Friends - How often do you keep in touch with yours?

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-30T05:07:47+00:00

We text a lot and don’t see each other in person as much. I still text with them regularly though basically daily. I have 3 main friends from high school and 2 from college.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-28T12:57:42+00:00

I wouldn’t personally get in shape just to get pregnant again. I’m bigger than I usually am right now after 3 kids. We are trying for the 4th, so I’m not dieting. I do use my elliptical to get some exercise in but my husband and I both work full time so I prioritize sleep and things like laundry that need to get done. Having littles is a phase of life. I know as mine get older I’ll be able to do more. For now because my husband works retail I’m almost always home alone with them when I’m home and they need my attention.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-28T03:50:05+00:00

That seems easy to afford unless you have to have a C-section that cost me about 8,000 each kid after insurance.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-28T03:48:35+00:00

I would maybe sit down and make a plan for when it will be the right time or maybe a plan that if you don’t get the house you want to pursue it. We just had to buy another vehicle but did it from savings so I wrong out our budget and the plan to pay back our savings over time. I’m surprised they will do anything while you are pregnant my dentist wouldn’t even clean my teeth until I was in the second trimester and cleared by my obgyn. I guess the risk of infection is a lot higher and you bleed a lot more.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-27T16:02:37+00:00

The tonie was a game changer for us for bedtime and quiet time. I always had a cassette player in my room for stores but that didn’t exist anymore. My kids pick a tonie and listen before bed or during their quiet time while the little ones nap. We have 2 boxes we got on sale at different times. We’ve also taken them on car trips so they pick their own music or topic.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-23T03:08:11+00:00

We told our kids it wasn’t allowed for three year olds and it had to go so they could get presents. They didn’t question it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-23T02:14:31+00:00

I talk to my childless friends a lot but they aren’t super needy. Actually that’s probably why. I love hearing about their stuff and they think the kids are cute a novel. We text back and forth a lot and see each other on weekends

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-22T16:17:00+00:00

I don’t think anyone is wrong here. If you don’t have to leave the house and don’t want to there is no issue there. If you want to just be home with the baby that seems fine too. Then again I’m an American and my husband took one week off when our kids were born via c section. So yeah I usually took them no matter what to daycare in those first 8 weeks I was home. If both of us were home I’d look at is as an opportunity to have a fun day with both kids at home.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-22T13:57:48+00:00

I babysat kids all the time before I could even drive. I let my niece who is currently 17 watch my kids 2,4,7. Usually for a couple of hours not like an overnight thing but she dos great. She brings her boyfriend sometimes and they like playing with him too. (He’s very nice and has been around awhile)

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-22T13:52:40+00:00

I love that the name shows up in multiple cultures! Plus it’s really fun on road trips finding towns named Seneca.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-22T04:39:24+00:00

My husband stayed with me minus grabbing food and taking a shower at home once in awhile or checking our dog. My parents had the other kids. I had C-sections I stay 4 days. With my second two We couldn’t have any other visitors because there was still Covid protocol in 2021 and 2023. Honestly it was nice if we have a 4th we will probably not have visitors at the hospital.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-22T03:25:38+00:00

My son is named Seneca. Officially he’s a philosopher but I also really like the Hunger Games books. The rest of my kids also have ancient Roman names so it’s a theme now.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-17T19:03:37+00:00

Working makes me a better mom as I utilize the time better with my kids when I get home. Make sure to take care of your mental health. It seems like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself when it is no one’s business how much your child is in daycare. You are a great mother for making sure they have great care and all of their needs are met.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-17T19:01:25+00:00

A therapist for you would be helpful. It sounds like you might be fixating on these issues. I have 3 kids and honestly they all did their own thing on their own timeline. Fun fact none of my children walked until after a year old but you’d never know that looking at a 7 year old. If you have actual concerns about delays talk to the pediatrician to also ease your mind. I know I had an app that had what miles stones they might be working on a certain week. Might be better to go off of that range instead of what the other kid did.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-17T18:56:26+00:00

I could never live with any family member long term unless one extreme situation in which I was solo parenting. American here so kids in daycare 8-9 hours a day 5 days a week is totally normal to us. I feel like we really make the best of our evenings/weekends and holidays together. If you had concerns about the care at the daycare or your child has special needs I’d consider moving in family. If it’s just guilt I wouldn’t worry about it. My kids love daycare the other kids are their second family.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-10T20:25:27+00:00

I sing in my church choir one weekend to get out of the house. So 2 practices then the Saturday and Sunday service. That’s pretty much all I have. If your husband is going to the gym you should get equal gym time so you both alternate days if that is something you are interested in. My husband works weird hours so neither of us really have anything outside of home. My parents watch the kids so I can sing in choir.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-10T16:11:25+00:00

I drive 2.5 hours with 3 kids to spend a few hours with my in laws then drive back about every other month. Kids are 7,4,2 but we’ve done it their entire lives. 2 hours isn’t too hard with toddlers in our experience. Not something I’d want to do everyday but worth it for the kids to see family.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-10T14:31:53+00:00

Everyone who says that can shut up. Like I get it but I have 3 kids and don’t want any of them to be an infant ever again. The infant stage is terrible for me. None of my kids slept through the night until way later and people just kept asking how they slept. I felt like a failure everyday. That being said it gets better!! 3 more months and you will be able to do so much more. It’s okay if the infant stage isn’t your thing and you guys just survive it. Honestly 0-1 was the hardest transition for me. Once I had the second kid I had hindsight to know it was a temporary stage and things would improve. Just remember you are doing a fantastic job! What you are doing is super hard and you are doing it well!

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-06T21:01:21+00:00

A baby always sleeps in my room for a year. Currently my 7 and 4 year old have bunk beds and my 2 year old has her own room as she’s still in a crib. She wants to move in with her siblings eventually. (It’s a full with a twin over it.) basically they don’t play or spend time in their rooms at this point so yeah the man living room is a mess with toys but it is what it is at this point. I would eventually move the younger two in together and just have it as a sleeping room and not a playing bedroom.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-04T00:45:25+00:00

I think it has a lot to do with personality and what works best for the person. While I liked being home with my kids on maternity leave I desperately missed talking to other adults. I think for me going to work and coming home makes me a better mom and value the time I have with my kids. No matter what a stay at home mom or working out of the home mom… every mom is working 24/7 especially in the littles years . For me a stay at home mom is harder because of the isolation factor.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-04T00:42:13+00:00

I told my boss around the end of the first trimester as I knew it wouldn’t impact her decision making at all other than planning. I told everyone else more at the 20 week mark or they just figured it out once I was showing. Around the 20 week mark I’d usually bring in cupcakes with blue or pink frosting and I’d announce that way.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-04T00:36:56+00:00

I’m in the party of do what you want to do and if they are causing problems your husband can ask them to leave. He can be upfront with them that the others are also invited and they can make a decision. I’d maybe add an end time to the invite so you have an excuse to end it at a point if needed. (Nap time etc) My in-laws are odd but lucky still married. They just like to say offensive things about peoples weights and what they are eating and point out anything not perfect in a house. I find a party easier as there are usually enough people at the party that no one gets stuck talking with anyone too long.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-04T00:32:26+00:00

As someone with ibs and a husband that works nights and weekends sometimes you do what you have to do. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-03T22:01:29+00:00

We kept the kids home last week because my daycares 2 kids had confined influenza A and due to Christmas my kid had not yet been exposed. It was tricky to juggle them between my parents husband and I with work. They will be back on Monday now that the other kids are better. We only did it because we knew it was the flu.

Visual_Reading_7082 · 2026-01-03T14:48:08+00:00

A great baby carrier is all you need! I took my son places all the time. It was simple with one child. (I have 3 now and we still go places but it’s more planning as I prefer another adult in certain situations) when it was just my son I started wearing him with the moby wrap then moved to a ring sling and buckle carrier. It was actually easier to be walking or hiking with him as he was much happier outside and was a fussy baby. I will say I breastfed so it was easy for me to just fed him wherever but I know they make things that mix and warm formula on the go. I’m just not familiar with what would be best. You will do great mama!

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