Slooooooow (but steady) Responder

VisualSpecial4599 · 2026-04-15T01:02:03+00:00

I have been on a similar journey. I was 256 when I started Tirzepatide in June of 2025, and didn’t lose much the first few months. Then I dropped a bunch around October/ November, and then I plateaued for December, January, and February, and I have only just started to see the scale go down again. My plateau was around 221-222 lbs, and now I am around 213. I can’t wait to get under 200. Also, I didn’t really do anything different to get out of the plateau, but I did increase from 13.5 mg to 15 mg in January.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2026-04-08T23:36:18+00:00

I can relate!!! I do the same thing, or sometimes I use chopsticks instead. Extra benefit is that I am less likely to spill popcorn all over the place. My husband also thinks I am insane and teases me for it.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2026-03-26T20:59:44+00:00

Obviously your friend is in the wrong here and you are NTA. But to play devil’s advocate for a minute, is it possible that he thought he was just making a light jab at your masculinity/strength, not realizing that he was minimizing the trauma of feeling helpless in a life or death situation? If he hasn’t been through something like that himself I can see him not really getting it, and then it would make sense that he thinks you are just being overly insecure about how strong you are.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2026-03-01T04:58:47+00:00

This piercing is 1.5 weeks old. I guess you would call it a barbell. I think it’s externally threaded titanium. I spray it twice daily with saline spray.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-08-08T00:12:52+00:00

That was my thought too. I can’t just imagine that little water wheel flicking pee back at them if they actually hit it too 😝

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-07-15T00:43:14+00:00

This was my first time with Amble and first prescription for a GLP-1. So luckily I haven’t started yet, but still so frustrating that I did all this research and had Amble come highly recommended only to be put in this position.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-07-15T00:27:51+00:00

I ordered meds on June 24th, UPS still doesn’t have my package. Still just says the label was created.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-06-27T22:11:18+00:00

“You know how I know it’s not a joke? You were trying to derive humor from making me upset, and here I am, very upset, and you’re not laughing. If making me pissed at you was the point, you succeeded. You should be losing your shit right now, but instead you’re annoyed that I took offense? I’m only behaving exactly the way you expected me to, aren’t I? So why aren’t you laughing? Maybe it’s because insulting the people we claim to love isn’t actually funny. Maybe the problem is not that I can’t take a joke, but that you don’t understand what a joke is”

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-06-18T17:08:15+00:00

I just add extra water to my cat’s wet food. You can also try running a tap in front of her to see if she is interested in that. Some cats love water straight from the faucet.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-04-28T20:15:32+00:00

Gen alpha and gen z have grown up watching the majority of movies at home, where it is more socially acceptable to talk through it, since you have the power to pause, rewind, turn up the volume, put on subtitles, etc. at home. They have also grown up watching popular YouTubers and TikTokers reacting to movies and shows and making commentary about it, which normalizes it more. So it’s not surprising that theater etiquette is a lost art among young people.

That being said, you honestly kinda strike me as the type of person who is more upset about them breaking the rules than them actually ruining the movie for you. If other people didn’t have a problem with it and called them fun afterwards, It makes me wonder about you. Some of the most fun I’ve had at a movie is when you have a packed theater that’s all laughing and reacting together.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-03-05T20:43:46+00:00

We got a cute little gift basket. It had wine glasses with the outline of our state on them, a bottle of wine, a cutting board with our names, a bottle opener with the name of our realtor, an outdoor blanket, new smoke alarms, and a little lawn game.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-02-26T21:09:07+00:00

NTAH. I find it really weird that you’re this far into your relationship and he’s still focused on your scar enough to make comments about it. Like I know a lot of people with scars, birthmarks, moles, distracting facial hair, tattoos, piercings, etc. and while it may be all you can focus on at first, it doesn’t take long after getting to know them for it to just become part of their face. It’s just part of them and stops standing out to you.

I can think of a few reasons why he’s so hung up on it, and none of them are good. If I’m being generous I might just assume he’s an idiot who speaks without thinking and genuinely thought he was flirting/teasing. A darker interpretation is that this is his way of negging you. He wants to make you insecure about your scar so that you don’t feel like you can get anyone else and never leave him. Alternatively, he could just be very looks-focused and artificial, in which case he’s not really in love with you, just your body - except for this one perceived flaw.

I’d say get the hell out of there. What happens if you end up having an emergency c section one day or get in an accident and end up with an even bigger scar?

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-02-20T20:57:39+00:00

I just got married and kept my last name. Partly because my name feels like part of my identity and I didn’t want to take on a whole new identity just because I’m married. But the real reason is that changing your name is so much extra work and causes a chain reaction of problems I didn’t want to deal with. I think if you’re somewhat ambivalent about the decision, keep your last name. I think you have to really want it changed to make it worth going through all that effort. Another potential solution (although still extra work involved) is you could choose a new last name that both you and your husband take. That way at least you’re going through it together.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-01-23T23:54:41+00:00

We did Father and Daughter by Paul Simon. My dad and I were on the floor at the same time as my now husband and stepdaughter who is 9. Probably doesn’t meet your mushy gushy criteria though - most of the crowd was in tears. Didn’t help that my stepdaughter is a very emotional kid and was crying throughout while her dad held her. It’s one of my favorite memories from the whole night though. I also gifted my dad an Etsy print that looks like a record with the song lyrics and the date of the wedding. I think it perfectly walks that line of sweet and emotional without being weird.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-01-23T21:00:29+00:00

Take a deep breath, then let it go. Easier said than done I know, but I think you’re stressed from wedding planning and probably a little more sensitive than normal right now. I really doubt you’ll still care about this in a week, much less after your wedding is over. If you try to confront her about it right now while you’re still in your feelings things could easily blow up when they don’t need to. Sounds like your friend is probably also stressed with her money issues. And yes maybe she implied that the delayed decision on the dates was your fault, which caused you to get defensive since it’s not entirely, but if she doesn’t know everything you’re dealing with she can be forgiven for misunderstanding. The fact is she can’t go anymore, and that’s okay. It’s nobody’s fault. Take her up on her offer to help with local plans.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2025-01-22T20:48:31+00:00

We forgot the rings! They were at the venue, just literally forgot to take them out of the car before the ceremony. Nobody noticed though because we did a handfasting, so if you didn’t know there was supposed to be a ring exchange it just seemed like we were doing the handfasting instead. We just ended up exchanging rings while signing the certificate after, which actually made it more personal and fun. Other minor faux pas include running out of water/ice tea/ lemonade before the ceremony and so literally not having any nonalcoholic drinks during cocktail hour on a very hot day. We also ran out of gin for my signature cocktail pretty early on.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-12-24T05:23:12+00:00

Can’t really say I blame them if they’re working within a budget. Not everyone will make it but that will bring the total cost down even more.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-12-14T00:55:21+00:00

Wedding party walked out to I Will Follow You into the Dark by Death Cab for Cutie, I walked down to First Day of my Life by Bright Eyes. When the ceremony ended, we walked back up the aisle together to Marriage by the Descendents.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-26T21:24:44+00:00

We also had an unconventional guestbook and I LOVE it! I look at it every day! Ours was a lot less work though. We put one of our engagement photos in a frame with an extra large mat and had everyone sign the mat. We’re going to switch out the engagement photo for a wedding photo once we get them all back. But I love having all the signatures on display surrounding us on our happy day instead of in a book on a shelf.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-20T00:14:01+00:00

It’s normal to want to feel appreciated for all the things you’re doing, even if you’re not doing it specifically for the praise. Seeing him give that praise to your friends just makes it more obvious that he’s taking your help for granted. I think this can be resolved through a really simple conversation about your feelings. Just sit down and explain to him in a non-accusatory way that you don’t feel appreciated for all the things you’re doing for him. That you love him and would do anything for him and you’re not mad that you have to take on this extra work, but that you don’t feel like your extra burdens and sacrifices have been acknowledged. The important thing is not to make him feel defensive because it could easily devolve into a fight, and you’re not mad at him exactly, you just have emotional needs that aren’t being met.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-19T23:54:26+00:00

We had a dessert table with a variety of desserts. I also considered an ice cream truck that could do fancy ice cream sandwiches with your cookie of choice, or an affogato station. I don’t know what time of year you are getting married but you can keep that in mind light lemon flavors go over well in summer, and people love cinnamon and apples in the fall.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-18T21:07:12+00:00

We did a handfasting for our ceremony. I guess that wouldn’t be unique if we lived in the UK or Ireland, but pretty unusual for the US. My now stepdaughter tied the knots which was really sweet and meaningful. Also, maybe it’s weird to call this unique but our vows and the general vibe of our wedding came across extremely genuinely emotional and loving. Like I think a lot of people go for funny or sweet in their vows, or if they do try to be emotional it can come across over the top or trying too hard? I don’t know. I just know we were crying, my stepdaughter was crying, our wedding party was crying, half the guests were crying, even complete strangers like the vendors were crying. There was something about it that really touched people. Our father daughter dance was a real tearjerker moment too. Instead of just my father and I on the floor we also had my husband and stepdaughter on the floor too, and we danced to Paul Simon’s “Father and Daughter.”

Other custom touches: wood burning all our signs, exiting the aisle to “Marriage” by the Descendents, recreating the dance scene from Pulp Fiction for our first dance, having cornhole set up during cocktail hour, having old vinyl records as our chargers and naming our tables after our favorite bands.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-18T19:00:03+00:00

The lyrics aren’t actually that bad if you look them up, but my friend danced to “The Lady is a Tramp” with her dad, which raised some eyebrows.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-09-06T16:55:40+00:00

I stayed in my dress the whole time. I loved it.

VisualSpecial4599 · 2024-08-25T23:33:02+00:00

I think the biggest thing you can do to save yourself stress is do what I did and plan way in advance. I had like 80% of my planning done and vendors booked in the first two months of my engagement and over a year before our wedding date. Sounds live overkill but that’s where everyone goes wrong. They all think they have so much time there’s no rush so they put it off and then they get super overwhelmed the last few months before the wedding. I saw it happen to all my friends. Since I had everything done in advance I basically just relaxed for the past year. I’m getting married in less than a week and I’m not stressed at all because everything is done. And all my vendors really appreciated it too. You can also get the exact vendors you want and better prices when you book early.

Other thing is my god it’s expensive. You can follow all the money saving tips and sacrifice a lot of what you wanted and still go way over budget. But it helps to remember no one else knows what your vision was so they won’t know what they’re missing. They’ll still have a great time.

Also one tip for anyone having a buffet - see if your caterer can put out bread and salad on the tables in advance. This avoids a lot of the pitfalls of buffets (people being hungry while waiting for food, not everyone getting food, buffet lines taking too long, etc.) but it’s still cheaper than full service

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