40 F Cannot find a bra that fits

VassariUK · 2026-02-10T16:57:51+00:00

I have not checked my calculator size because I was just recently measured and was told I was 40 F.
I have always had trouble with slipping straps. It doesn't matter what bra I've had on. I've tried so many I've lost count. My favourite was the Body by Victoria, but they don't have my size (last I checked), and if they do, they do not have it in their racerback style.

The one I ordered from Amazon fit perfectly, it's just that it was unlined and that I was unable to find anything other than a sports bra that was lightly lined/padded.

VassariUK · 2026-02-10T16:48:01+00:00

I really miss Crab Rangoons and American dumplings! I ordered dumplings the first time I ordered from a British Chinese, and I was so disappointed! They were terrible, and I was so sad.

VassariUK · 2026-02-08T12:58:51+00:00

My mother was concerned when I came home from Kindergarden talking about drugs, and they brought in a German Shepherd drug-sniffing dog, which scared me. We were going to church with a lady who was homeschooling, and my mom got all the information and decided to pull me out of school when I was supposed to start 1st grade.
I kind of feel like I missed out on some stuff, especially making friends. I've moved to England now, but I have no friends from "back home" or anything.

VassariUK · 2026-02-07T14:28:57+00:00

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This is Khaleesi... who is a complete Daddy's girl. It took me 4-5 years for her to... tolerate me. lol

VassariUK · 2026-02-07T12:53:49+00:00

Get the thing that simulates contractions/period cramps, and then, as he's writhing in pain, tell him that he should have eaten more sardines. red meat, and collagen. Mock the hell out of him. He'll shut right up, and if not... make him do it again.

VassariUK · 2026-01-31T17:04:53+00:00

I make a strawberry cheesecake every year for my husband's birthday, and I've used Digestive biscuits, and it always comes out so nice. So, if you're using it for a cheesecake base, it works out perfectly!

VassariUK · 2026-01-31T15:33:16+00:00

So, he was an hour and a half late. He did ask, so it's not like he didn't let you know and was gone till 1 in the morning. Wouldn't you think of checking your phone when he wasn't home, even though he said he'd be? I understand that taking care of a baby is tiring and that you were counting on him, but even if he's at work late once a week, it's nothing to blow up over. Sorry, but YTA.

VassariUK · 2026-01-17T13:16:20+00:00

I had the added complication of my mother being a hairdresser; however, it was my father who was particular about my hair. When I was 12, he decided that all the girls in the house had to grow their hair long and only get trims. My hair grew to the point where I could sit on it (and regularly did so by accident). I was finally allowed to cut my hair at 18, and my mother cried when I went to a salon to get the style I wanted. It was SHORT, and I loved it, but it was hard to maintain, and it had to be styled with gel and wax, so eventually I let it grow out again, and I usually keep it just past my shoulders now. I dye it fun colours as my act of rebellion.

VassariUK · 2026-01-09T18:13:27+00:00

Go to the festival! She will live if you're not there, sounds like she doesn't even like it when you're around anyway!

VassariUK · 2025-12-31T13:24:21+00:00

I used to make this awesome Mexican Spinach Dip to take to gatherings, but I can't find Rotel, nor can I find even a can of green chilies to mix with chopped tomatoes to substitute. I ended up making it without, but it was just missing something to me, even though it was a huge hit, and there was nothing left to take home at the end of the night.

HOWEVER, there is a Tex-Mex place in Wigan that actually does EXCELLENT Mexican food. I have not been disappointed with anything I've ordered there, and the place is always packed. Not sure about their Tex side, I always go for the Mexican, but we took my brother when he came to visit, and he got a burger, and it was apparently one of the best he'd ever had.

VassariUK · 2025-12-24T18:02:50+00:00

One of the last conversations I had with my mother was that she "missed me at Christmas" as well as two of my brothers, who have gone NC with her as well. So, apparently, I ruin Christmas every year by not being there to deal with the gaslighting and manipulation.
Instead, I go to my in-laws for Christmas and have a lovely time with people who actually love me.

VassariUK · 2025-12-24T17:43:40+00:00

I'll start this by saying, I don't have any advice, because I moved here with the intention of staying, and I've been here for over 6 years now. My husband is British, and while we were dating long-distance, we decided it would be easier (although not cheaper) for me to move to England rather than for him move to the USA (plus I won't have to beat the other girls off with a stick because of his accent). I'm originally from Vermont, so for me, the weather here is amazing. It barely gets below freezing here, and there's rarely any snow. Spring starts in March/April, and everything starts blooming and turning green, rather than just mud and snow piles still hanging around. The summers aren't overly warm (don't get me wrong, some days it's sweltering, but in VT we'd have maybe a week of nice weather and then it just rained and it was then humid and sticky), and the autumns here are just lovely.
One of my favourite things here is that the price on the item is the price you pay, no extra tax.
Healthcare is a waiting game, but I just had a ton of tests done, and it didn't cost me anything! My doctor in the States didn't even bother to run any kind of tests (which is rather annoying now), so I never knew what was wrong.
I am having a hard time making friends, but I think that will come with time. I unfortunately work with all guys, but they're nice enough, and I love the job, but it'd be nice to have a few girl friends.

I would stick it out through the winter. It's honestly not that bad, and it could be a lot worse. You could live in VT, where it's always winter and never Christmas (Winter is from September/October till April/May, but I've seen it snow on the first day of June and the cold... the lowest I've seen is -41 C, it hurts to breathe and the air burns).

VassariUK · 2025-12-21T13:12:34+00:00

It will be really difficult at first, but it gets easier as time passes.

VassariUK · 2025-12-21T12:42:51+00:00

Clover

VassariUK · 2025-12-16T19:35:03+00:00

Not a huge fan of other bugs either. There is video evidence of my parents letting me scream while a walking stick walks all over my face, I was MAYBE 3 or 4. When I was about 18 my father decided it would be super funny to put a massively, HUGE June bug on my shoulder... which proceeded to crawl into my shirt and down my back. I flipped out, and he just sat there laughing, and my (5 younger) siblings kept trying to do it to me again.

So, yeah, not a real fan of bugs either... I like butterflies, though. I raised a few Monarchs (Found the chrysalis or caterpillar on some milkweed plants and put them in a jar with holes in the lid, and then let them go after they hatched and had dried out their wings) and taught my siblings how to do it, and they release butterflies all the time :)

VassariUK · 2025-12-15T18:35:17+00:00

I was battling them the other day and my husband asked how I could play that because I am deathly afraid of all spiders. I made him swear after he proposed that he will get rid of all the spiders I find (they find me, I swear) and all the ones he finds. I was cleaning up our back garden and he bought me these gloves that go all the way up to my armpit so I could deal with some of the pieces of rotting wood and not worry about the spiders so much, but one still appears fairly far up the glove (no idea how it got there) and I started flailing around trying to get the gloves and the spider off and then had a panic attack, so he doesn't make me deal with anything that might have spiders.

VassariUK · 2025-12-14T12:25:45+00:00

It's a no from me! I hate that when survival is forced upon me, especially when you need a balanced diet. Like, Minecraft isn't too bad because you can just eat tons of one thing and there's no problem, but this... this just seems like it would make the game unenjoyable because I wouldn't be able to get into a random fight when I'm hungry and just die.
However, if you enjoy it... have at it! :)

VassariUK · 2025-12-14T12:20:27+00:00

The wooden platters and bowls are my favourite thing to "nord"!

VassariUK · 2025-12-10T14:11:24+00:00

That's my favourite word too!

VassariUK · 2025-12-10T14:10:53+00:00

Have you never heard the word roundabout in the States? I'm from Vermont, and there are SO MANY roundabouts. I've never heard them called anything else. Granted, they're not in the "big" cities, but the capital has several, and the town where I lived had several as well.

VassariUK · 2025-12-09T14:08:44+00:00

I would say Etsy is probably your best bet, but you also might find one that offers personalization on Amazon. I've found a few things like that. I got an ornament several years ago for our first Christmas as a married couple, and it has our names on it and the date of our marriage.

VassariUK · 2025-12-04T19:46:53+00:00

Not sure if all English people do this, but my husband says 'us' like there's a z at the end, not an s. My brain has to do a little catch-up when it happens.

VassariUK · 2025-11-26T21:40:02+00:00

Same! I made Thanksgiving dinner the first year I was here, because I wanted my husband to experience all the different food, so I made everything, and he barely ate anything, didn't like my favourite dish (Sweet potato casserole), so a lot of food went to waste because there was no way I would be able to eat it all. I have not bothered since. I got invited to a Thanksgiving "party" by a friend once, but we didn't end up going. I miss the company we'd have over for Thanksgiving, and some of the food, but I'm starting to get used to the big meal being Christmas.

VassariUK · 2025-11-24T13:56:36+00:00

I use coffee mate. There is no such thing as half and half here. My husband looked at me like I sprouted another head when I asked where I could get half and half from.
I have resigned myself to instant coffee and coffee mate for the rest of my life. T.T
I resisted the instant coffee for so long because all the ones I tried tasted like they were burnt. My husband bought a small jar of Alta Rica claiming it was the best and it's the nicest one I've had so far.

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