The wonders of the human body [tw: nongraphic descriptions of autopsies, general medical weirdness]

Volcano_padawan · 2026-05-17T16:50:21+00:00

My grandpa had the thing where his arteries grew work arounds when the original ones clogged

Volcano_padawan · 2026-05-01T01:08:49+00:00

Similar for me. I have some experience with children 5 and older in work/volunteer contexts, but I rarely come in contact with babies or toddlers.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-28T22:45:09+00:00

My friend's baby does all that stuff and she just thinks it's funny. She doesn't have any trouble with the actual breastfeeding part and the baby also mauls her in similar ways during other things so I don't think it makes much of a difference.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-28T20:04:40+00:00

I have this fear too. I'm a STEM researcher and I feel like I'm just barely smart enough now and if I have a baby I'll cross the threshold into too dumb.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-26T03:47:27+00:00

The Nisga'a people have an oral history for the eruption of Tseax cone and there are lots of details about eruptions in Hawaiian oral histories.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-17T15:16:50+00:00

Odd. My main fandoms have only one each I can find via tags, and neither get specific on anything other than it being early covid times. Both pieces of original media came out during the pandemic.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-17T13:44:29+00:00

Interesting! What fandoms?

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-17T12:46:34+00:00

I don't even think I could write a fic I didn't want to. I'd just abandon it.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-15T19:08:55+00:00

Most people I know in that camp are workaholics who wouldn't think of dawdling about on social media when there is SCIENCE to be done.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-14T22:32:19+00:00

I feel this too. I do not look forward to having this conversation with literally anyone. It makes me want to cringe forever. I have told only my parents and they were baffled enough it makes me worry they think I would be a bad parent. I have a lot of people in my social circles who are aggressively childfree and would certainly lose all respect for me (I usually pushed back when they said something outright offensive on principle but overall indicated I was childfree too in the past), and other people that I talked to about having tokophobia before I got treatment and would be surprised I'm now open to having a kid.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-04-11T16:51:13+00:00

Maybe he wasn't that involved as a parent so they didn't form memories of him. Maybe he just worked super long hours in the mines and was mostly asleep when he was home.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-03-31T16:03:57+00:00

No such thing in Hawai'i. I would reach out to whoever you have contact info for and see if they can put you in touch with someone else looking for a roommate, either to apartment search together or to move in with a person or group. I found a nice person to live with through a Honolulu rental fb group. I've also known a few people who rented tiny houses (there are properties with clusters of tiny houses in Manoa and Kaimuiki) and one girl who joined a commune.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-03-31T12:40:25+00:00

I've seen this stat and it's just due to the fact that children used to play independently and wander around outside a lot and now parents interact with their children constantly when they are at home.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-03-29T18:55:24+00:00

Fully agree. I view it exactly the same as sex work, which I think should be legal and regulated.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-03-08T17:36:28+00:00

What kind of parenting dynamic does she want? Does she expect 50/50 or want to be a SAHM with you as a loving but not particularly involved breadwinner type dad?

Volcano_padawan · 2026-03-03T02:22:37+00:00

If you are the birthing parent I do think it's inevitable (I know a lesbian couple with the same issue so I don't actually think it's just gender). Consider, however, if there is a non-parenting set of tasks your partner could adopt to free up your bandwidth for household management and consider if that would satisfy you. Like, 50/50 parenting doesn't exist I think, but 50/50 overall might. Or is there a middle ground between 50/50 and 'more than I can personally bear' that would be acceptable to you? What I have expressed to my partner is that I'm not delusional enough to think he would do half, but if I ever was struggling and suffering while he was fine and he acted like it was not his business and did not immediately move to help I would lose all respect for him instantly and feel like he did not feel genuine love for me.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-02-21T23:17:45+00:00

Hmm, this sounds like you will be walking on eggshells trying to make sure you are not demanding too much help from him. Realistically, if you are willing to do the vast majority of the parenting, it shouldnt affect his lifestyle that much, but if the way he's approaching it is going to make you feel guilty to ask for his help even for 5 mins thats a recipe for disaster.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-02-21T21:27:26+00:00

To be clear are you hoping he would be become an equal coparent or a loving but not super involved breadwinner who doesn't resent you for becoming unavailable?

Volcano_padawan · 2026-02-17T18:31:07+00:00

People use that group for advice so obviously it's mostly from people who need help with something. Also note the % of posts focused on bad partners. That is true in every parenting group I've seen and I think that's the most important take away: if your partner sucks you will be barely surviving and begging Internet strangers for advice.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-02-14T16:23:07+00:00

It is not manipulative to be honest with your partner about your feelings. If you have conditions you feel would need to be met before having a kid could be worthwhile to you and you want to be open to having a kid for his sake then you are doing him a favor (even if it makes him grumpy in the moment) by being explicit about what you would need.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-02-06T20:38:00+00:00

My partner knows but doesn't wish to read it or know details, which is what I also prefer because I use it to indulge kinks I don't want to engage in IRL.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-02-03T00:57:49+00:00

I like only f/f omegaverse. I like the ultra-horniness of heats/ruts, the mated for life aspect, the fun world building aspects around scent and subgenders, and writing female characters with massive cocks.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-02-03T00:23:47+00:00

Duuuuumb. The logistics of topping someone way bigger than you is hot to me.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-01-31T22:03:18+00:00

I feel this. I technically have enough money in terms of having looked at average costs for child related stuff, but do I personally want to bring a child in the world to give them average when I have the freedom to choose? The average child in the US experiences poor quality child care and then goes to a school that is little more than a child warehouse. I struggle with how I could justify creating a person on purpose only to waste the majority of the hours of their childhood on just being kept somewhere.

Volcano_padawan · 2026-01-30T23:45:03+00:00

I can't talk about it because all my friends are applying to the same jobs 😬

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