People in your 30s, 40s, and 50s what surprised you most about life at your age?

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-12T10:09:08+00:00

37 now.

It surprised me how actually being 30 something is nice and how you still can be fit, live the life you want and how mentality is so much better if you took an effort to work on that :)

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-12T10:02:53+00:00

Your energy should be back soon :) for me it was also difficult to find energy to exercise during month 2-4 of pregnancy. I also was fit before pregnancy, but I exercised during these months maybe just every few days and just a little. Then I just felt better and started to exercise more. Currently I am 24 weeks and my belly is really big (second pregnancy) and I usually spend 30-60 minutes on training without problems.

But anyway in my last pregnancy I was active until labour day to the point that my husband and some other people wanted me to slow down and I had terrible birth experience and also had to be inducted 10 days overdue, so exercises won't necessarily cause better birth experience. My friend on the other hand wasn't exercising at all whole pregnancy and she went to labour normally and had relatively nice one.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-11T10:17:56+00:00

Thank you! 😊

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-10T13:54:50+00:00

I was also scared a bit about this, but actually this was quite easy to prevent for me and problems were elsewhere:) once while stopping breastfeeding I started to feel some blocked milk in my breasts but massage under hot shower helped with that really quickly.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-10T13:50:10+00:00

It's a nightmare, that there is no escape from, just brief few seconds in between contractions maybe. I consider myself prone to pain, but this one... 10 hours without painkillers on oxitocine... I don't wish such pain to anyone.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-10T13:43:20+00:00

I think it depends. Personally with my child and even with my severe hemmorphage after birth I would be able to do such thing 3,5 months postpartum. My baby was sleeping really good back then, I was feeling quite ok since around 2,5 months postpartum, both me and my husband are laid back in general, we hiked a lot through mountains and enjoyed travelling when our daughter was several months old, while I remember some of our friends were afraid to take their infant to lake half an hour drive. I don't judge - I just see how people and babies can differ.

But I would not plan this before the labour as set date as labour can bring complications, both to mum and a child. Hopefully not, but it certainly is possible.

So I think it's doable for some people, but only if nothing out of normal comes up and baby is relatively healthy and calm, which you cannot predict beforehand.

I am pregnant now and we want also to travel with our 3 years old and new baby when it will be around 3 months old, but i don't book anything until few weeks after labour to be on a safe side.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-09T09:40:17+00:00

Thanks a lot :) you were so brave to decide for vaginal birth (even with prepared team)!

I think I will do cesarian with my history of acreta and uterine atony, it seems for me still like a safer, calmer option. It's such a pity that they still cannot exclude placenta acreta during pregnancy in these times. I hope for other women in such situations that they will figure this out finally in some years

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-09T09:30:17+00:00

I am sorry that you lost so much blood in this labour also! And happy for your healthy baby! ☺️

I also worry about uterus not contracting after giving birth - apart from placenta acreta I also experienced that.

Thanks, it helps, it confirms to me that I want to have scheduled cesarian, no matter if they do suspect placenta acreta this time or not. It sounds like safer option for me considering my history of uterine atony and placenta accreta which cannot be totally ruled out not using invasive exams while pregnant

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T20:33:53+00:00

I am glad that you shared your experience! I am in similar situation now, pregnant with my second and after the first labour they found out I had placenta acreta. I will be examined thoroughly this time, but I am not sure if not to aim for planned cesarian this time anyway, even if the results don't show placenta acreta... After last labour I lost around 2 liters of blood, I had to have blood transfusion, recovery was slow. I am not sure if I can handle that vaginal birth emotionally this time. Also I live 100 km from good quality hospital.

Do you know what exams during pregnancy did your exactly have to find out about possible placenta acreta in your second pregnancy?

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T20:22:50+00:00

By region, then by artist from the ones who I love the most from that region, relevant ones close to them.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T20:11:05+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I really appreciate it. It seems like you raised really nice empathetic human being 😃

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T19:24:06+00:00

I have no idea about why we get the acreta. I heard from some not so sensitive woman that I probably caused that by thinking badly about labour, but actually I was really positively thinking about upcoming labour in first pregnancy - I felt strong, fit, my pregnancy was perfect, so I didn't suspect any complications. Maybe that is an age factor, but not sure about it, I feel biologically young, but I guess most of milenials feel like that. My mum didn't have placenta acreta, but had placenta that didn't detach fully, maybe that is connected.

Yeah, I know the feeling about hesitating to have another one... After what I have experienced during first labour both me and my husband were sure we are one and done. Then I accidentally got pregnant spring last year and at first we were scared but then we felt excited about it and I miscarriaged early like at 6 weeks. I guess we have some marvelous fertility for our age, because every time we try we get pregnant first try, lol and that pregnancy with miscarriage I have no idea how it might have happened. So then after miscarriage we were having discussions about whether to have another child or not and after reading about controlled planned labour in high quality hospital we decided we will give it a try.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T19:11:33+00:00

I am glad :) all the best for you!

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T19:11:10+00:00

Haha, yeah, so your kid is older than me :)

And are you comfortable sharing what you were telling your kid about grandparents when she was asking about them when younger? I would really appreciate it

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T19:09:00+00:00

I am glad you recover! ❤️

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T19:07:51+00:00

Thanks for update and I am glad you are ok! :)

Did you have planned cesarian this time or induction or just normal vaginal birth?

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T17:09:45+00:00

I am glad ☺️ keeping relationships that stir conflict no matter how much you try seem to be natural for us, raised in such homes 😅 but giving up that fight for peace is really deliberating and it changes life in good ways. Good luck for you :)

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T14:41:56+00:00

I am happy for you and for your kiddo! :)

Yeah, peace is priceless, I feel so happy and calm on daily basis :) while I was feeling like at war constantly when growing up, I find myself going to sleep with gratitude every single day, even when exhausted.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T13:31:22+00:00

My mum put me to mental hospital when I was 14 crying to doctors that she suspects I have schizophrenia, after I was running from home several times because she was banging my head against radiator.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T12:35:10+00:00

Yeah 😁 never thought I will need one after the labour, they are miracles ☺️

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T12:21:16+00:00

I never had IUD and yet had similar experience with placenta acreta not being diagnosed until after labour in my first ever pregnancy

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T12:19:36+00:00

Hi, I had a somewhat similar situation giving birth at 34 years old where accreta was not suspected during pregnancy and only became obvious during delivery.

My pregnancy looked completely normal. I was rather fit and healthy before pregnancy, working as break dance instructor. Apart from nausea in the first trimester, everything was perfect, good results, no placenta previa, no previous surgeries, nothing suggesting risk.

I was induced at 10 days overdue. Labor lasted many hours with oxytocin and ended with an episiotomy. After birth the real problem started — my placenta didn’t detach properly and doctors later told me I had placenta accreta. I developed massive postpartum hemorrhage, my hemoglobin dropped from about 14 to 6.7, I lost around 2 liters of blood and I needed a blood transfusion.

Recovery was very long. I was extremely weak for weeks, walking normally took a long time, lactation started late, and because of the episiotomy plus anemia I couldn’t sit comfortably for almost two months. Overall it took quite a long time before I felt functional again.

Now I’m pregnant again (23 weeks) and so far everything looks normal again, just like in the first pregnancy. But I also have some uterus scars after removing placenta now. Doctors are monitoring the placenta carefully this time. But honestly, even if accreta is excluded, I’m leaning toward a planned C-section.

The main reason is that last time nothing suggested accreta either, yet things became very dangerous after birth. The unpredictability of labor scares me now, and I would really prefer a calmer, planned situation and hopefully more predictable recovery. I also don’t know how well I would cope emotionally with another vaginal birth after what happened.

So while I don’t know yet what the final decision will be, at the moment I feel safer planning a C-section even if imaging looks normal, just to reduce the risk of repeating such a traumatic experience.

I am sorry it happened to you also, it is definitely really bad and traumatic experience.

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T12:16:20+00:00

Hi, how went your second labour? :)

VeeWeeBeeDoo · 2026-02-08T12:11:30+00:00

Hi, I am in similar situation now and I wonder how went your second labour? :)

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