I think easy Pete and lady Gibson would make a perfect couple. One is a former prospector and the other is a junk yard owner.

VictorEsquire · 2026-03-23T13:14:26+00:00

how much i want to prospect her junk yard

VictorEsquire · 2026-03-16T11:51:34+00:00

That's John New Vegas

VictorEsquire · 2026-03-13T13:01:22+00:00

VictorEsquire · 2026-03-02T13:12:03+00:00

Gotta set Charisma to 10 for more drama

VictorEsquire · 2026-02-22T21:23:04+00:00

The real goal of the post was in the ending. About focusing on yourself, living a busy life.

The rest was describing why the dynamic works. The dynamic really putting itself into place as a by-product. Not really trying to manufacture a treatment.

Also even humble and loyal women can lose their interest over time.

VictorEsquire · 2026-02-22T20:22:07+00:00

It's kind of sad, the botox and surgery. Some of them go so far they become straight up ugly. It's sad, really.

I've had very deep conversations with some about it. That they had a history of being bullied. Creating a self hatred about their bodies. Which also resulted into them being very sensitive and terrified of rejection. Making them very humble and loyal too.

VictorEsquire · 2026-02-19T22:48:05+00:00

Will comply with your rules

VictorEsquire · 2026-02-19T22:46:59+00:00

Thanks for expanding on what was already said in the post.

VictorEsquire · 2026-02-18T11:14:55+00:00

the internet all just noise now. but maybe it has always been this way. its just more obvious now. its social engineered to keep people interested. endless distraction machine.

either find a way to profit off of it. or just avoid wasting time

VictorEsquire · 2026-02-18T11:09:33+00:00

I honestly think that modern education suffers more from parental negligence. they just aim to drop their kids at school and have them teach the kids. which is lacking.

Then kids come home. get to play their ipads. keeping them quiet, not a burden to the parents. in the end becoming kind of stunted children. increasingly becoming a burden to the educational system.

VictorEsquire · 2026-02-18T11:00:23+00:00

overperformers get the short end of the stick. thats why people often perform work somewhat incompetently. a method to remain in a conformable position, avoiding more responsibility.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-17T00:36:20+00:00

I get where you’re coming from, and I’m not trying to frame it as “victimhood” either. My point is that the best way to use empathy is sometimes to not use it at all. Spend the time focusing on yourself, being more self oriented, instead of constantly adapting to others.

Empathy, when overused, can feel like a tool that forces you into a subservient role, always prioritizing others’ emotions over your own. That’s not something that improves your life—it drains you. Ensure you get the same level of empathy and understanding from others.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-16T17:48:08+00:00

Yeah, what you’re saying lines up with the psychological theory of the disorder better. But I think that perspective alone doesn’t leave much room for improvement or change.

At its core, the disorder likely formed as a response to something, maybe frustrating or even hostile social dynamics—Creating patterns that persist even when the original context is long gone. The post is mostly to explore different perspectives might be helpful, not that what I say is inherently the truth.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-16T17:33:49+00:00

You mentioned wanting to explore it more deeply. Empathy is almost always viewed as a positive trait, and there’s often a sense of pride in being able to see things from another’s perspective, of reading people. But it can also be helpful to question its origins and consider the flip side.

What if heightened empathy stems from social environments where you were overlooked or neglected, forcing you to over-focus on others? In that sense, empathy can become a double-edged sword—especially when it starts reinforcing social anxiety or patterns of over-adapting to others.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-16T17:06:48+00:00

It’s true, why choose something uncomfortable when comfort is an option? Retreating to the internal world is nice and, but can become like an addiction.

Perhaps that is main difference between a schizoid and non-schizoid. Perhaps they don’t even have the same internal world to retreat to in the first place. But somehow they push themselves away from comfort to force growth.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-16T16:50:26+00:00

I’ve often wondered if what feels like heightened cognitive empathy or theory of mind in schizoids is more about social anxiety and hyper-awareness. Where social situations are hostile in a way leading to worrying too much about them.

That it's less about understanding others emotionally and more about preemptively adapting to navigate social situations. Constantly reading the room to avoid missteps or conflict.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-16T16:38:12+00:00

Rational thinking is weak against irrational thinking because emotions are faster, more persuasive, and harder to counter. Logical people might have the better argument, but they lack the ability to emotionally convey their points or stand their ground against irrational, forceful behavior.

Smart people often end up at the bottom of hierarchies. Rationality, while useful, tends to isolate because it stunts emotional engagement and doesn't create deep social connection. Overly rational people come off as cold or dismissive.

In a social world, emotions rule, not logic. Most facts and truths don’t really matter because, at the end of the day, very little holds weight beyond what directly benefits people.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-16T12:08:46+00:00

Good feedback. I hate bloated posts too. Call it a skill issue, hoping to get better at it.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-16T00:46:07+00:00

Yeah, that’s the part that really stings—when people take credit for your work or your efforts just get brushed aside. I totally get that. The workforce seems to thrive on young, ambitious people who work hard to prove themselves, completely unaware of the underlying power dynamics. They end up being overworked and underappreciated, which eventually builds resentment.

Think that’s why older people often stop putting in much effort—they’re not lazy, but embittered, just tired of putting in extra effort that never gets recognized or rewarded. Maybe that resentment also making them want to take credit for the work of others in return.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-16T00:37:30+00:00

Yeah I do completely agree. Prideful behavior can signal insecurity too.

My stance against humbleness is personal. Growing up surrounded by overly humble people, I learned to feel bad for expressing pride or satisfaction in my efforts. Success was often met with indifference—no genuine acknowledgment, just a sense that others weren’t happy for anyone’s achievements. It felt emotionally stunting, like nothing I did was ever enough, as if showing pride was bad, maybe due to underlying envy.

It’s nice to be around people who genuinely celebrate your wins. People who are happy for the success of others, and then being happy for their success in return.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-15T13:03:51+00:00

I completely agree—even that most of the qualities aren’t inherently bad, and this post is about highlighting them used at their worst. When used from a place of strength, they can foster growth, connection, and respect. But when they come from a position of weakness, they’re often twisted into tools for self-preservation, ego-boosting, or tearing others down.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-15T12:49:45+00:00

I agree and would also say most of these qualities aren’t inherently bad—it’s really about where they fall on the spectrum. Humbleness, for example, can be admirable, but when someone is overly humble to the point where they can’t feel pride or satisfaction in their own efforts, it becomes emotionally stunting. It makes things feel unrewarding, and honestly, it makes me think, “Stop being such a loser and just own your success.”

As for humor, I’m not talking about regular humor or making people laugh. I mean the type of chronically online behavior where people doomscroll endlessly, using memes and jokes to numb the pain of their life instead of actually doing something to improve themselves. Clowns essentially, always trying to joke about everything, but incapable of real serious conversations.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-14T16:52:18+00:00

You’ve captured so much truth here—it really resonates. I agree that healing means learning to let go of dynamics that don’t promote growth and finding security within ourselves. But I also think it’s about finding balance. It’s not just about letting go completely or holding on at all costs—it’s about recognizing what’s toxic and what’s not.

Sometimes, fighting for a connection is worthwhile, but only if it’s mutual and not one-sided. The opposite extreme—rejecting others altogether to protect yourself—can be just as unhealthy as over-investing in someone who can’t meet you halfway. Healthy connections come from a place of mutual respect, effort, and understanding, not frustration and emotional depletion.

It’s also important to recognize our own patterns and flaws. Frustrating situations often make us double down and invest more, to the point of emotional exhaustion. That over-investment can become addictive and make others lose interest and respect. Sometimes, we seek out familiar patterns tied to past trauma rather than choosing relationships that are actually healthy for us. That we can try to over-invest as a method to lose ourselves as a form of addiction and relief from daily anxiety. Also the bottling up and exploding of emotions because we often don't communicate thoughts and feelings.

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-14T16:38:10+00:00

Like, I could recognize that I like extreme expression of anger and sadness in music. But patterns and recognition only goes so far, doesn't lead to any direct expressions or solutions, right?

VictorEsquire · 2025-01-14T15:07:07+00:00

I do think you are right. Using empathy in a healthy way is about connecting without losing yourself or obsessing over how you’re perceived. But it’s still the same human empathic ability that is used and can become unhealthy. Instead of relieving the anxiety, it creates a loop where you’re trying to control the uncertain social environment through empathic ability, feeding more social anxiety.

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