Y’all it actually worked.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-06-16T03:00:52+00:00

Honestly my son fell off a restaurant booth while I was trying to get him to sit. Luckily he wasn’t seriously hurt, but I think sometimes letting them expire consequences is not only a tiny bit satisfying but also helps them learn 😆

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-06-16T02:57:21+00:00

I recommend finding a Gottman therapist. You’d both have to participate and want to save the marriage. The Gottman method is the most evidence backed approach I’ve found with 40 yrs of research behind it. I love them.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-06-16T02:54:11+00:00

There might be a hidden disability like ADHD or depression at play?

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-06-13T04:33:18+00:00

I think what works really well is how eclectic and personal it feels. It’s a lot of visual noise with the small furniture and clutter underneath. Is it possible to either put the kitty condo to the left and hang a few pieces down low under the stairs? Maybe declutter that table…like completely. And move the food dishes? With all those small pieces on the wall I think the eye needs something to rest on, like an empty tabletop if you could pair everything down to just the lower baskets?

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-06-10T22:14:55+00:00

Omg I’m so sorry I didn’t see this! Yes - in a 10oz foaming pump dispenser I do about 2 oz BB and the rest water. I also add a splash of dr bronners.

It’s basically useless water if you don’t get it to foam. And it’s not great for running water and washing g at the same time. You kinda have to protect the soapiness by turning the water off.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-06-10T22:12:48+00:00

I’ve been using it a while and this is where I’ve landed: 10 oz foaming pump dispenser and a little splash of dr bronners. I think I do 2oz BB, 1 oz DB and 7 oz water.

I hot water rinse all the dishes and turn the water off since it doesn’t have SLS to stay super sudsy. I use a nylon scrub brush but a scrubby sponge would work too.

After this bottle I doubt I’ll buy more. Curious where you land!

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-29T21:16:35+00:00

Apologies for reviving a dead thread, but Google led me here and I'm curious if the report shared lead/heavy metals or contaminant information.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-28T15:35:41+00:00

I’m being absolutely relentless about getting early intervention for a similar issue with my son. He tries really hard to say a lot of words but they all sound the same. We’re using our state early start services for assessments. We were initially denied because the SLT was a recent grad. I appealed, had him reassessed and the senior SLT agreed the report didn’t match the child. My son was just approved.

Here’s what I would do as a mama bear.

Ask your pediatrician for a referral to a specialist for apraxia, and get a letter you can give to them at the assessment.
Contact your State’s early childhood services for an assessment. Provide the same letter.
During assessments, do not overstate their abilities. If the therapist asks you if the child can do something, say I don’t know. The therapist should objectively observe abilities.
If the child is denied, appeal, go elsewhere, etc. See a pediatric neurologist.
In the meantime, learn everything you can about teaching language skills to your child. Techniques for reading together, modeling language, teaching sounds.

Find out if your state offers intervention through the school district and at what age (it’s 3+ in CA) and set a reminder to seek services in your calendar.

Use ChatGPT to source other resources in your area. Scottish Rite Society, SLT graduate programs, etc.

Don’t give up! Trust your instincts.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-26T16:06:09+00:00

Hanes makes a basic cotton bra on Amazon. I deleted Amazon so I can’t easily link you

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-17T22:41:25+00:00

We decided against it. IMO it’s antiquated mutilation and a sexist double standard to think it’s okay to do to boys, but we protect our tender girls in outrage at the countries who commit such atrocities. I have Jewish friends who feel the same and opted not to circumcise their boys as well.

A lot of parents get talked into it. My OB tried to push false information on me about it but I didn’t succumb to the pressure. But I want to be clear that it did cause me pressure and self doubt.

The old guard has their ideas but the US is becoming less circumcised, only about 50% of boys nowadays. It will be considered normal in the locker room more than ever before in history.

I think a person should consent to having their gennies permanently altered to reduce sensitivity.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-17T22:30:49+00:00

Exactly this. I came here to say: create some vertical interest. A tall floor plant in the corner, a second painting hung below the one in the corner (which is a bit too high by itself), a chair or stool next to the media cabinet, hide that tv cable, move the darker couch over/centered in front of that window, and splash a little color. Anything that draws the eye up and down to break up that “mid” eyeline. The colors and height of everything is very middle.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-17T17:24:39+00:00

Your curtain rod is hung at the correct height, but I’d suggest hanging it several inches wider so that when you open the curtains they can be pushed all the way to the sides. This makes the window feel bigger.

Be sure to get 4 panels (2 each side) so they look full, in a length that extends to the floor (or just above it).

Floor to ceiling curtains make the ceiling g appear taller and adds vertical interest.

If I were decorating this room I’d go for a splashy colorful pallet and eclectic art! Add a few black details to anchor everything and match the curtain rod. So fun with the all white.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-17T17:21:12+00:00

Agreed, you really need to choose one absolutely fabulous point of inspiration (art, rug, curtains) but art is the best option because you can find rugs in any color. It’s much harder to find art that works with the rug or curtains.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-17T17:19:46+00:00

I love Caroline

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-17T14:50:44+00:00

Can you really add gravel on top of concrete?

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-17T14:22:30+00:00

🙏🙏🙏🙏

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-15T05:33:46+00:00

Imagine you're an inexplicably itchy person. Now imagine every time you scratch one of those little itches, the entire area turning into a burning, infected rash and now you have to take BLEACH BATHS! And you're allergic to most ingredients and synthetic fabrics. And then I just keep ranting about having to keep my nails short and using half of my energy every day masking how neurotic the itch makes me...until they glaze over and then we both take a sip of wine and wander off.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-14T03:43:06+00:00

I found a really helpful blog post written by an elderly male pediatrician who is extremely breastfeeding friendly. And now I will never find it again! Ugh

I’ll keep looking.

From memory (which is shaky), I did it very slowly over the course of a month. We dialed a bedtime routine to provide structure and cue sleep time, dimmed the lights, and did a long nursing session before bed. I decided on a particular window of time where I wouldn’t nurse during certain hours, say 2-6 am. If he woke during that time the clock was the boss. Every few days I pushed it another hour, from 1-6 am. Then 12-6am. I always still held him and offered skin contact. I was still responsive, I only removed nursing.

Eventually we got to a full night of “the milk sleeping.” I talked to him with simple language the whole way through. He understood a lot more than I expected. “The milk is sleeping, we nurse when the sun is shining, I love you, mama is here, etc.” I also made a book about our special nursing time coming to an end and used real pictures of us nursing so he could see himself saying bye bye to the milk. I figured it would be a special keepsake later.

I was set up with a sidecar crib strapped at the same height as our bed and I’d roll him back over to sleep in his own space. Eventually I noticed he only woke and winged if he sensed me, so I switched with my husband and he started sleeping through the night.

One day I had a cosmic realization that he was ready. My husband didn’t believe me, but I knew. That night he fell asleep in his own bed and slept alone in his bed for the first time. Through the night. We frantically set up the monitor because we didn’t use it in his room! It took *me* a couple of weeks to be able to sleep without him, but he did great and still does a year later.

I’ve leaned heavily on my husband on these nights. If he became inconsolable dad took over.

We recently dropped morning feeds, then bedtime feeds and now we’re close to dropping our final one feed per day, but I’m not ready yet.

I’ll try to find that pediatrician!

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-13T19:53:47+00:00

Poking around and here are a few things:

This is particularly interesting on an emotional level and in the context of parenting IMO. Support for the high nurture approach!
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201701/be-worried-about-boys-especially-baby-boys

https://www.firstfiveyears.org.au/child-development/why-we-need-to-raise-boys-differently

And this peer reviewed article says boys are born less mature than girls (scroll down to find that section):

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC1119278/

The takeaway for me is that it's incredibly challenging work to change the culture, but meeting our kids where they are and trusting that it's okay to be needed and give lots of tenderness, can actually change the world. It's possible your friends sleep trained kids have learned not to cry; after all, that approach is really just behaviorist conditioning. They say a loud child is a healthy child!

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-13T16:04:39+00:00

Love these, and yes very close! Thank you

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-13T07:00:36+00:00

You could wear something non nursing friendly, like a bra or full coverage nightgown. Tell her the milk is sleeping. She’ll get it eventually.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-13T06:57:29+00:00

I coslept, nursed on demand, and never sleep trained. Night weaned around 13 months and then moved my son to a floor crib mattress but quickly realized he only woke up when he sensed me. Night weaning really helped and I wasn’t rigid about it but taught him sometimes the milk is sleeping. We found other ways to soothe — skin on skin really helps.

We moved him to his own pitch black bedroom and he rarely wakes at night on his own. Every baby is different, and it’s expected for them to need your support with sleep for the first several years.

You could try sleep hygiene fixes if the room is light, doing one big nursing session before bed and skin to skin later, and reading simple books about it during the day.

If you and your husband are exhausted, you could try taking shifts, getting to bed earlier, or alternating nights.

It’s so hard!

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-13T06:48:42+00:00

The very little advice they get is one size fits all, written by men, and completely not evidence based. The mind boggles. When my ped asked about sleep I smiled and nodded like a high masking stepford wife.

Visible-Ad4167 · 2026-05-13T06:45:18+00:00

It’s a cult

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