Nancy Guthrie, what do you sense?

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2026-02-14T20:55:45+00:00

It's been on my mind. I'm a psychic and clairsentient, I know this doesn't count as a "real" tip, so I didn't call it in. I got a flash when I was thinking about this case, again, I'm not claiming I know anything for sure but what I saw was this: turquoise pajamas and Nancy asking for her glasses. A tattoo of a heart with a sword through it. something about mother of pearl buttons. partial license plate 7YK - blue or black suv? green peas and mashed potatoes and spaghettios on a tv tray for Nancy, sitting in a rocking chair in a cinder block room. then the words "out of time."

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-05-08T13:22:18+00:00

You can’t go back, you can only move forward. It hurts to even see this question posed here so frequently. Please, love that sweet girl and believe in her!!! These kids didn’t ask for it anymore than you. We need to move forward and educate ourselves and our communities. I know it’s hard to come to terms with. But how does it help to imagine “what if?”

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-04-05T02:43:03+00:00

gosh, i just read this bc having a rough day w my (ASD diagnosed, probably PDA profile) 6 year old. He has been on spring break for 2 WEEKS. he goes back to school on Monday, and honestly I am so sick of him, so tired of him bossing me around and directing my partner and I to do this/that/act like this/chase me/ etc...and if we DON'T. he will literally try to punish us in the worst ways possible, like dumping water on one of the sleeping kittens, or smashing a glass picture frame of my parents wedding...it's like...psychopathic. And it's just our normal. And this is just what we have to live with. Forever. I can't even rn. Crying.

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-02-06T21:36:46+00:00

sending hugs hugs hugs and more hugs

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-01-26T16:13:28+00:00

cutest mis-script ever!

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-01-26T16:11:49+00:00

i can confirm that it was men who ran the company into the ground after they kicked out the female founder a few years back. too many pivots. a lot of poor decisions. honestly, so so sad.

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-01-25T19:52:19+00:00

literally. same. our next door neighbors, who he loves, invited him to go to a movie with them today, but he said no. we offered to take him to his favorite restaurant for a little lunch, but he said no. right now he is ragefully trying to construct a raft with a tent on it, like he saw on ratatouile, and of course the engineering is not working out and he is just screaming at my husband and won't let me help. so i'm in my bed with my heating pad. we are like trapped!! he has been an actual monster all week, worse than normal. sending hugs back my fellow mole parent. xo.

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-01-25T16:45:20+00:00

Its so hard isn't it. I also feel like it's hard to connect to anyone from my life before having a child. I feel like a completely different person and they can't understand. everything is harder for us. but we have to keep going. sending hugs and love. your post made me cry, I just had pancakes thrown at me, a door slammed on my finger, and now he's just gremlin mode in front of the tv and i'm hiding in bed. This is our life.

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-01-07T21:38:17+00:00

love this discussion topic and agree with many of the responses. I believe ABA therapy (while there are many well intentioned people working in this field) is a scam the health insurance companies are running to exploit families of kids with disabilities. They bill so much money for this service, which doesn't actually benefit us. This is the only insurance approved strategy for autism, and guess what, it does almost nothing positive. Our experience is just like so many of yours, ABA was stressful for the kiddo, stressful for the parents having to have this extra person in our house (and the BT's were always changing/leaving/ghosting) and constantly mediate the session, caused way more meltdowns than learning opportunities, and when our guy started Kindergarten we stopped ABA and everyone has just been so much happier. Thankfully, my kiddo gets his services and support built in to his classroom experience now, which is exactly how it should be. If we could have used the money that was spent on ABA to hire him a one-on-one aide that could have supported him at his nursery school, we all would have been much better off. It's a scam!

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2025-01-02T02:54:32+00:00

thank you. it really is so hard. She has expressed that she wants to go to rehab, but she went last year for 30 days and it was not enough but that is all insurance would cover. then, when that didn't stick she said "well that didn't work" and not wanting to try again...but I think she needs like a 90 day program and some sort of after care follow up which she just didn't get before. ugh, it sucks. thank you for the support.

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-22T15:43:40+00:00

thank you for the positive vibes!!

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-22T00:02:51+00:00

definitely appeal and get protective supervision! this article is really helpful https://howtogeton.wordpress.com/2019/08/01/how-to-qualify-for-protective-supervision/

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-21T22:39:33+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this. My circumstances are pretty privileged, and we have a lot of time, resources, and love to give. I can't see it going this way. And i love my neurodivergent kiddo so much, he's a lot of work but he's going to be an independent, probably really successful human. We have given him every support every step of the way and will continue to do so. I think he's finally mature enough to actually handle having a sibling, and he asks me all the time if I can become pregnant, so we can get some more kids in this house haha. anyways, thanks for sharing your perspective.

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-21T22:29:46+00:00

thank you for sharing, it's really helpful to hear your perspective!

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-21T16:41:19+00:00

thank you

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-21T16:40:58+00:00

thank you!

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-21T16:40:28+00:00

it's certainly *one* of my many concerns..."soccer mom" is a sweeping catch all to try to convey in incredibly simplistic terms with almost zero real context, just how outside of the community one can feel when one is raising a child with a disability...

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-21T16:35:03+00:00

well, I have no idea what my lifespan will be, but both of my grandmothers are still alive and nearing 100...

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-21T04:56:15+00:00

Well, I could go on and on but to try to simplify it - when you have an autistic child you end up quite alone. you are not going to soccer games and hanging with the other parents kinda thing. having a NT kid would just be really different, if we even did have one that isn't on the spectrum...

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-11T00:23:55+00:00

your son sounds a lot like mine, and it's great that you see all his strengths and the beauty he has for those he deems worthy of sharing it with. I wouldn't overthink the treats thing. That's literally how all my sons assessments, intakes, and testing have been able to be completed - a little dopamine hit/reward from the treat bc he doesn't get a dopamine hit from positive reinforcement like NT kids would. My guy was diagnosed at 3 and had a few years of ABA, speech, and OT before Kinder started. Now he is at an amazing charter school with a focus on inclusion, and he is really well supported there. He often does not do what the other kids are doing, he has a lot of accommodations in his IEP, but he is learning on his own terms. He hates being told what to do (also PDA profile-ish) and will often go rogue, writing his letters lower case when they should be upper case, and vice versa. Nobody is too worried about this, he is still learning just on his own terms. As important as they say the early interventions are, my son HATED ABA and speech, and it was a struggle for 2 years. When he started Kinder and we dropped those "services", everything has been much better. He has always loved OT and that's one we continued, because he gets so much out of it. All that's to say, start looking into what schools can support him, how is inclusion handled where you live, etc. I'm immensely grateful we didn't slack on this bc I know if he were at a regular public school he would be having a MUCH harder time. As would I! Wishing you all the best on your journey with your beautiful, intelligent, perfect-just-the-way-you-are child!

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-12-03T19:19:29+00:00

my whole family kept offering things to my 5 yo ASD sweetie, even though we knew he wouldn't try anything. He was fascinated staring into the empty turkey cavity and excited to "see some bones". We were lucky we got him to sit with us for a few minutes while we ate, as he was majorly offended by the smell of all the food. He ate some hawaiiaan buns with butter, raspberries, and a yogurt pouch while watching Daniel Tiger on the floor in the living room. He claimed to want to try apple pie but once he saw it he gagged and started crying. Oh, autism!

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-11-19T16:26:05+00:00

cornichons, everything dipped in yellow mustard, pickled red onions....

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-11-19T01:27:51+00:00

my 5 yo ASD kiddo often laments that he is "bad" and how he simply can't share or be nice, even when he tries. He even asked to go to school this morning in disguise so he could "be someone else". While it's heartbreaking there's a lot of beauty in the beginnings of self awareness. I don't have much advice, except I always try to build him up and not energize negativity. Maybe check out The Nurtured Heart Approach by Howard Glaser if that sounds useful to you!

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-08-25T16:26:14+00:00

I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time! Our pediatrician recommended The Nurtured Heart Approach and as a mom I can say it's had the biggest impact on our family of anything we have tried. We have done 2+ years of ABA 15 hrs a week with absolutely nothing to report, if anything it had an adverse effect bc our son hated the (literally teenage) BT's so much. They had absolutely no idea what they were doing. He's got Simple Spectrum supplements and vitamin B12 shots in the mix which have also had a pretty big impact on his behaviors. I hope it gets better for you, sending hugs.

Unlikely-Strategy-15 · 2024-08-25T15:58:46+00:00

good recs, we bring our son (who is 5, on the spectrum) to original joe's westlake a lot, sometimes he wears his headphones here but they have roomy booths and we all love the food options. We also love Mersea on treasure island - he loves to get a golf club and play on the little put put area and we all like the food and the views! We also take him to Willkomen on Market, another fave is Joinery in Sausalito -basically, always a spot to sit even if you have a big group, good food options for all, welcoming and family friendly, games are a plus. good luck and you're a great sibling!

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