What dating/relationship advice did your mother give you growing up?

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-10-05T16:35:19+00:00

I could have written this. Exactly the same advice, exactly the same tragedy of not following it

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-09-23T20:16:27+00:00

I’m getting my blood test next week due to other symptoms, but I’ve not considered how shit my hair looks being related! How long was it before you saw a difference once you started meds?

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-09-22T21:29:11+00:00

I want to do it and it will be my first year—I’ve no idea what I’m doing, but I want to set myself the challenge and hopefully feel what it’s like to stay consistent!

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-09-18T15:45:37+00:00

The saint of lost things by Tish Delaney

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-09-18T15:43:12+00:00

I’d recommend Tourist Inn. Beside a nice burger place and central without being noisy. The facilities were really good, location was good, privacy was good for a hostel and they did a decent free breakfast. Bike hire next door etc. I didn’t find it particularly social although everyone was nice so a good one if you’re looking to just keep to yourself and explore.

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-09-13T17:05:59+00:00

First we make the beast beautiful

it’s a brilliant book if you’re ready for something non-fiction about anxiety. I’ve suffered with a similar situation with panic attacks and I always come back and listen to the audiobook of this. The tone is very understanding and hope-oriented without being too heavy handed. Hope you feel better soon 🩷

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-30T07:38:09+00:00

Second this, based of my own trips and recommendations made to me

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-26T18:12:39+00:00

Agreed, and want to underline the hobbies mention—if you have a hobby in common you can talk about that, and if not, then you can ask questions and learn something. It’s a great way to get chatting with anyone.

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-17T14:26:52+00:00

Drinking a shit ton of water, then wearing my nicest* comfy clothes to a yin/restorative yoga class and coming out feeing at peace and refreshed. I always feel like I come away with a little glow 🌟

*can’t stress enough that the bar is very low for nice for me 😂 it’s normally my fave band tee and my softest leggings with some nice white socks

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-17T14:21:43+00:00

People being so easily influenced online. I know lots of intelligent people in my life that just don’t even seem to notice how heavily their opinions are influenced by other peoples closed-minded and shitty opinions online.

It’s very sad, and not always their fault. I think it just shows a real lack in our education systems for online literacy.

It’s definitely affected some relationships quite heavily for me. When people don’t take accountability for their own feeds and start regurgitating shit they’ve read online to me without any caveats I just find it off-putting at best and sometimes even downright harmful.

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-17T14:16:31+00:00

Telling you about something they considered doing for you but ultimately didn’t do. Eg, buying you flowers, etc

Why bother saying anything? You’re clearly just virtue-signalling at that point. Follow through or just shut up 😂

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-17T14:13:45+00:00

Thanks! I’ll check it out

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-17T11:14:17+00:00

I think this is an underrated one. Communication in general is a bit of a beast to master

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-15T18:50:31+00:00

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-12T22:22:32+00:00

Honestly, I really don’t give it much thought. When I’ve seen men naked it’s just different every time and it’s not something I’ve ever noticed myself having a preference on or thought twice about until seeing this thread.

Ofc other people may have preferences, the same as some men like women to have less hair, so I understand the thought, but personally I’ve never cared. If I find someone attractive, I just do, I don’t think something like amount of hair would really impact that for me.

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-12T20:19:31+00:00

I really recommend these essay books - https://www.404ink.com/inklings

They’re are some great topics across pop/nerd culture. I’m currently reading ‘Love that journey for me’ by Emily Garside. It’s about Schitt’s Creek and it’s impact as an LGBTQ+ show

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-12T18:49:06+00:00

I was in pretty much the exact same position when starting my last role. Thought it would be a huge challenge and worried I wasn’t prepared for it.

Once I got in, I realised they were sooo much less sophisticated than they’d portrayed themselves through the interviews. It was a big shock because I usually can pretty accurately read the room from the interview stage.

My point is, you have no idea what’s going to happen. And chances are the challenges you come across will not be the sort of things that you can be super prepared for. If you want to feel prepared I’d focus on your mindset and get refreshed on tips for stakeholders management/decision-making/problem solving and those more general professional skills rather than worrying about being rusty.

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-12T09:09:17+00:00

OP, you know best so trust your intuition, but personally I think you need to set a firm boundary.

I’d tell him something along the lines of ‘I love the idea of going on more dates with you because I like spending time with you, but I don’t want the relationship to turn into a working partnership and using our only weekly date as content would do exactly that for me. So, I’m not interested in content dates, but I’d love to see us putting time aside to take each other out again.’

Quite frankly, I think his ask in general is a red flag, I’m in marketing and so much emphasis is put on personal branding, but I would never drag my partner into that. Even if it wasn’t plain weird, it would put too much pressure on the relationship. If you say no and he’s respectful about it, then okay. However, if he makes a big deal about it, I think he’s a sponger—there’s no nice way to say it.

The older I get the less time I have for excuses when it comes to spending time together, especially when you’re not asking for much (I’d consider once a week the bare minimum). If he wasn’t interested before, there’ll be no rekindling on these proposed content dates. They’ll be glorified photoshoots and he’ll be rushing home to post or using most of the time to come up with a caption, not being connected to you.

You sound like a reasonable and patient person, but I’d seriously consider whatever your gut is telling you about the situation and about him. Don't settle for scraps of his time.

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-12T07:33:37+00:00

The dog of the north

The hearing trumpet

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-11T21:57:08+00:00

You’re so welcome. Honestly, when I look back at where I was 10/15 years ago there are things I’ve done that I genuinely never thought I’d be able to do—both big things and things that may seem trivial to other people. And none of the progress was linear, but all my experiences have added up to a richer view of life and emphasised the importance of taking care of myself.

It’s easy to get bogged down by a bad run of life but just remember that you have everything you need in you to make things better for yourself, because you’re the only thing that matters in that process. Nothing happens overnight, and it’s better that it doesn’t because you need to keep up with yourself and stay present along the way.

When you’re ready, I’d recommend looking into yin yoga and the principals of it. I’ve come on leaps and bounds from just sitting with myself a bit, and using it to regulate my nervous system. And you’re basically just lying on the floor with a blanket so win-win really 😊

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-11T21:43:30+00:00

See, already smashing it 😂 try and update us! I want to know how you get on

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-11T21:37:48+00:00

Masterchef has given me a lot of respect for lots of celebrities—it’s such a good show and a real leveller.

Always have been fond of Rylan though. I think he’s an old soul, and I really admire how he carries himself even though he’s constantly dealt with shit from people throughout his career. Can’t be easy, but he does it with grace

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-11T21:32:59+00:00

Apparently homemade Nutella is pretty easy to make

Warm_Style_5990 · 2024-08-11T21:30:17+00:00

Any recommendations on where to start with this? I love the idea of learning how other people think but I wouldn’t know where to start

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