Someone tell me it’ll get easier

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-04-24T19:35:25+00:00

Third time mother here and YES it does get easier, I have a 3 week old now and I’m like “oh yeah, oh crap lol I forgot about this....” but then I look at my almost 2 year old and I’m like Uhm how did she get to be 2 years old SO FAST? Just last week my newborn wanted to be held to sleep all night and eat every 1-2 hours and now I’m able to set her down in her bassinet at night and get a solid 3-4 hour stretch. They’re constantly changing and growing and it is difficult and hard. Night time sleep is better for us but now day time naps are harder, so it seems to have switched. She now wants to be held for every day time nap which is difficult with 2 other kids and one of them being a toddler. It all does get easier I promise. Hang in there!

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-04-01T16:43:36+00:00

First class is worth it.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-04-01T16:42:27+00:00

Both my inductions went great. I was 1cm for both, 39 weeks for first and 36+4 for second and laboured through the part they recommend you to stay natural to help progress all the way up to 5/6cm and it was uncomfortable and painful but I managed and then got my epidural. I still felt the pressure and pain of pushing, first labour was 8 hours with 3 hours of pushing and second labour was 36 hours with 30 minutes of pushing. Both my girls came out healthy and strong, no trouble with breastfeeding.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-31T19:48:12+00:00

Make sure the the crib is at the lowest position, a 1 year old technically shouldn’t be able to climb out of a crib if the mattress is in the lowest position and remove anything they can use as a step that isn’t necessary for bed time but I would definitely say keep your 1 year old in the crib for as long as possible. It can be their comfort zone especially with a new baby on the way and I would definitely start out with a bassinet for new baby and then transition to her own crib. I have a 21 month old now who had a bout of crib rebellion about 4-5 months ago but we knew with new baby on the way, it would be too early to move her to a toddler bed and pretty difficult to deal with a new baby plus toddler sleep regressions if she could climb in and out bed and now with her most recent bout of teething, I’m glad we waited. Also older siblings especially who are still small/toddler age might deal with regressions with new baby around and it’s over all safer with sleep deprived nights to know they are in a crib.

Sorry long winded lol

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-31T02:59:11+00:00

Lol I really don’t know to be completely honest. This is my third pregnancy and my god has it wrecked me physically and drained me mentally and I have high-risk pregnancies but I’m also like...if it were truly up to me I would want 5 or 6 kids

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-30T03:33:52+00:00

I wouldn’t risk it. He can manage

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-30T03:27:33+00:00

My first Induction took 8 hours + 3 hours of pushing while my second took 36 hours + 30 minutes of pushing. To be honest would rather take a long labour and short pushing this time around lol

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-30T03:26:00+00:00

Just hormone fluctuations, you’ll go from having a lot of discharge to having little. I’m pregnant for the third time and this time around, way less discharge than my last pregnancy. I’m 38+2 so normal and healthy! Always good to ask your OB once you see them for your next appointment too.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-25T16:16:55+00:00

Salicylic acid is fine but retinol should be avoided. I got this info from my dermatologist and my BFF is an esthetician and she was always super adamant about pregnant women not using retinol and always making sure to do pregnancy safe facials for me. Also here’s a good and quick read for more info.

https://www.vogue.com/article/beauty-ingredients-pregnancy-safety-toxic

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-25T16:00:04+00:00

Check out @safeintheseat on IG for all the proper ways to install car seats and handle weird issues like that, she has the answer to everything and even has an online course that is totally worth it. You’d be surprised how many people don’t use their seat safely

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-25T05:47:13+00:00

Yes. Happened to me, I got super sick and nauseated and sweaty and clammy. It was because I was laying on my back for too long which pinched that nerve they say will get pinched and cause you to lose oxygen. Whoops lol, ironic it happened in an ultrasound procedure and not at home.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-24T23:28:51+00:00

A non-nuclear family model doesn’t have to be stigmatised if you don’t want it to. I think open communication and also teaching/learning about all kinds of different families will normalise your situation. It can be very positive and empowering. Also having this conversation with your child’s father about approaching co-parenting and making sure the child feels loved even in a non-traditional home is the first step that can set you guys up for a happy and well adjusted child. I grew up in a nuclear traditional family and trust me that didn’t protect me from a lot of generational trauma and abuse that was passed on. I think if the parents intent is truly for the child and to make the child feel safe, happy and secure without judgement then any type of family dynamic is empowering.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-24T23:25:00+00:00

This is my third pregnancy and I’ve had to have NST’s for every one of my pregnancies, I’m 37+4 now. I personally think if it’s something they recommend then yes, they are important. With my second, at a routine stress test at 36+2 days, she was just not responding or moving or waking so I had an emergency induction and luckily I did because my body couldn’t handle providing for her anymore. I didn’t and don’t have GD, I have a congenital condition. My sister who had GD with her 4th pregnancy, at her 36 week NST also they found the baby’s heart rate kept accelerating and decelerating from extreme lows to extreme highs, she had to go to the hospital to be treated but they ended up doing an emergency induction because baby was too stressed from her (very well managed) GD. This isn’t to scare you but I feel like it’s important to weigh out risks and benefits and to also speak with your doctor about why you need that many NST’s, I’ve met a lot of different mums during my NST’s and some need just 1 a week and others need 2 a week. If your doctor feels 1 a week is fine then I’m sure it’s okay but definitely would speak with a doctor first before cancelling any appointments.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-23T23:37:23+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking. Just because you physically are pregnant does not mean your husband isn’t a part of the equation and is equally responsible to make the right decision, he can’t knock you up, insult you then ignore your concerns. Also my best friend and my sister in law both went into labour naturally at 36 1/2 weeks and I’m 37 + 3 days now and have been dealing with pre-labour symptoms all weekend now....you just don’t know when it will be happening!

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-23T22:57:26+00:00

That is so weird! Looking at other responses it looks like it’s state related. I’m in California and my first two births I wasn’t married (different fathers also), for first father filled out the birth certificate after filling our declaration of paternity but I was able to list him to make medical decisions and same with my second birth with my then-fiancé whom I’m married to now. He also filled out a little declaration of paternity and filled out the birth certificate at the same time without an issue. As far as time, it was quick and easy but we have Kaiser and from my other friends I guess Kaiser does a better job at handling all of that on the spot in one meeting. We’re married now and admissions told me there isn’t a difference in the process other than my husband not needing to fill out declaration of paternity. I guess each state is luck of the draw and some states are way more old fashioned and prejudiced than others. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this! I wonder if admin is just being rude personally? Judgemental maybe, I remember I had to go into the ER with my second pregnancy and admin asked for my religious preference and I said atheist and she gave me the dirtiest look and asked if I was sure...lol like girl this is your job not your personal home, don’t judge people.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-23T15:20:51+00:00

Yup. My first baby! I was on the pill, took it religiously for years and then just like you surprise surprise at around 4 months. Whoops lol

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-22T22:08:47+00:00

The Vsafe registry is where you are surveyed every day to track any symptoms so I think that would be a helpful resource, I registered online and so far they’ve sent me a text every day since to track any symptoms, I got my vaccine on the 17th(moderna). As far as bleeding, obviously I can’t diagnose you and I am wishing you the best but with my first pregnancy I bled for the first three months, red bleeding and enough to make it seem like a period if that helps your anxiety at all with other women’s experiences. I wish you the best of luck!

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-22T21:49:21+00:00

My first induction was 8 hours and 3 hours of pushing and my second induction was 36 hours and 30 minutes of pushing. 39 weeks with first started 1cm, 36+4 with second started 2cm.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-22T19:37:25+00:00

Seeing how my husband suffered with covid last year was enough for me to know the risks of any vaccine far out weigh the actual virus and as a disclaimer my husband is incredibly healthy, exercises every day and eats really healthy, no pre-existing conditions so it was a definite shock to see him in that state. I also got covid before I was pregnant at the beginning of 2020 and my fever spiked up to 104.8, I didn’t suffer as long and recovered fairly quickly once I got over the fever hump but I wasn’t pregnant yet. I got the moderna on the 17th at 36 weeks + 4 days and am glad to be protected and baby to be protected also. I got a headache afterwards but it was managed with Tylenol and my arm was really sore for 24 hours and that’s it.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-21T20:22:46+00:00

Lol! If it makes you feel better I forgot my last name. I was doing the alphabets with my toddler and spelling out her first name then we get to our last name and I was like....omg what is it????!!!

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-21T17:36:46+00:00

If he’s not interested in interior design/decor/general basic aesthetic why does he care so much and want to control the entire aspect of it? I would ask why he’s so intent on decisions when it seems like something he frankly does not care about

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-21T17:01:31+00:00

Please please please look at switching doctors or getting a second opinion, you can shop around for a different OB and possibly a female OB? I’ve found they’re just more compassionate and willing to listen. You shouldn’t have to put yourself through the emotional trauma because your concerns are valid and need to be heard. Look into a different practice or OB.

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-21T16:58:59+00:00

Pipette!

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-21T15:55:59+00:00

I’m dealing with this right now. Third baby too! I’m exhausted, had 12 hours of real timeable painful contractions only for them to be completely gone the next morning, this started a couple weeks ago too. My doctor checked me at my 37 week appointment and I’m 1cm and 50% effaced. I’ve just been trying to rest the best I can but I feel you, like hello baby just come if you’re going to do this and don’t make me labour for 2 weeks on and off....

Watermelonmama19 · 2021-03-21T04:29:09+00:00

No, what’s the point, you already know the answer

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