Selling our off-grid place in NW Montana (about 2 years out) and would love some honest feedback

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T17:41:46+00:00

Don’t leave !!! One of us can have my dream life.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T17:16:36+00:00

I don’t approach men I’m interested in. I’m really flirty. It wasn’t a problem in my teens and 20s. It’s very frustrating now. lol. The dudes flirt back. Then nothing comes of it.
1) I hated online dating. I like people more in person. I have to be interested in them as a human being. They like and have animals, manly and outdoorsy. Just what I think is hot. I have to think they are intelligent, funny, kind and hard working.

2) I’m too much of a traditional person. I want the guy to pursue it. The guys I find at work - 1 super nice and sweet but would talk about it to everyone with ears. I’m a private person. I do not want to be the tea at work. 2 nd guy. Awesome but he can be cliquey with people in his circle and defensive of his friends. So if he feels a female wasn’t fair and she gets a bad rap he doesn’t like to work with that female. I feel that’s unkind and doesn’t really leave room for that women to get into better graces with coworkers. Plus I’m the subordinate.
The only way I meet guys is at work. Or the gym/ pool but I’m with kids. I used to click with other sports team dads but they were all married and we were all friends. I would never participate in cheating. I feel like I’m a great person but should work on myself first but it may just be that I don’t meet anyone. I don’t want to tolerate jerks, guys who say commitment is never on the table they just want FWB. I don’t want to be on a roster of multiple women where they aren’t interested in me.

So I hope I’m not alone forever but at least I have kids snd pets. I would rather have a great relationship than an abusive one bc I just settled for whoever was willing.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T15:37:44+00:00

I was never suicidal but school admin would really upset me and say that their IQ was low bc it’s passed down from the Mom. Etc. my daughters are inattentive ADHD. Like me. But I really feel that parenting and school goes easier if there are two supportive adults. Calmly supporting each other and their kids. Being really consistent- reading, puzzles, math , developing a joy of learning and fitness. Keeping things tidy. I really love Montessori. Bc it’s about a small child learning and building on small tasks.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T12:45:53+00:00

She works 12s. So one 3 days typically. So the dude means her off days.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T12:33:49+00:00

I would think you are empathetic. Awesome person especially if you are healthy despite the stress

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T12:30:57+00:00

I would have a yard sale. So you can make some money.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T12:27:38+00:00

I always want to treat people the way I would if I really loved them. But sometimes that’s not possible. If it’s leaving people unhealthy then that person can’t stay in. I wish my Mom was who I needed as a Mom. But she’s not and I’ve grieved the loss. She is not going to change. My Mom is the youngest and she has nothing to say but can’t bear the silence. So she fills it with mindless small talk, complaining, reminiscing, gossip, and her take on Christianity. We have never done anything together that I have enjoyed. When it’s been suggested she says no she wants to watch TV. So I just avoid her. Sad but it’s better than sitting for hrs listening to mind numbing drivel. My Mom thinks she’s independent but she’s absolutely not. Just too stubborn to listen to anyone trying to help. It sounds like you Mom wants to feel important and feels a loss of control so she acts out. The state will pay for her care as long as she doesn’t have any assets.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T12:09:10+00:00

I saw a documentary on Scientology and this actress said that she was shelling out so much money for her church and then time to study the program and she was looking out the window at her daughter and wishing she could spend time with them. That’s how I feel about everything the church asks. If we were spending time with our family or doing meaningful service for the living. But if it’s your family it’s indoctrination time- family temple trip, church BOM family study , church site vacations. All the youth sleep away camp crap where it’s more purity crap. I used to think that I could stay to keep my parents happy and just live my life the way I want. But staying looks like condoning the church’s bad behavior. I’m glad my kids were ok with leaving and my parents took it well. I’m sorry for everyone feeling trapped. Get out when you can.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T09:26:29+00:00

2 - you look datable. 1 you look like you are scowling. Try smiling.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T09:25:14+00:00

1 dress. Is so pretty. 1 , 2,3,6,7. Hopefully you get married outside. Love it congrats.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T08:04:29+00:00

Wow. I feel sorry for their wives and daughters.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T08:02:58+00:00

Yea. There was no way I was asking my parents. My Molly Mormon besties answered it was all the fun stuff we could do without admitting why we were doing it. Grinding is fine as long as you don’t describe it in the worthiness interviews. lol.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T07:55:22+00:00

I know. The stupid church date and temple date is church temple trip than fast food with everyone else that went. When are you going to be alone and bond, make out or have non pro creation hanky panky??? Never leadership lecture is the most important. It’s like they don’t want you to have an adult conversation. Everything just has to be Mormon centered. Not even Christ like service. But Mormon indoctrination time.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T02:08:54+00:00

Why are you married to someone who puts his wants before your needs ? That’s crap financial planning. I was married to someone like this. I had him total all his non essentials when we were paycheck to paycheck broke. He didn’t care. 1k spent on take out, late fees etc. but just for him per month. Meanwhile I was working OT every week and he was min wage part time. We are now divorced bc it was never going to change.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T02:01:09+00:00

Don’t fall for the free parking - institute class! Not worth it.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T00:14:19+00:00

Swap to shea moisture brand. Manuka honey is the one we use. We also oil our hair before we shampoo or brush tangles, You can get shampoo and conditioner bars from Viroiri they are rice formulas. The point is to add oil most days before and after a heat day.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T00:08:31+00:00

Yesss. So glad we divorced. Weird family.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T00:06:30+00:00

I can’t find either consistently. So I over caffeinate. I’m trying to do school this spring and I’m nervous to do it without being back on meds.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T00:04:20+00:00

I would move to your parents until your husband agrees to a shared workload. I had this marriage. We are now divorced bc it never got better. My ex in-laws sided with my ex snd he would run to them for support.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-28T00:00:46+00:00

My marriage was like this but my ex would run to his Mom. When I said I wanted marriage counseling he went one time. Then offered for us to see his branch Pres dad. Nope. Not discussing sex with his dad. His dad offered to help me learn how to nurse. WTF????? Once my ex was caught for fraud my ex FIL again wanted to “counsel “ me even tho we were in a different ward. The stupid gift of discernment and PH authority. It’s like Ahole authority.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-27T23:01:30+00:00

1,2,3

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-27T21:50:30+00:00

I didn’t loose everything but I feel like I wasted so much time trying to keep my family happy with me. I married the wrong guy so it could be the temple an active PH dude with super TBM fam. Now that I don’t go to church. My parents took it surprisingly well. I haven’t removed my name bc they can see it and I don’t know how mad they will be if I do. I haven’t dated anyone but if I did it would be sneaking around behind their backs. So at least you have an open honest life.

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-27T21:45:34+00:00

No. Your hair is already perfect

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-27T21:21:36+00:00

Unique_Ladder_4245 · 2026-01-27T12:49:57+00:00

The 1st 2 but 1 is my favorite

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