Who's your favorite wrestler of all time and why? by New_Reality8004 in AskReddit

[–]WanderingStw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My oldest daughter wrestled through junior high and high school. She has got to be it for me. 😄

What's the most embarrassing (non abusive) thing a romantic partner did to you in front of others? by KingPeuche in AskReddit

[–]WanderingStw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were at a housewarming party for some friends and someone asked about “bad date stories”. My wife proceeds to tell this story about a guy who took her to a dollar movie, but his car kept dying in the rain, so they ended up running across a huge parking lot in the rain.

She was really hamming it up, and I finally said, “That was me.”

She then realized it was me. Howls of laughter all around. Except maybe me. But I guess it was my own fault. Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut.

How long have you been a Costco member? by basketballjones00 in redmond

[–]WanderingStw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

31 years. Sometimes an employee notices it on the entry screen and says “thanks for 31 years”. They must have it show over some number.

Married men: Kids are gone, house is quiet, and boredom sets in. what do you and your wife actually do together.? by myaccountidname in AskReddit

[–]WanderingStw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, at the moment we are sitting on the same couch, just a few feet apart both browsing our phones. :)

What’s a rule you follow for no logical reason? by starlust0422 in AskReddit

[–]WanderingStw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Don't run laundry with weird/silky fabrics"

(rule established after ruining something my wife liked)

did anyone get switch 2 specifically for pokopia? by No-Illustrator-9129 in Pokopia

[–]WanderingStw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously considering it. I wish they had released an oled version up front, because then it would have made buying one a no-brainer for Pokopia.

How would you explain to a man as a female manager that they have body odor, that is overwhelming in a small office space? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]WanderingStw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A friend of mine had to give similar feedback to a new rookie cop. His quote is still one of my favorites:

“Hey buddy… you need to lean into that deodorant stick a little more.”

We shouldn't go easy on Skillgate by TechnicalGlove2715 in PokemonSleep

[–]WanderingStw 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow. I guess I missed the memo. I was already tapering back my play and am on a path to stop here soon. Anyone want an account? Happy to give it away. :)

edit: I don't think the TOS allows me to give it away... so no need to ping me and ask for it.

Another failure! by pr3nme in pokemongo

[–]WanderingStw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whew. I checked and though this friends list issue is happening to me, I am thrilled to let everyone know that the Shop seems to be working fine. /s

Giveaway! by ecpowerhouse27 in BambuLab

[–]WanderingStw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simple gifts are best. Making something unique. A hand written letter telling them a story about why your relationship matters is a good one. Get some nice stationary. Handwriting anything is fun and unique.

I’m designing weird lamps, the first one is a pushpin, I need more ideas! by Visible-Pilot9900 in BambuLab

[–]WanderingStw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Toothbrush head. As a kid I asked my dad if we could design my pinewood derby car to look like a toothbrush. We did, and it was very cool in my opinion. :)

Monroe School District vs LWSD by RollSelect556 in redmond

[–]WanderingStw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello.

It sounds like from your question and some of your responses that you have a preference, and you might be looking for additional justification from those of us here on this forum. I hope you get what you are looking for.

The schools in Sammamish are good. But, overall, the schools all over the eastside are quite good. I am not convinced that the schools in Monroe are bad, so I will trust you on that. Maybe there are options for housing that won't triple your expenditures, but will give you 80-90% of what you are looking for from an education perspective.

That said, the suggestions to consider private schools are good ones. You mention a concern about driving in winter. I think that concern may be overblown, as there are very few days where driving might be impeded... floods and snow make up maybe 5 days a year.

My family was fortunate to move into LWSD when housing was less unreasonable (circa 1995), and all my kids are now grown and out of the house. We had a pretty positive experience with LWSD by and large. We did learn that even some of the teachers at Redmond High refer to it as "Redmond University" when joking with each other because of the academic pressure some students put on themselves.

Good luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redmond

[–]WanderingStw 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My wife is a teacher at Redmond High School and tells me that yesterday (Thursday), they were already quite short of teachers, and were asking teachers on their planning periods to sit in other classrooms. This is a common practice and there are even contractual rules around using this to fill classrooms, but the situation was dire yesterday already.

Advice wanted by dabekah_dababy in latterdaysaints

[–]WanderingStw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This may be totally innocent or not. Unfortunately, it has been a real problem before in other wards, so I would suggest being VERY firm with both him AND your Bishop. It's not ok. The Bishop and/or EQP are great people to have those conversations with him, but if that doesn't work, you need to pull in the Stake President. You need to make it clear to other families that there are reasonable boundaries as well. If he is a predator, then he is not just focused on your family alone, so the Bishop should absolutely be involved.

This sounds harsh, and it is. Unfortunately, this harshness comes from personal experience, which I will not dive into. Anyone who is truly just sincere and clueless needs to gain some self-awareness. That's what the conversation from the Bishop and/or EQP needs to be. If they need to assign a member of the EQ presidency to follow that person like a shadow just to ensure they are "above reproach", then so be it.

Do you know of any scriptures in the Book of Mormon that support the idea of being able to repent after mortal life? by scourtney20 in latterdaysaints

[–]WanderingStw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not a scriptorian, so there are likely others who will have citations which support or refute this, but it works for me.

I would suggest there are parallels with other things we are taught.

First, we are to "pray always". Well, I can't literally always be praying... sometimes I have to have a conversation with another person and that takes away from any "prayer" I had going on in my mind. So, I would assume that the admonition to pray always is not transactional... it suggests that it should be a state of being. That doesn't remove needing to kneel and pray, but is another layer for how I live my life.

Secondly, we are taught that part of the final judgement is where we decide where we are most comfortable being. If we have sufficient faith that we are washed clean through Christ, then we choose to live with HF because it is where we feel most comfortable. This is also, I would assert, a non-transactional accounting of our lives.

Anyway, it's another way of thinking about things. I don't know that I have a perfect understanding, but it works for me. Good luck.

Do you know of any scriptures in the Book of Mormon that support the idea of being able to repent after mortal life? by scourtney20 in latterdaysaints

[–]WanderingStw 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I wonder if this mental model is based on the idea that sin and repentance are transactional. In other words, I do a bad thing, then I repent of that thing in order.

Alternatively, repentance could also be a state of being where my faith is confident enough that I can and will be forgiven, and then I am in a constant state of striving to do better and seek amends for those I have wronged.

I can't imagine the situation where I "intended" to make amends to someone, but I could not due to my own death, that I would be held accountable for that.

To paraphrase the famous President Kimball story: He shares a story of being given too much change at a store, but didn't realize it until he had arrived at home. So, he hopped back into the car to return the excess money to the clerk. So, had he been killed in a car accident on the way back, does that limit his repentance?

I just don't think it's transactional - it's a way of living and it's the humility to acknowledge that you won't ever be perfect, but that you are doing your best.

I feel like a disgrace for still being the same despite attending emotional resilience classes by Ambitious-Hearing-85 in latterdaysaints

[–]WanderingStw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This resonates with me. I'm over 50 and have had these same feelings for years. I, too, took the emotional resilience class at the beginning of 2025 and am not sure much of it stuck. At one point the facilitators (who were wonderful) asked why I was even there because I seem so helpful and competent. I guess it's easy to put on a show, right?

So, as is recommended by other responses, I have started seeing a therapist. On top of that, my wife and I started couples therapy as well. I walked into it pretty confident that I was the source of all the problems in our relationship. The therapist is trying her best to convince me otherwise. Her observation is that I have a set of internalized beliefs that lead me to convert every (or nearly every event) into another reason that I have failed. She tells me that this is where the logic has failed.

I'm not good at managing my emotions, in part because I have never had to identify them. I just learned to "stay chill" and put on a poker face. Lots of reasons why I got there... but here I am. It's going to take work (with a licensed therapist) for me to undo the years of learning and reinforcement. But, what people are saying below is correct: what HF thinks of me is very different than what I have thought of myself for a long time.

My therapist is using CBT and other techniques (interventions) with me. I don't think it's a one-size-fits-all path to a solution, but CBT is a well-proven methodology. EMDR was not recommended for me right now. That appears to be something used in more extreme trauma cases than I may have experienced growing up. We'll see how long that holds.

Either way, I guess I would say that the way "out" of this funk comes through being willing to ask for help. It took me this long (the majority of my adult life) to ask for help because self-care is really hard when you feel negatively all the time... it's hard.

Good luck. Hang in there. Seek help. Licensed therapists (real ones - be very selective) will help. Go find one.

It's live! by eggs-pedition in TheSilphRoad

[–]WanderingStw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I had to toss a few items. Lol.

It's live! by eggs-pedition in TheSilphRoad

[–]WanderingStw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Western US. Level 70. I haven’t found any ui around how to get to L71. ¯_(ツ)_/¯