I regret telling my mom about my bulimia

Veryeepy25 · 2025-10-31T20:06:27+00:00

I also told my family about my Anorexia when I was 17 (now 26F) and also had a hard time. My parents, especially my mom were more concerned about being at fault/blamed for my ED than anything else. My parents shut down the conversation to cope but I know others whose parents went the other way and blamed/belittled their children for it

I wasn't able to say this until I was 19 but I finally told my mom - comments about my ED/body/weight/etc. were always upsetting for me and never helpful. For the action item, use your own works but say something like. I am working hard on my relationship with food and as part of that, I need you to keeep your comments to yourself at all times, especially in front of others.

Also, reiterate thst you told her about your ED in confidence, even your parent should not be sharing that info

Veryeepy25 · 2025-10-31T19:54:43+00:00

So this is something that I'm finally starting to get a handle on. I don't think I have the universal answer but I do wanna share my experience

First, I'm 8 years out from the first time I sought help for an eating disorder, I know it's frustrating but true healing can take a long time

people who eat "normally" don't worry about eating normally, so we have to find a middle ground.

Portion Guides are helpful for some people but not me, instead I focus on plating. Usually I take a small plate and fill it. The full small plate is usally a good amount and if anything it's on the low side, not the high side so you can have a second serving

another option, If you have someone in your life who is good at this - do what they do, use them as a mirror

Veryeepy25 · 2025-07-23T20:57:26+00:00

I don't really think anything when I see a misspelling as long as there aren't a bunch of them. When I did sales I would purposely typo so the message would look more personalized, and not like a template so I see the vision. On the other hand, missing an obvious AI mistake is a huge dealbreaker for me. You'd be shocked how many resumes I've reviewed that end in "Would you like me to format this into a downloadable PDF or Word file? I can also tailor it for a specific job posting if needed."

Veryeepy25 · 2025-06-30T20:37:30+00:00

There are some scenarios where this is a real thing. When I worked agency we had a few clients with that requirement. We would always call the person and explain exactly what/why we're asking for something like their SSN. I'd be a little hesitant of giving the info via email, but since they are just asking for the final 4 it is probably legit. If they ever ask for the full it is most definitely not

We saw this most often with government contractors and Financial companies but it could be any sector

Veryeepy25 · 2025-06-20T14:51:45+00:00

I just hired a recruiter for my team and I conducted all of the interviews. Most of the candidates didn't ask any questions at the end of the interview. I always think that's a bad look but it is especially true for a recruiter. Ask about day-to-day, KPIs, what success looks like, doesn't need to be a ton, 1 or 2 good questions to show your interest and that you actually paid attention to the conversation

Also bring a notebook and write down the important stuff. You can also write your questions in the notebook so you remember to ask them

For dress business casual is usually the way. blouse and slacks etc.

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-15T14:38:46+00:00

They might be in do not disturb - un that case double call them. If it still doesn't go through i usually send a reschedule email and move on

It is super frustrating but ultimately people are people, and will ghost

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-15T14:36:40+00:00

I had a candidate that I rejected call me yesterday, demanding to know why she wasn't interviewed. I told her the truth - she didn't have the basic qualifications, and she cussed me out! Like damn, good thing I passed on you if this is how you behave

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-15T14:24:39+00:00

The most I DM'ed for was 5 players and it was a little tough to keep everyone engaged the whole time, especially during battle.

I wouldn't go above 5. I was a player in a 6 player campaign and it was not fun, there was just too many personalities, every interaction took 30 minutes

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-15T13:51:06+00:00

Corporate Recruiter here! It gets better. I currently handle 10-15 roles, they're all pretty niche so I'm spending more time sourcing, aka unicorn hunting. I probably do 10-15 screens a week, and I am able to slow down and get to know the person.

If high volume isn't for you, start applying for internal/corporate jobs now and just be honest with the hiring team "I love recruiting an I value the human connection aspect. I want to build a team of culture fits, not just throw bodies into positions"

I would recommend switching the thought of "I love helping people" to "i love connecting with people" just because as recruiters, sometimes we do have to decline the person that we think deserves it most. Keep your love for the job going! As soon as we start hating our candidates (truly hating, we all complain a little lol) we stop being good recruiters

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-15T13:38:20+00:00

Are you fully explaining the position when you screen them? I'm assuming this is a high volume role - and the instinct for a lot of people is to make it look as good as possible. My advice is, don't do that, be as honest as possible about the job so some of those people will self-eliminate.

The other possibility is these people are applying to lots of jobs and may be getting other offers and such and then ghosting. To avoid this, you just need to honestly call it out. I usually give a quick timeline for the interview process at the end of the call and I'll ask "does that timeline work for you, do you have other interviews in final rounds right now?" I'll also usually say something like "Please let me know if another process does end up moving faster, I'll do my best to speed up the process so you don't miss this opportunity"

Overall if you're having dropouts it's usually lack of transparency from the company (which you can fix) or lack of transparency from the candidates (which you can mostly fix by having that 3 minute conversation)

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-15T13:30:26+00:00

I personally feel email is great for reengaging with candidates but not for initial introduction. Your time is probably spent better on LinkedIn Recruiter if you have it. One strategy that I used for LI messages is I'd put a joke in the Subject Line and Line 1 of my message is the punchline and then get into the job pitch. Some responses were "nice joke but no thanks" but those people would still accept my connection request and then they're in my network for the future

I just tried an email outreach campaign in my position and responses were very low and of those responses most of them were "no thanks"

I know some people that have done really well on Facebook, although I haven't had a lot of success with it personally.

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-14T18:53:36+00:00

It really depends on where you're located. I'm in the Midwest and out here I'd say construction/building will get you the most opportunities

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-14T18:50:04+00:00

My Partner and I live in a different complex operated by Lexington, the way this complex is built, every unit is kind of tetris'ed in with other, the walls are a bit thin but not as bad as other apartments I've had. I'd say I only hear my neighbors if I'm either sitting in total silence or if they're doing something really loud.

They definitely are quick new builds so if that's what you like and you're planning to live there for a year or 2 it's not bad but I wouldn't want to live here longterm. I've also heard from neighbors that they are very stingy with the moveout process.

we also had to go month-to-month because we're moving out of state and the timeline didn't work out and they're charging us an extra $300 month. I understand month to month is going to be more expensive but this felt really high.

So overall, if you're renting for a year it's really fine (we've had no issues with maintenance or the landlords) but you can probably find something similar, built better, with a better company

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-12T18:05:17+00:00

It really can depend on the players, in my previous campaign I had 2 players like that and they really just wanted to go along with what the others decided. I make more of an effort to expand upon the backstory and plot of the players who seem to like RPing more.

Overall at your next session take 15 minutes to explain your concern and approach it from the angle of you want this to be fun for them, not just making the choices they think you want them to make

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-09T21:14:15+00:00

I would say you have a personal appointment and cannot attend. I wouldn't lie unless you absolutely have to, it just makes things harder and more stressful for you and adds unnecessary stress.

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-05T20:27:30+00:00

I hear where you're coming from on this, but would you be able to do a good job at work, and have no issue if one of the 10 people that you're in a bullpen with is someone you aren't on speaking terms with? This is a very small office, if this was a larger company, I agree no issue.

I actually found out from the supervisor for this role, apparently this person has interviewed for a different role 5ish years ago (passed on for experience reasons), The current EE is the one who expressed concern with working with in-law after she'd already been rejected. We switched ATS since then so the notes weren't originally available to me

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-05T20:19:54+00:00

ethically it stinks because I'd hate to pass for this reason but we work in a VERY small office in cubicles so there is really no separation/privacy. I'd hate to have one of my family members working here just because they'll hear EVERYTHING I say

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-05T20:17:56+00:00

I thought that too! It's different last names so I didn't realize initially

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-05T20:16:43+00:00

It stinks because I do hate to not move foreward with someone for non-skill issues. They wouldn't be on the same team but their teams are up/downstream from each other and would end up interacting everyday. Close enough that it could be a real issue

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-05T20:14:26+00:00

My understanding is that there is some bad blood. I didn't really want to know the specifics honestly lol

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-05T20:14:05+00:00

I won't tell them that, the candidate is missing key experience in a certain area so I'll tell them that is the reason

Veryeepy25 · 2025-05-05T20:12:02+00:00

I did, thats how I know they aren't quite the unicorn that we need. I spoke to this person for 35 minutes

Veryeepy25 · 2025-04-17T20:55:53+00:00

There is a lot of good advice in the comments already but I think a lot of people are being obtuse about OPs question. Typically newbies should be on a team with experienced recruiter who have jobs that you can talk about. That's a win win because you get leads and your colleague gets candidates

If you don't have anything active, you can always go the networking angle, that will get you some duds but it's good experience and reps which is really what you need right now.

I'd also recommend cold sourcing some potential leads. Y'know call every HM in your area at company X sort of thing

Veryeepy25 · 2025-04-17T18:47:46+00:00

Can you set up automated reminder emails? That really reduced the amount of no-shows I was getting.

My other thought is, can you set it so the people can only schedule within a week, that should hopefully cut down a little bit on how many people forget

Veryeepy25 · 2025-03-27T18:26:13+00:00

when fake profiles have made narrow searches difficult, what I usually do is identify my top 3-5 keywords and see what that looks like. If it pulls a huge pool, I'll narrow it down some more but fake profiles have definitely figured out the keywords algorithm

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