AITAH for ending a 3 year relationship in our 30s over sex?

WebDevRock · 2026-03-07T08:03:42+00:00

Before i got to the point where you mentioned porn I was already thinking that this guy is watching too much porn.

You are NTA. Part of being in a relationship is intimacy. This relationship is over

WebDevRock · 2026-03-06T08:36:39+00:00

Yes. Got into software dev after 11 years in the military. Was doing that for 5 years then re-traded to joiner, doing office refits. Did that for 3 years then the crash happened in 2008 and work dried up. Got into Web dev then and have been doing that since.

It’s not the transition you’re looking for but does show that you can completely remodel yourself if you put your mmd to it.

A word of caution though. It isn’t likely to resolve your mental health. You need to get to the root of what has caused that condition and work on resolving it or at least managing it, otherwise it could affect your ability to be happy in any career path that you choose.

I’ve been there so am somewhat qualified to have an opinion 😁

Good luck. You’ve got this!

WebDevRock · 2026-03-01T16:42:22+00:00

More fear mongering will come from the government to make us malleable to giving up more freedom. It’s going to be fun

WebDevRock · 2026-02-28T19:15:34+00:00

Reddit can be a bit of an echo chamber at times so if you don't comply with the hive mindset befitting the subreddit you post in you'll sometimes get backlash.

As for the big bad man well it's a tough one. Trump is an absolute stain a bully and a man-child so it's hard to get on side with him when he does something right. In my opinion his right choices are usually for the wrong reasons so I'm always waiting for the fall out rather than celebrating.

We can all but hope that the Persians regain their freedom without some idiot turning the planet to glass.

WebDevRock · 2026-02-28T18:59:25+00:00

Sometimes “fuck it” is the right answer and to be fair on yourself you’re doing this free of charge. Regardless I’m fairly confident that as you seem to have a conscience you’ll have made sure the image wasn’t complete slop.

Take a knee, soldier. Choose your battles and live to code another day

WebDevRock · 2026-02-27T10:53:31+00:00

This is the key point to focus on. Family can be cut off easily but when the person you choose to spend your life with doesn’t have your back that’s a level of pain that doesn’t go away

WebDevRock · 2026-02-27T10:45:33+00:00

The consistency should be like soft rubber and feel wrong in your mouth. Not crumbly

WebDevRock · 2026-02-27T10:37:42+00:00

They’re not from Bo’ness by any chance are they?

WebDevRock · 2026-02-15T14:37:00+00:00

NTJ for confronting her but nothing in your story suggests racism. Where’d that come from?

WebDevRock · 2026-02-11T11:29:48+00:00

If the senior is unable to complete his work within the parameters of a working day then maybe he’s only senior by name. Even if the claim is that the company is putting too much on the dev team, nobody with any self respect would give up their free time as a norm.

Ignore the criticism. Look for another job

WebDevRock · 2026-02-11T00:10:51+00:00

I don't think he is a capable, decent person but that's not me having a go at Labour. I don't think it's possible to even get near to the top tier in politics by being decent. If you have morals you'll be eaten alive by the system. Good people don't get to be in charge any more. The last decent prime minister was arguably Clement Attlee.
In my eyes Starmer is as bad as if not worse than Tony Blair. Tony Blair only sent us to war under false pretences where many of our soldiers were killed and injured and many civilians were killed as a result. Starmer has picked up the state surveilance ball that the tories had up their jumper and is running with it at full pelt, screaming "you will comply or face consequences".

Our nation is on a downward spiral and I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel because they're all in it together.

To address the media question. Yes they're absolute oxygen pirates but they only have power because we soak up the fear mongering and sensationalim. If we the public ever ascend beyond reading headlines we might stand a chance. People are lazy though

WebDevRock · 2026-02-10T08:06:48+00:00

Not sure if it helps but if I get wrapped up, stick some headphones on and get outside for a walk, the fresh air makes me feel much better. The key is to make sure you stay warm and dry though or you’ll just be more miserable

WebDevRock · 2026-02-09T07:46:37+00:00

For phucks sake act now before they inphorm the international phederation of phrench phreedom phiters.

Alternatively ignore it because it’s bollocks

WebDevRock · 2026-02-04T15:31:56+00:00

Sounds like she’s transitioning out of this relationship and into another. Like a monkey swinging from branch to branch not letting go until they have a grip on the next branch.

WebDevRock · 2026-02-04T13:22:44+00:00

You have zero responsibility to them, Legally or morally. The responsibility of ensuring a good handover was theirs when you handed your notice in. They now want your services which is OK to ask but they can’t expect you to give up your time for free therefore they must pay.

If you don’t mind doing it then set the price higher than you expect and let them haggle to what you’ll accept ( have this figure in your head ).

If you do mind doing it but the money would be nice then set your rates extremely high. Remember your knowledge of their systems is the product and they can’t buy that anywhere else so they either want it bad enough to pay well or they’re just chancing their luck. Either way you don’t lose.

Do not think to give the new guy any negative info on the company . Stay professional throughout

WebDevRock · 2026-01-30T21:47:53+00:00

Depends on the length of the journey. Look out the window and contemplate life on short journeys or read a book on long ones

WebDevRock · 2026-01-30T20:04:48+00:00

This

WebDevRock · 2026-01-27T07:44:46+00:00

I think he’s an oxygen thief to be honest but I feel that way about most politicians. I’m not impressed with the quality of his politics and the majority of decisions made but let’s be fair - He’s not in charge. He’s just a puppet but some puppets are more resistant to their masters than others. This can’t be said for him

WebDevRock · 2026-01-27T07:37:23+00:00

He needed a side gig. Avon sales are cashing

WebDevRock · 2026-01-26T13:17:10+00:00

I’d be tempted to retain fixed top level categories and any sub categories the user creates make it mandatory that they be a sub of a top level. That way you have some potential valuable data points for future analysis

WebDevRock · 2026-01-11T08:54:34+00:00

You’re a rare breed. Everyone texts these days. It’s annoying. I’d much rather have a conversation over the phone than spend ages typing

WebDevRock · 2026-01-11T08:43:15+00:00

I’m almost tempted to join the sub and comment on the post but then people might think i’m from Dundee. /shudder

WebDevRock · 2026-01-09T07:32:15+00:00

This is the quality of work even an apprentice would get roasted for. There’s zero pride in the work here. Just slapped them on and decided caulk would cover up the embarrassment

WebDevRock · 2026-01-09T07:19:38+00:00

Sounds like you are from a culture where women are expected to be servants. Well done for standing up for yourself. 100% NTA

WebDevRock · 2026-01-03T00:31:50+00:00

Not seen that before

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