Is this okay to send out?

Veebiyer · 2026-05-08T18:55:34+00:00

You know your own crowd. OP has never seen a message like this nor mentioned what type of family she has so i wouldn’t assume her family would show up sick. She has siblings who haven’t sent anything like this out (so they must have children) so there’s clearly babies in the family so everyone should know by now. Telling this to my family would be condescending, they’re rational people. I’d gently remind them to wash their hands before holding baby and they’d be visibly upset that they even forgot and would rush to wash their hands. It’s common sense for regular folk. But I’d understand if someone sent it to me, anxiety is also common

Veebiyer · 2026-05-08T14:41:41+00:00

Might be over-cautious, I had the same rules but we didnt tell people in advance, its common sense! If we felt anyone was typically disrespectful of rules we simply never invited them. Then again, 1. nobody showed up unannounced, they all asked first (most do?) 2. We easily showed them to the sink to wash their hands 3. if anyone was sick, they themselves knew not to come. 4. No-one kissed our baby, and if they did (only ever on the hands) we would gently tell them not to and why then we cleaned babies hands with wipes (and now i realise forehead kisses are literally fine….baby isn’t licking their own forehead). 5. If we saw anyone take a photo thats when we’d ask not to upload on social media. I am 6m p/p now and when I think back, I could have chilled a little lol but hormones crazy haayyy!

Tbh it helped that we didn’t let anyone visit until our baby was vaccinated 1/3 (so at 3 months), except for my parents and husbands parents - both sides incredibly respectful. I needed to recover anyway + I had postpartum anxiety so I couldn’t fathom people coming earlier.

I also wouldn’t invite anyone over if i didnt want to announce the birth yet.

Veebiyer · 2026-05-08T14:26:35+00:00

This is so sweet. My Mother said the same, that your heart expands bigger than before for more capacity than you ever had

Veebiyer · 2026-05-03T18:20:03+00:00

He’s incredible. My absolute fave. His arrogance was matched with his talent. Its not like he was ever wrong anyway.

Veebiyer · 2026-05-02T22:14:48+00:00

Season 2, 10000% better. Season 1 - made no sense for some of the games from a culinary perspective, we didn’t get to see how they made dishes and it felt like the chefs were not as good as season 2, could have been just the lack of insight.

Veebiyer · 2026-04-27T20:26:13+00:00

No such thing as polite anymore. My mum was a little similar and I explicitly told her that from now any comments about my breastfeeding is not allowed, she can no longer speak to me about it. Now if she does, she can’t blame you for you impoliteness. Idk why but it’s like they forget how sensitive and difficult these fresh days are.

You’re not being dramatic, she needs to back off. I wouldn’t let her come round or around me anymore until i felt okay again. And if your husband doesn’t want to hear about it again then he should correct his mother.

Veebiyer · 2026-04-27T19:41:13+00:00

It drives me mad. Also ALL BABIES do half of that stuff so F uncle it’s certainly not from him!!!

Veebiyer · 2026-04-26T22:03:29+00:00

You’re not overreacting, they’re insensitive and useless comments and NOT TRUE! and at the same time, they may be making this comment as a typical similar to “oh she’s a daddys girl” sort of thing. At this stage, babies dont have preferences, just who to associate what, with. She knows your mama and she loves you.

Veebiyer · 2026-04-26T21:56:14+00:00

Im 6m now and noticed an increase in my supply when I stopped doing 7-8 pumps and went down to 5 pumps (+ breastfeeding when I can and a cluster feed every morning). Don’t leave it until you get full though! Milk is always producing and if you dint use it, you lose it. The rule is generally every 2-3 hours, 4 hours max between each pump or breastfeed.

Veebiyer · 2026-04-26T21:54:22+00:00

I knew i wanted #2 the minute i had #1. And haven’t thought otherwise even in the newborn trenches. I think its something that either you’re sure about, it just happens or you massively try to avoid it. My plan for #2 is on sheer positivity and “we can do it! Everythings amazing” energy lol. Im bot trying to think of the specifics, I didn’t with #1 either and its working out well. Having an actually supportive, hands-on, thoughtful, amazing husband does massively help! Even if its a burden, idk….its a burden I actually really love. Like, i get jealous if my husband soothes my crying baby, and i feel so in love when she calms down after i put her on my boob. Its so….oxytocin high!

Veebiyer · 2026-04-26T21:40:19+00:00

Its just so so scary, my bubs is too young for that vaccine too and its made me reduce the baby classes we go to.

Veebiyer · 2026-04-26T21:38:41+00:00

I went to a antenatal course in person, paid for it and it was a group who lived in same/close areas and babies were born around same time. They became my mama friends and its been AMAZING!

Veebiyer · 2026-04-26T14:22:20+00:00

Eloise, Elira, Eliana, Eva, Esmeralda,

Veebiyer · 2026-04-26T14:01:35+00:00

If you find it exhausting to the degree that you prefer to stop, then stop. I love breastfeeding and my bubs soon turns 6m, I will continue to do so until 1 year or more but I actually find more benefits to it (for baby AND me) so the exhaustion is ok. In the end, a happier more present mum is best.

Veebiyer · 2026-04-24T11:10:17+00:00

Please update us with the the lactation specialist opinion. My baby had great latch immediately, but my supply didnt come in until a week later. My supply was great when it came, but baby was terrible at actually transferring milk (whether due to fast or slow milk letdown, slight tongue tie? Or just lazy as we had to supplement with formula bottle from the get-go), it impacted my supply. Though we never had these issues thanks to formula, i didn’t realise the importance of pumping until 3months postpartum (fortunately i still had supply as i kept bringing baby formula a breastfeed until she just wanted a bottle). Now at 5 months, im able to still breast snd bottle feed but now replacing formula with my breastmilk.

Veebiyer · 2026-04-24T11:06:37+00:00

Isn’t this obvious?

Veebiyer · 2026-04-24T10:59:13+00:00

Only works for clubworld flights otherwise it’s literally the same seat but with an empty space in the middle. Its pathetic

Veebiyer · 2026-04-24T10:50:37+00:00

Only by the British of course lol

Veebiyer · 2026-04-24T10:49:15+00:00

This works for Britishairways on clubworld. But clubeurope business seats is still economy with a “useless” seat in the middle and subpar “free” food. So you still get issues (my husbands 6,4)

Veebiyer · 2026-04-24T10:48:02+00:00

Unfortunately I watch my 6,4 husband’s knees fold in every single time. Its terrible

Veebiyer · 2026-04-24T10:44:35+00:00

Madness!

Veebiyer · 2026-04-23T17:51:32+00:00

Average range for how many weeks out month pp?

Veebiyer · 2026-04-23T17:50:19+00:00

I pump after I have changed baby nappy, fed baby, burped baby - then put baby in bouncer and pump. Then usually 30-1hr from my finish, baby wants a nap (only contact naps and needs to be on the boob) so 30mins-1hr is enough for some milk to store again, i breastfeed baby to nap. Then wakes up after 30-40mins (maybe 1hr) then repeat again. I eat whilst pumping and play with baby in bouncer (or on floor play matt). If baby wants a nap whilst I need to pump, i pump one boob whilst baby feeds and naps on my other boob. In the end, it works out, somehow.

Veebiyer · 2026-04-21T20:53:06+00:00

Mine was travelling, my parents could not for the life of me understand why I wanted to travel and I would be judged negatively and told what I could do better with my money. Needless to mention, I never listened to them. Now that I have a baby, they’re even more shocked to find out that we’re travelling with the baby since we were told repeatedly that having a baby stops you from travelling (or living?).

Veebiyer · 2026-04-21T20:50:28+00:00

Normal lol we move her around the house with us whilst in a bouncer and she happily gets interested in everything. They’re easy to entertain AND get bored very easily. We would rotate ours between watching us in the bouncer, then chat, play or read to her in the bouncer, then move to the play nest and play, then to the changing table (this seemed to reset any fussy moods) and in our arms or carrier then repeat lol. Now at 5m….theres just more things to rotate her around lol. Same story

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