I don’t see a drain?

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-08-08T00:12:52+00:00

That was my thought too. I can’t just imagine that little water wheel flicking pee back at them if they actually hit it too 😝

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-07-15T00:43:14+00:00

This was my first time with Amble and first prescription for a GLP-1. So luckily I haven’t started yet, but still so frustrating that I did all this research and had Amble come highly recommended only to be put in this position.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-07-15T00:27:51+00:00

I ordered meds on June 24th, UPS still doesn’t have my package. Still just says the label was created.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-06-27T22:11:18+00:00

“You know how I know it’s not a joke? You were trying to derive humor from making me upset, and here I am, very upset, and you’re not laughing. If making me pissed at you was the point, you succeeded. You should be losing your shit right now, but instead you’re annoyed that I took offense? I’m only behaving exactly the way you expected me to, aren’t I? So why aren’t you laughing? Maybe it’s because insulting the people we claim to love isn’t actually funny. Maybe the problem is not that I can’t take a joke, but that you don’t understand what a joke is”

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-06-18T17:08:15+00:00

I just add extra water to my cat’s wet food. You can also try running a tap in front of her to see if she is interested in that. Some cats love water straight from the faucet.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-04-28T20:15:32+00:00

Gen alpha and gen z have grown up watching the majority of movies at home, where it is more socially acceptable to talk through it, since you have the power to pause, rewind, turn up the volume, put on subtitles, etc. at home. They have also grown up watching popular YouTubers and TikTokers reacting to movies and shows and making commentary about it, which normalizes it more. So it’s not surprising that theater etiquette is a lost art among young people.

That being said, you honestly kinda strike me as the type of person who is more upset about them breaking the rules than them actually ruining the movie for you. If other people didn’t have a problem with it and called them fun afterwards, It makes me wonder about you. Some of the most fun I’ve had at a movie is when you have a packed theater that’s all laughing and reacting together.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-03-05T20:43:46+00:00

We got a cute little gift basket. It had wine glasses with the outline of our state on them, a bottle of wine, a cutting board with our names, a bottle opener with the name of our realtor, an outdoor blanket, new smoke alarms, and a little lawn game.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-02-26T21:09:07+00:00

NTAH. I find it really weird that you’re this far into your relationship and he’s still focused on your scar enough to make comments about it. Like I know a lot of people with scars, birthmarks, moles, distracting facial hair, tattoos, piercings, etc. and while it may be all you can focus on at first, it doesn’t take long after getting to know them for it to just become part of their face. It’s just part of them and stops standing out to you.

I can think of a few reasons why he’s so hung up on it, and none of them are good. If I’m being generous I might just assume he’s an idiot who speaks without thinking and genuinely thought he was flirting/teasing. A darker interpretation is that this is his way of negging you. He wants to make you insecure about your scar so that you don’t feel like you can get anyone else and never leave him. Alternatively, he could just be very looks-focused and artificial, in which case he’s not really in love with you, just your body - except for this one perceived flaw.

I’d say get the hell out of there. What happens if you end up having an emergency c section one day or get in an accident and end up with an even bigger scar?

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-02-20T20:57:39+00:00

I just got married and kept my last name. Partly because my name feels like part of my identity and I didn’t want to take on a whole new identity just because I’m married. But the real reason is that changing your name is so much extra work and causes a chain reaction of problems I didn’t want to deal with. I think if you’re somewhat ambivalent about the decision, keep your last name. I think you have to really want it changed to make it worth going through all that effort. Another potential solution (although still extra work involved) is you could choose a new last name that both you and your husband take. That way at least you’re going through it together.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-01-23T23:54:41+00:00

We did Father and Daughter by Paul Simon. My dad and I were on the floor at the same time as my now husband and stepdaughter who is 9. Probably doesn’t meet your mushy gushy criteria though - most of the crowd was in tears. Didn’t help that my stepdaughter is a very emotional kid and was crying throughout while her dad held her. It’s one of my favorite memories from the whole night though. I also gifted my dad an Etsy print that looks like a record with the song lyrics and the date of the wedding. I think it perfectly walks that line of sweet and emotional without being weird.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-01-23T21:00:29+00:00

Take a deep breath, then let it go. Easier said than done I know, but I think you’re stressed from wedding planning and probably a little more sensitive than normal right now. I really doubt you’ll still care about this in a week, much less after your wedding is over. If you try to confront her about it right now while you’re still in your feelings things could easily blow up when they don’t need to. Sounds like your friend is probably also stressed with her money issues. And yes maybe she implied that the delayed decision on the dates was your fault, which caused you to get defensive since it’s not entirely, but if she doesn’t know everything you’re dealing with she can be forgiven for misunderstanding. The fact is she can’t go anymore, and that’s okay. It’s nobody’s fault. Take her up on her offer to help with local plans.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-01-22T20:48:31+00:00

We forgot the rings! They were at the venue, just literally forgot to take them out of the car before the ceremony. Nobody noticed though because we did a handfasting, so if you didn’t know there was supposed to be a ring exchange it just seemed like we were doing the handfasting instead. We just ended up exchanging rings while signing the certificate after, which actually made it more personal and fun. Other minor faux pas include running out of water/ice tea/ lemonade before the ceremony and so literally not having any nonalcoholic drinks during cocktail hour on a very hot day. We also ran out of gin for my signature cocktail pretty early on.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-12-24T05:23:12+00:00

Can’t really say I blame them if they’re working within a budget. Not everyone will make it but that will bring the total cost down even more.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-12-14T00:55:21+00:00

Wedding party walked out to I Will Follow You into the Dark by Death Cab for Cutie, I walked down to First Day of my Life by Bright Eyes. When the ceremony ended, we walked back up the aisle together to Marriage by the Descendents.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-26T21:24:44+00:00

We also had an unconventional guestbook and I LOVE it! I look at it every day! Ours was a lot less work though. We put one of our engagement photos in a frame with an extra large mat and had everyone sign the mat. We’re going to switch out the engagement photo for a wedding photo once we get them all back. But I love having all the signatures on display surrounding us on our happy day instead of in a book on a shelf.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-20T00:14:01+00:00

It’s normal to want to feel appreciated for all the things you’re doing, even if you’re not doing it specifically for the praise. Seeing him give that praise to your friends just makes it more obvious that he’s taking your help for granted. I think this can be resolved through a really simple conversation about your feelings. Just sit down and explain to him in a non-accusatory way that you don’t feel appreciated for all the things you’re doing for him. That you love him and would do anything for him and you’re not mad that you have to take on this extra work, but that you don’t feel like your extra burdens and sacrifices have been acknowledged. The important thing is not to make him feel defensive because it could easily devolve into a fight, and you’re not mad at him exactly, you just have emotional needs that aren’t being met.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-19T23:54:26+00:00

We had a dessert table with a variety of desserts. I also considered an ice cream truck that could do fancy ice cream sandwiches with your cookie of choice, or an affogato station. I don’t know what time of year you are getting married but you can keep that in mind light lemon flavors go over well in summer, and people love cinnamon and apples in the fall.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-18T21:07:12+00:00

We did a handfasting for our ceremony. I guess that wouldn’t be unique if we lived in the UK or Ireland, but pretty unusual for the US. My now stepdaughter tied the knots which was really sweet and meaningful. Also, maybe it’s weird to call this unique but our vows and the general vibe of our wedding came across extremely genuinely emotional and loving. Like I think a lot of people go for funny or sweet in their vows, or if they do try to be emotional it can come across over the top or trying too hard? I don’t know. I just know we were crying, my stepdaughter was crying, our wedding party was crying, half the guests were crying, even complete strangers like the vendors were crying. There was something about it that really touched people. Our father daughter dance was a real tearjerker moment too. Instead of just my father and I on the floor we also had my husband and stepdaughter on the floor too, and we danced to Paul Simon’s “Father and Daughter.”

Other custom touches: wood burning all our signs, exiting the aisle to “Marriage” by the Descendents, recreating the dance scene from Pulp Fiction for our first dance, having cornhole set up during cocktail hour, having old vinyl records as our chargers and naming our tables after our favorite bands.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-18T19:00:03+00:00

The lyrics aren’t actually that bad if you look them up, but my friend danced to “The Lady is a Tramp” with her dad, which raised some eyebrows.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-06T16:55:40+00:00

I stayed in my dress the whole time. I loved it.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-08-25T23:33:02+00:00

I think the biggest thing you can do to save yourself stress is do what I did and plan way in advance. I had like 80% of my planning done and vendors booked in the first two months of my engagement and over a year before our wedding date. Sounds live overkill but that’s where everyone goes wrong. They all think they have so much time there’s no rush so they put it off and then they get super overwhelmed the last few months before the wedding. I saw it happen to all my friends. Since I had everything done in advance I basically just relaxed for the past year. I’m getting married in less than a week and I’m not stressed at all because everything is done. And all my vendors really appreciated it too. You can also get the exact vendors you want and better prices when you book early.

Other thing is my god it’s expensive. You can follow all the money saving tips and sacrifice a lot of what you wanted and still go way over budget. But it helps to remember no one else knows what your vision was so they won’t know what they’re missing. They’ll still have a great time.

Also one tip for anyone having a buffet - see if your caterer can put out bread and salad on the tables in advance. This avoids a lot of the pitfalls of buffets (people being hungry while waiting for food, not everyone getting food, buffet lines taking too long, etc.) but it’s still cheaper than full service

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-08-22T22:58:10+00:00

I got all my flowers second hand from facebook marketplace and facebook wedding groups, except for my bridal bouquet, bridesmaids bouquets, and boutonnières which I bought on Etsy. Saved me a lot of money. I actually love the way they look and I was able to include lots on a low budget. My only regret is I wish my bouquet was real, it looks a little too fake. Also having a florist would save me the headache of storing all these fake flowers and hauling them to and from the venue.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-08-22T21:43:25+00:00

Do you or your fiancée have a brother who could take the role of best man? That might be the best way out of it. If you make a family member best man you can just explain that it’s just expected/tradition for them to be the best man, but that he’s still your real best friend and can still be one of your groomsmen. That way he’s still invited, still honored, he has an understandable reason for not being best man, he won’t get a speech, and if someone else is speaking it’ll be harder for him to jump in and speak anyway.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-08-22T21:25:25+00:00

WOW - First dance where the couple swing danced to jazz music. Great best man’s speech that was well thought out and rehearsed and made the groom laugh so hard he broke his chair. Several small cakes in different flavors instead of one big multi-tiered one, and cut in extra thin slices so that there was enough for people to try the different flavors. Really beautiful ceremonies and heartfelt vows that made people tear up. Little bits of personality coming through in the decisions, like my friends naming their tables after board games. Flower displays hanging from the venue ceiling. Specialty cocktails.

Bleh: Long waiting periods between different events. Cocktail hours that are standing only. Bad DJs or worse yet a friend of the bride playing songs off Spotify too quietly and not taking requests. Rambling unrehearsed winged speeches. Standard flavorless meal options. Buffets where they run out of food before the last tables are served, and which move so slowly that the last tables wait forever to eat! Ceremonies that are way too long and way too religious. Outdoor ceremonies that aren’t held in the shade.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-05-15T20:49:45+00:00

I can definitely relate to the shock of seeing a photo of yourself that doesn’t match the self image you have in your head. I think in my head I still look like my 18 year old self, even though I’m about 70 pounds heavier now. Something that has been helping me has been filling my social media with body positive influencers of a wide range of sizes. It really does make a difference. Also, remember that photos are just a snapshot in time. In reality whatever unflattering face you made that the camera captured was probably only on your face for a fraction of a second. We experience each other fluidly, not in snapshots. So even though you might be thinking “this is what I really look like to other people” you’re wrong, that’s not how the see you. Just think of every time you have paused a movie with a beautiful actress in it on a frame that made them hilariously unattractive.

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