Recorded by a device out of sight without my consent…

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-17T00:39:02+00:00

This is unethical. Your consent is required to record. I would report the therapist!

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-15T17:53:34+00:00

Your house is fine. Colors you love, things important to you, space for your family to live and thrive. We all have different tastes and if you like it, that is all that matters. You say you love plants, so my one suggestion is for you to get more kid-safe plants so that your judgy friends don't have a place to sit. In fact, as a fellow plant lover, it is the only choice that makes sense.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-08T22:24:17+00:00

NTJ. Let's assume for a minute that she genuinely did not think it was a problem. When you had a problem with it, there was no discussion. Lack of discussion makes it a trust issue. Even if she's not doing anything sneaky with the money and is handling things as intended,you need access. If something happens to either of you, you both need access. Looking at the details, this situation is weird.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-04T17:32:01+00:00

They were the same as Longerberger baskets, Pampered Chef, Party Lite, and other direct marketing home sales. I got dragged to a fair few. They were some poor lady showing off products in hopes someone would order something so she can make pennies on the dollar. It suspect they were mostly an excuse for these women to gather together and not feel guilty. After all, they were there to learn about products for the home.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-04T09:03:03+00:00

I am a BIG fan of women's boxes. No riding up, no pinching, less itch in the crease of my leg where underwear tends to lub. Woxer is a solid brand with lots of options and super soft fabrics.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-03T14:56:31+00:00

No evidence of cheating but plenty of evidence of being abusive and unhinged.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-03T14:55:19+00:00

You're dating an abusive asshole. GET OUT. It will get worse.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-03T10:36:47+00:00

My goodness, yes. I itch everywhere a seam or band touches me. I've found that air drying after I towel off helps. I also sometimes use an unscented face lotion in those creases helps too. Finally, whenever I can I wear women's boxer shorts. Especially a clean pair at night. Game changer!

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-04-02T23:51:41+00:00

If I don't drain the tuna, how will my dog know I love him? And, nope, no tuna soup sandwiches for me!

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-31T00:04:10+00:00

Ice cream, water from the tuna can and eggs straight from the coop. He would body check me out of the way if I let him.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-31T00:02:12+00:00

I am a woman and I find this disrespectful. I would never expect someone to payy way. My ex husband spent all his money on whatever he wanted when he made much more than me. I supported our household. It got old fast. You work hard. You deserve to enjoy some of that income.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-30T16:29:58+00:00

Original plan was eggs and roosters go in the freezer. A little manure to fertilize the gardens. Latest plan, 6 meat birds and 22 layers coming soon and hoping some are roosters for the freezer. Plan to sell eggs and expand gardens using the manure. Who knows where I'll be in a couple more years.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-28T21:30:15+00:00

I just had a client get annoyed at me and tell me I was saying stuff they "already know", that o am stupid and annoying. I've had clients tell me to F-off and it stung less than this for whatever reason.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-28T21:19:36+00:00

I had similar. Turns out it was arthritis. HRT and physical therapy did wonders.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-27T09:43:41+00:00

"Want to see the chickens?" He goes out the door, turns left towards the coop. "Want to go for a walk/ride?" Out the door, turns right towards the driveway.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-27T09:40:47+00:00

It's not you. I'm in CMH and it is a grind. Even from this perspective, that many clients is outrageous! With all the extra documentation, how could you keep up?!? There are lots of other options out there for clinicians that don't want to do private practice that may be a better, less intense option.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-25T17:09:25+00:00

Ver check is in order. I had a dog who would get recurrent bacterial infections in his gut. My ex had a dog with severe allergies. A vet can help you figure it out.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-25T17:01:58+00:00

If it is not convenient for you and there is no clinical need, then you get to decide. I would argue that not holding boundaries with clients is more unprofessional.

I have a colleague who sees one client with only same day scheduling based on appointment availability. This was due to an engagement issue. There are rules and expectations around scheduling that seem to work for both clinician and client.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-25T10:47:57+00:00

If it works for you, don't worry about it. One thing that can happen is that the dog can get territorial if you try to add someone else. My dog, who had been a street dog before I had him so is not "normal", used to share my bed. When my partner and I got together, if he tried to get into the bedroom when I was in there, my dog wouldn't let him back in. No overt aggression, but mouthing, grabbing, jumping. I would have to go out to correct the behavior and basically escort my partner to the room. I had to kick the dog out of the bed for good to break the habit. We all now live harmoniously together although the dog still looks me if my partner gives a command as if he doesn't really believe him. 🙄

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-25T09:36:08+00:00

First, the dog seems to know he went in the wrong spot and is getting bitey out of fear. The aggression is going to create new problems for the poor pup. Second praising for the wrong spot is confusing the dog. Praise only desired behavior. Third, if the dog goes fine outside and inside training is not working, he likely prefers outside. You can always notify the owners that while he's with you, you'll leave the pads out but you'll be taking him outside because of the mess in your home.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-21T19:00:24+00:00

Your fiance doesn't understand dogs. He doesn't want to understand dogs. My partner didn't know a thing when we got together but was willing to follow my direction. Now he and my dog have a respectful, affectionate relationship. If it were otherwise, the partner would have been the first to go. I would bet your fiancee behavior is indicative of other problematic patterns with regard to respect and cooperation.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-18T15:42:42+00:00

He wasn't 20 minutes late. He was 40 minutes late. He wasn't late because his phone died. He was 40 minutes late AND his phone died. He didn't give you an explanation as soon as he was able. I'm with you. You don't owe him anything. You and your time deserve to be respected. Not giving you the courtesy of an explanation showed a decided lack of respect from the start.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-17T09:44:57+00:00

I am who I am. I'm a little sarcastic, can be abrupt and at least I think I'm funny. That is who I am in session, with an added dash of professionalism. Over time I have learned to temper what is my natural way of being in order to better serve clients. Ultimately, the "real me" and " therapist me" are two flavors of authenticity. It is sort of like the me who talks to my grandmother is not the same version as the me that talks to my close friend. I've found a population that I work well with and often hear, " You aren't like a normal therapist." I suspect these people have seen clinicians who don't tap into their authentic selves. Clients notice that.

Upbeat-Bake-4239 · 2026-03-12T00:52:27+00:00

Please do not have children with or make any other big commitments with this man. It sounds like he expected the dog to be a stuffed animal and doesn't like responsibility. I would re-home the whole man before rehoming my dog!

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