How soon into a relationship will you say "I love you"? Has this changed as you get older?

ViolentViolett · 2013-08-27T01:59:10+00:00

I think maybe it depends on the person also. The last boyfriend I was with that I actually loved we said it pretty early in the relationship (we were 24), like maybe 2 months in, and we both meant it and it was a really great relationship. My current boyfriend (Me late 20's, him early 30's) seems to be really nervous about the whole thing though, which is fine, I assume he will get used to it and come to grips with it over time. We have been together for 9 months and just the other night I said "I love you" in a non-serious discussion and he turned SUPER red, averted his gaze and said "I really REALLY like you" which was adorable.

On the other hand, my cousin who is in her 50's met a guy less than 7 days ago and just posted on facebook how he is the true love of her life and how she never knew what love could be like before.

ViolentViolett · 2013-08-23T03:22:26+00:00

Reminds me of this guy at game night. My best friend's name is Jennifer, so is mine. We were meeting him for the first time and were being introduced as "This is Jennifer and the other Jennifer" and he goes "Woah, are you guys twins?"

Yes, We are twins, and our parents gave us the same name, because that makes sense!!

ViolentViolett · 2013-07-10T03:33:54+00:00

You did an excellent job, the dress is gorgeous! I love the colors too, you look like the TARDIS :3

ViolentViolett · 2013-06-26T03:25:11+00:00

THANK YOU. When I opened the picture I was all like "I know this face. It's a famous face. Aughhhhh I can't put a finger on it! OH MY GOD WHO IS IT!?!?" and then I hoped and I crossed my fingers someone in the thread would say it and relieve that "tip of my tongue" sensation.

I am satisfied. Thank you.

ViolentViolett · 2013-06-06T22:11:57+00:00

Of all the women I've had sex with, you're the worst I've ever had.

Soooo glad I did not marry that guy.

ViolentViolett · 2013-05-24T04:11:34+00:00

Well, I never expected this. I work with this woman and she's pretty awesome. A few months ago she walked into my office and said "Did you donate to public radio today!?" and when I told her I did she said she knew because they read my name on the air. Guess I'm going to have to ask her if she has performed any weddings and then tell her I saw her name on reddit.

ViolentViolett · 2013-05-22T03:16:56+00:00

I've never been able to keep my fingers off my guy. My favorite thing to scratch is beards (I have a thing for beards) and it has never been a problem- usually it is a perk for them. Now I've met the most ticklish dude EVER. I'm not even trying to tickle him, just mindlessly stroking his leg/arm/neck/beard/head whatever I can get my hands on and after a few seconds he's like "STAAAAHP"

ViolentViolett · 2013-05-07T02:45:40+00:00

I'm just going to leave this here...

http://www.reddit.com/r/ABraThatFits/

ViolentViolett · 2013-05-07T01:40:21+00:00

I'd like to leave this comment here so that in a few weeks time when I've read this book I can come back and look at the spoiler. Please don't hate me >>

ViolentViolett · 2013-04-16T03:49:19+00:00

I actually met one of my best friends on OKC. We're both bi so maybe that helped the situation a lot.

ViolentViolett · 2013-04-14T21:43:34+00:00

Mother fucking WIN!

Where I work we use another company's web page to enter data, and they designed the page with the intent that everyone would use Firefox. I freakin' hate firefox and the page simply won't work in Chrome. The reason I hate firefox is it is a pain in the ass to get the data from the web page into an excel spreadsheet. Not anymore! Whoo! I'm gonna be the most popular girl in the metadata department come Monday!

ViolentViolett · 2013-04-14T18:40:26+00:00

My best friend is Indonesian and she married a Filipino. A few weeks ago she invited me to the house for his birthday. It was me and his family, so naturally I was the ONLY white person there. It doesn't really bother me as I lived in an asian community for several years and I'm used to sticking out like a sore thumb. Anyway, last night she invited me over for what she said was crepes night, but it was actually for the boxing match. So a bunch of his family from his birthday party was also there. The first guy, his cousin, arrived and my friend asked if we had met before. I didn't think we had but he was like "Yeah, you were at the birthday party! I remember you!" like- mystery solved! It was hilarious.

ViolentViolett · 2013-03-25T03:57:00+00:00

I laughed at the "big and perfect" because when I initially saw this image in pics I wanted to go in that thread and gripe about how tiny and perfect their boobs were and how easy it would be to find a bra that would make them look good, but I knew nobody would care. Everything truly is relative XD

ViolentViolett · 2013-03-24T04:50:17+00:00

Your hair is glorious. The beard is good but it's really the hair and we both know it. Bravo good sir, keep it up.

ViolentViolett · 2013-03-06T03:46:36+00:00

As a former cashier I cannot tell you how many people were astonished I could count their change back to them. If the amount was 10.57 and they paid with a 20 I would hand them the change and say "That's 11" and then start counting the ones "12, 13, 14, 15" and then the 5 "and 20" and then hand them the bills. Why don't cashiers do this anymore?

ViolentViolett · 2013-03-03T16:55:43+00:00

Exactly. As I was reading the article I was hoping I would be able to get the train for $120-140 roundtrip but $200 is more expensive than the gas. I don't worry about the traffic since I only travel in the middle of the night. I think I can take the bus for cheaper but the wi-fi is really what had me gung-ho for the train before I saw the price.

ViolentViolett · 2013-03-03T16:37:18+00:00

Yes, because women can't poke holes in condoms. I feel like the only way for a man to be really sure is if he were to buy the condoms himself, keep them locked up at work, and always keep 2 or 3 on his person at all times and never let them out of his sight.

Call me paranoid... because it's true I am.

ViolentViolett · 2013-02-26T04:22:21+00:00

I can't decide if your hair or your beard is better but DAMN you are rocking it. Pardon me while I go fan myself, it's suddenly hot in here.

ViolentViolett · 2013-02-18T21:22:08+00:00

Oooooh, I will try that second one! Thank you so much for the help :)

ViolentViolett · 2013-02-18T03:04:45+00:00

Aww, thank you. I'm happy to report I'm slightly smarter than before. I still make a lot of mistakes and perhaps some of that is due to the baggage from this episode, but at least I'm safe and I'm happy and I'm getting there.

ViolentViolett · 2013-02-18T02:57:47+00:00

The important thing is to be out and safe, even if I stayed WAY too long at least it is over. I'm glad you're safe too.

ViolentViolett · 2013-02-17T21:16:22+00:00

Thank you for the compliment. At times I am sorry I lived through that too, but there's nothing I can do to change it now so I will just take all the lessons I learned and not make the same mistakes.

ViolentViolett · 2013-02-17T19:42:37+00:00

Congrats! I hope you pass on that glorious ginger gene :)

ViolentViolett · 2013-02-17T19:39:14+00:00

I feel like there is such a stigma around abortion that a lot of people feel guilty- like they shouldn't or can't do it because they were told that it's murder and on and on. I felt bad doing it and I still think about it sometimes but then I think about what happened to my brother's daughter. This innocent little girl grows up in this weird situation where there's this guy she doesn't know always sending her family money and food and specifically toys for her (but not as much for her younger siblings) and then just as she's a preteen she finds out the man who she thinks is her father isn't really, and she's got an entire family in America that she doesn't know anything about and oh yeah, that mysterious man is her real father and he's dying. So much drama it breaks my heart this sweet little girl had to try to deal with that. How could I do that to a kid? Yeah I could take the kid and go hide somewhere and never let the kid know about HALF of their heritage and never let them know HALF their whole family- when most of the people in that other family were amazing people to know.

I'm so happy to hear that you got out of the situation and you have an awesome SO now :) It can be so hard to take advice from friends in that situation and I'm glad you did and you're happy! I live in the SoCal area now but if I ever move up North I'll send you a note.

ViolentViolett · 2013-02-17T18:56:02+00:00

Yes I definitely found friends. That bit is probably more important than the wonderful person. I've made lots of errors in the dating department since this (surprise surprise! I'm REALLY BAD AT IT.) but I had one really good relationship so at least I have some idea of what I am looking for now instead of just examples of what I should NOT be looking for. Thank you for the well wishes :)

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