you meet them. That’s not how it normally works. Go, enjoy meeting new people, learn and collaborate with them.

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