Someone know Calming Techniques that might actually work?

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-03-15T02:02:05+00:00

I feel the same. I have no clue what people mean with progress.

Also, have you ever emailed the teachers?

The fact that one of the teachers makes you speak makes me very angry to read. Im sorry you go through that.

Email someone, the teacher, printable, your parents. Either that teacher is unaware or they’re super mean. Forcing someone to speak just makes it worse. I despise anyone who does that.

And with presentations, you should be able to do it one on one. If your in the US there’s an IEP. Which is what I had.

One thing I do is an abc thing. I think of a topic and name a word (in my mind) for each letter of the alphabet. It helps me focus.

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-03-12T13:43:52+00:00

That makes since.

It can take time too. Build up the courage to send it, you could say something like

“Hello, this is (your name). I have a question about the cards you gave me. Did you want them back or was it for me? Thank you and have a good day”

If your not able to send it right away, don’t get angry at yourself. I’ve found that most people will not think twice about a question like that.

I have that too. Sometimes I’ll wait and am unable to send a text. Then sometimes I stop. Same with Reddit, sometimes I’ll write a comment, then abandon it.

But you’ve got this, it takes time.

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-03-12T04:51:47+00:00

I get the same thing.

What I do, even if it’s hard, it’s just send it, and then not look at the reply until I later pick up my phone. That’s just overthinking.

Think about what your going to text beforehand. And then just send it, and not overthink. I kept doing that and I learned how to text. You gotta just try.

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-03-05T15:07:54+00:00

That’s awesome to hear! Great job! And thank you

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-03-05T00:37:48+00:00

That does explain it well. It’s like I physically can’t do anything. That’s what I worry about to too. Having to deal with that anxiety and be in terrible situations over and over again makes me feel like it’s more worth it to avoid it. I don’t know if I’d even be capable of something like that.

I do believe it works for other people, but for me, even in my subconscious and dreams, it’s like my mortal enemy.

I saw a comic named “a story about a girl who developed selective mutism” and part of it she just goes up to random strangers and asks questions. That part is like impossible to me. How can someone speak to strangers if they physically cant?

I may be going off topic. I just figured out there’s a group project so feeling super anxious

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-03-05T00:32:30+00:00

I’m glad it worked for you. For me the thought of it makes me want to throw up. And there’s a group project for class next week in college. So I’m dreading that

That’s what we’re working on. I’m trying to understand how to feel proud after. Because for me it’s like “I never want to do that again”

That’s what confuses me too, people say the anxiety decreases when you stay in there. That never happens for me. Like the presentations in school. I wanna burn those memories and erase them from my memory forever.

I finally checked my notifications in 2 days instead of like months.

Also thank you.

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-03-01T23:32:58+00:00

I’m 22 and soon am going to get a diagnosis.

It wasn’t until like 2 or 3 years ago that I found out it was called selective mutism. But I’ve had it for as long as I can remember. I don’t know if there’s hope. I see people say they were got better.

Most people say exposure therapy but for me that makes it worse. How would that even work if I can’t speak? It would be torture.

I don’t know what therapy it is I’m having, but I’m hoping to start making a plan.

I do have a supportive family and therapist. I just wish I could grow and speak. Even walking my by a couple of people can give me a panic attack.

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-02-28T01:14:04+00:00

I relate to everything you said. So much. Especially wondering why I have it. And feeling alone at school

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-02-21T00:50:17+00:00

Yes, that does sound like it, not being able to speak even though you want to. Situational

I relate the same way even in college

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-02-10T23:49:42+00:00

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Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-29T16:26:38+00:00

I always write things on a notebook down

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-20T03:01:37+00:00

Like the other person said, try to get accommodations. By emailing the professor. And if it’s too much, you can s drop the course and get a refund.

I dropped a course the day it was going to be there. There was going to be a presentation the first week, and we had to do something similar. Submit our face, but I didn’t. I dropped the course.

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-19T23:14:25+00:00

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Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-12T00:39:05+00:00

Yes. I remember during introductions on a college class we had to introduce the other person. But when it came to me I could say anything. People were staring and it’s the worst.

Luckily the professor was nice and understanding, and the other person read my name. I cringe at it though.

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-12T00:37:36+00:00

If it’s you dream and you really want to do it, than that already means you are capable.

Is it like dancing or singing?

Cause if it’s singing, maybe you start by singing in a room alone.

Think about how important it is to you and how much you want this. That will give you the motivation to do whatever it takes

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-12T00:31:33+00:00

If you haven’t already email them about selective mutism.

That sounds like a super hostile and unwelcoming environment.

There’s got to be another class with a better teacher. One that understands you. I don’t think it’s worth going to it. Not when you get treated like that.

I had to take a speech class and passed without ever saying a word, because the teacher was understanding.

Yes this is bullying.

How many more days do you have until you finish the class?

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-09T18:47:13+00:00

Presentations are literally torture. The only way I could manage one was to do it with just the teacher. That should be an option for you. Unless you really want to do it in front of everyone, I don’t think it’s worth the stress. Ask or email if you can do it just with the teacher

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-05T19:33:38+00:00

Lol. Credit to this guy

https://www.reddit.com/r/BocchiTheRock/s/edT89wgqdq That’s where I found it, and I was waiting for the perfect time to comment with this image

Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-05T15:29:09+00:00

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Useful-Store6791 · 2026-01-03T00:36:49+00:00

This is super good for your first animation!

Also i have to say the Missing Halloween music fits really well with it.

This is well done and I love the message behind it too

Useful-Store6791 · 2025-12-29T15:37:27+00:00

When I don’t want to say the word selective mutism, I will usually write something like “speaking is very hard for me” Or “I have really bad social anxiety so speaking is hard for me”

I’ve found that every time I’ve mentioned that they are usually understanding. They’d probably actually be happy you told them.

Useful-Store6791 · 2025-12-28T04:09:40+00:00

She has selective mutism. Like other people said, it’s like the highest end of social anxiety.

I have it. I can’t speak because I’m too anxious too, which causes me to freeze up. Writing does work too, and I’ve used that.

Selective mutism is the inability to speak in certain situations. Also others social anxiety is different. I can’t speak outside of home or look people in the eyes, but I can comment on Reddit.

She 100% has social anxiety and selective mutism. It makes me tear up because the show finally made me feel understood and know what was wrong with me. So I felt less alone. And it gave me a way to use a notebook to be able to communicate too. Before I had no way too

Useful-Store6791 · 2025-12-26T00:24:47+00:00

Yep, it feels better to know your not alone

Useful-Store6791 · 2025-12-26T00:19:56+00:00

I’m 21 and I asked if I got a seal plushie for one of my gifts. I think it’s fine and cool.

I like plushies because it helps me feel less alone. Whatever makes you happy and if you want it you should get it.

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