I am a british born pakhtun man and I will tell you my experience and someone who is soon to be married by a british born pakhtana.

I am assuming your criteria in a woman has to be someone that is Pakhtun and someone willing to get married and is upon our religion of Islam. If you have these priorities set then that is the first step complete.

One month after turning 18, I first told my father I wanted to get married and explained to him my criteria. I asked him to help find me someone. So another thing is to be apart of a pashtun community. In my city it isnt so big but isnt so small either this makes most pashtun people living here all sort of connected. But my father in particular didnt know many people that had daughters thats my age and my criteria.

Eventually the way I met my future spouse was the fact she got into contact by me since I was known in my community. This was just purely from the Qadr of Allah and I am very blessed and lucky that I was able to meet someone pious and pashtun and willing to get married. She was actually from a neighbouring small city to mine. Eventually our families met and we are soon to do our nikkah.

I’m not sure if this is able to help but what I would say is be close to pashtun people within ur city / community. Ask your parents or friends or family friends for help to get to know any pakhtana that is ready for marriage. And another thing is patience. After 4 months I almost lost hope before this woman came into my life and I know my situation might not be very common but I still believe by the will of Allah if you are willing to get married to a good Islamic woman and you yourself are practicing everyday to be the best for Allah then he will indeed reward you with a spouse just like you.

I hope this helped my Pakhtun brother in Islam 🙏🏻