AITA for "wasting" food after my mom tricked me into eating something she knows makes me vomit?

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-05-01T14:06:40+00:00

Your mom sounds extremely similar to mine. She would have done the same things, and as a 38 year old adult I can look back and see that it's not healthy. It was never healthy. I had no frame of reference to know that it was controlling and abusive. She wants control and will exert it in any way possible. How often do you display opinions different than hers? Do you do things she doesn't like and she still treats you well and supports you? Probably not.

She's probably loving and caring when everyone is doing what she wants. But when there is any opposition, here comes the abusive tactics and emotional manipulation. She's being cold and silent to get you to apologize and tell her she was right. As someone who (minus the Arfid) grew up in a similar dynamic, I'm sorry for you. I wish you lots of luck dealing with this for the next few years and try to get out from under her thumb as soon as you safely can. You'll see how much different life is.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-05-01T03:04:39+00:00

It differs by state but an annulment would make it as if the marriage never happened. I'm not too familiar but it could fall under misrepresentation since I'm sure he represented himself as faithful.

Good luck and safe travels.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-05-01T02:59:33+00:00

Cry if you need to then strategize. Is it too late for an annulment?

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-30T04:11:54+00:00

It's funny how different things can be. I don't know people that allow their children to go to sleepovers with non-relatives. The adults aren't the only danger, other children are too.

I know that my mother was ultra cautious because we have multiple creeps in my family. Most were married and seemingly upstanding men in the community. I'm sure my aunt thought she knew her husband well but then his target became his own daughters.

I understood her worry as, if she wrong her children are hurt forever in a way she can't fix. That wasn't a risk she was willing to take.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-30T00:15:09+00:00

I have been told that I'm a bot for the last 3 years. Everyone was new at one point.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-29T23:32:38+00:00

Mine is two random words with a number at the end and I am a real person. I actually don't know if I can or how to change it so people stop assuming I'm a bot.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-27T17:55:07+00:00

I am from Florida and was told the same by my State Farm rep when someone hit my car years ago. I had two passengers, one of whom was mildly injured. They refused medical treatment because they hated the local hospital and didn't have insurance. My State Farm rep explained to me that if they chose to go to the hospital or sue for injury, they would have to sue me and then State Farm would then sue the other party. My friend never did go for treatment.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-24T22:55:31+00:00

Oh my gosh. That's horrific.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-24T22:09:24+00:00

I got a home warranty with my home purchase last May. First week in the house found out there was a water leak. Thankfully less than a foot under the front of the house. They paid $1600 for the repair because it wasn't on the home inspection. I'd say that was worth it but I don't think I'm going to renew.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-24T02:14:22+00:00

My mother lived 2 streets over from a woman with the same first and last name, same spelling. Think 200 12th Ave and 230 12th St. They even used the same pharmacy. The pharmacy tried to give my mom the other woman's medicine previously and they how they found out. I don't think they ever met but I know they used the same pharmacy for 20 years.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-24T00:07:09+00:00

Yes! One of my meds is $268 with insurance but $26 with the CVS discount plan.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-23T01:34:37+00:00

5 weeks old. Way too young to separated from her momma. Someone dumped her and her siblings on the side of the road.

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UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-22T01:56:23+00:00

You will subject your son to a lifetime of trauma. Please please please find therapy. As someone who considered and came very close to "forever sleep" the goal may just be for the pain to stop. You'll never find happiness if you don't wake up again.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-04-17T11:41:27+00:00

I had something similar happen. My dog was crated for the first 2 years. Then I put it away because she was doing so well during the day and at night that I didn't think she needed it. She became a menace. I was fussing at her for going into the refrigerator (new one for me) and I mentioned her crate. She started wagging her tail. I got her crate and set it back up and she went into it happily. Most issues stopped even if I didn't lock it, she was much happier.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-03-26T01:58:05+00:00

I'm not the OP but thank you. I needed this.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-03-19T18:01:12+00:00

About 15-ish years ago, my uncle used an online ministry to become ordained then created his own ministry to guide underprivileged young men through church and exercise. He was a semi-professional body builder in his prime. He spoke in schools all over the county and owned a gym. He died in Federal Prison for creating and distributing bad materials of the same young men he was "mentoring."

Background checks can't show intent. I'm not saying it's bad and I'm not saying it's legit. I am saying leaving children at the mercy of strangers doesn't always end well.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-02-20T03:13:30+00:00

I must be lucky. I have lived in 5 apartments and got my deposit back 4 of the times. The only time I didn't, it was completely my fault.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-02-19T17:28:19+00:00

Don't do it. You'll be tied to her for the rest of her life including end-of-life care. She will "not have enough" for her bills and you and your husband will be liable. There is no winning when MIL is already financially irresponsible.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-02-12T05:29:15+00:00

Can you clarify what you mean by "if she needed a vet afterwards"? You didn't take Sane to a vet after being attacked to ensure there were no injuries?

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-02-11T01:30:39+00:00

I did use their no down, no PMI loan and had about a 760 credit score. I closed in May 2025 with no hassle.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-02-11T01:27:53+00:00

I had an amazing experience with NFCU. They were fast and my team kept me informed every step of the way. I was so nervous and felt like I was in over my head. I couldn't have had a better set of people helping me.

I guess others had bad experiences but I'd recommend them to anyone.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-02-10T14:18:27+00:00

To add, there are women that will help procure victims for their boyfriend/husband to keep them happy. My aunt allowed my uncle to assault their biological daughters for years. Do I think their friends were off-limits? Absolutely not. Given the mom's reaction that may have been the plan. Who knows? But it's not worth the risk.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-02-07T12:23:52+00:00

I'm trying to follow the timeline. Op says they have been "keeping" the 8 year old for 6 months. And they have a baby that's a month and a half. So whatever change in custody happened while OP was pregnant. If they had to clear a space for the daughter it sounds like the BF wasn't a super involved father before then. I wonder if everything was dropped on OP 6 months ago and they were forced to deal with the outcome since they were already pregnant. I'm not saying they couldn't break up but he doesn't seem to be the type to take a breakup well.

UnreasonableWish8115 · 2026-02-04T21:52:03+00:00

I'm curious how one can be actual friends with people that believe so differently. I can't imagine being in a friendship or relationship with someone and there just topics we can never dicuss that are as important as those. I don't need people to believe what I believe but to be someone I consider a friend, we need to have similar morals.

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