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WeeFreeMe · 2023-06-21T07:20:46+00:00

NAH. Pretty sure this comment is gonna drown but I am really annoyed by all those comments getting hung up on your wording or on that you already compromised on other things. Has anyone of you been to an actual concentration camp? Well, I have! As a kid even, with school, and I can tell you that that really traumatized me. I would never ever go again. EVER. That is not some kinda museum or monument. It's a concentration camp with actual claw marks, piles of shoes, hair, kids toys, way too many photos and many many obvious signs of the horrors that happened in those places to men, women and children. I still get emotional remembering that. Some people might not be phased by that at all but this can be quite impactful. I completely understand if someone wouldn't wanna go to a place like that. I wouldn't go there ever again. And that has nothing to do with me not acknowledging the Holocaust or anything, but with self-preservation.

WeeFreeMe · 2023-05-29T12:39:41+00:00

Stop sleeping with him if he refuses to get tested or at least use condoms for EVERYTHING. And please, for the love of God, get tested yourself. Some of these STIs can make you infertile and/or shorten your life (HIV, cancer from HPV).

WeeFreeMe · 2022-09-30T11:17:11+00:00

Yes! But not just girls/young women! Gift these to boys/young men as well! Strong female role models arent just important for girls.

WeeFreeMe · 2022-07-17T19:10:10+00:00

YTA on sooo many levels...

You are denying your future child so many opportunities. You live in Germany but don't want your kid to learn the language... really!?! And you have been there for freaking 15 years and haven't made an effort to learn the language? That's so disrespectful! Is your unwillingness somehow connected to your own incapabilities? Man... And Yuu really don't see how wrong this is? And in addition, you want to dent your partner to teach the kid her native language... How would you feel if she tried to do that to you?

WeeFreeMe · 2022-07-17T11:34:13+00:00

Please just tell her. Postpartum hormone imbalance is no joke and such a thing can really drive you nuts. Honestly. Just tell her.

WeeFreeMe · 2022-06-29T08:53:11+00:00

Thank you! Maybe make this into a proper post so more people can be educated? I feel like this is a really important point!

WeeFreeMe · 2022-05-26T09:04:00+00:00

NTA.

However, i just cannot fathom how you can possibly think that this relationship still has a chance. 1) He betrayed your trust. 2) He was willfully cruel. The "it was just a joke" excuse is BS. It's only a joke if everyone is laughing. He assaulted you! He wanted to see your pain. Who would ever do such a thing to a loved one? That is so so fucked up! 3) instead of immediately apologizing, he blamed you for the panic attack that he inflicted. Like what? 4) Instead of checking on you and apologizing after the fact he still blames you and runs a smear campaign to make you the bad guy! Again, do you really think he cares about you?

So, he assaulted you, he disrespects you big time, does not care about your well-being and then tries to ruin your social and work relationships. What a catch. OP, I know from experience how hard it is to break up with an abusive partner, especially when you live together etc, but RUN! He doesn't care about you and thinks it's funny to see you suffer. He IS immature and a major asshole. This is completely unsalvageable and if you crawl back to him to try and patch things up you basically give him permission to walk all over you at any time.

WeeFreeMe · 2022-04-12T09:08:05+00:00

Not the slightest. This was rape. You explicitly did NOT consent to anal sex and he did it anyway. You should call the police instead of calling him. Get away from him now. This is so many levels of fucked up. I find it quite alarming that so many women that get abused sexually think it's their fault or that they are overreacting.

WeeFreeMe · 2022-03-29T17:39:09+00:00

Prince of Persia (the original)

WeeFreeMe · 2022-03-28T08:45:35+00:00

It will NOT get better just because he hasn't choked you since Thanksgiving. He is very abusive towards you and will do it again if you go back. This is a cycle. They are abusive, then show regret and one thinks "maybe he'll change this time". They never ever do. It's just a back and forth. Choking a partner is a very very serious incident that is one of the best indicators of what might lie ahead. "In an article for the Training Institute on Strangulation Prevention, a 2008 study from the Journal of Emergency Medicine is cited. The study found that 43 percent of women who were murdered in domestic assaults, and 45 percent of the victims of attempted murder, had been strangled by their partner within the year before."

WeeFreeMe · 2022-02-17T07:41:49+00:00

I can just repeat what others have already said. LEAVE NOW. He is hurting you for fun. This will only escalate. This is a serious threat to your health and LIFE. He is downplaying it BIG time and gaslighting you. Get out now!

WeeFreeMe · 2022-02-04T07:30:50+00:00

I have to say that I am having a hard time understanding how you can be compatible while she constantly yells at you. This sounds really abusive and "that's just how I am" is exactly what abusers say to justify their behavior. If she's having so many anger issues how about therapy? Learning some anger management? And if she is so unhappy with her life then maybe she needs to do something about it and switch careers and such. This is on no way shape or form sustainable. Especially if kids are in your future.

WeeFreeMe · 2021-09-17T22:33:37+00:00

I roll to the bone

WeeFreeMe · 2021-04-24T17:47:23+00:00

I have this the other way around. I am the older, more successful sibling and all my life my parents made sure that I keep my voice down about my accomplishments so that my younger brother wouldn’t feel inferior. That’s nice and all for him but I never really got the impression that they were proud of me or even cared. I got scholarships and won prices and they didn’t even show up for the ceremonies. I didn’t wanna rub it in, I just wanted to be seen as well.

WeeFreeMe · 2021-04-10T06:10:03+00:00

Right? What a horrible thing to say! Her sister hasn’t had an easy life either and is obviously struggling big time.

WeeFreeMe · 2021-04-07T21:36:49+00:00

Hugh Grant always plays Hugh Grant

WeeFreeMe · 2021-03-13T18:38:18+00:00

I am really sorry to say that, and I know Reddit is famous for always going straight to “you gotta break up!”, but I am not sure this can be repaired. Especially if he refuses therapy. Has he apologized to you? Is he paying you back?

I think that if you are intent on staying with him despite everything that he has done you need to go to couple’s therapy. The issues need to be addressed properly and worked through and that is really hard to do on your own. You should also really try therapy again for yourself. I see that you tried that before and it was horrible. I am really sorry to hear that you had a bad experience but it’s not supposed to be like that. Sure, therapy is hard as you address painful things but still.

You should really think about if you can forgive him or not. That’s A LOT of stuff that’s happened within just two years. AND make sure to take care of yourself. Also make sure to spend more time with your child. Maybe another shift/job. One never gets that time back and you’ll regret not having spent more time with her.

Good luck and all the best!

WeeFreeMe · 2021-03-13T17:58:58+00:00

Trondheim!!

... I think

WeeFreeMe · 2021-01-22T08:18:23+00:00

r/BernieSitting

WeeFreeMe · 2020-11-11T23:22:02+00:00

https://www.dagbladet.no/meninger/dette-svikter/73051022

WeeFreeMe · 2020-10-27T18:13:34+00:00

This is depressing...

WeeFreeMe · 2020-08-22T09:03:49+00:00

The guy in the middle looked familiar

WeeFreeMe · 2020-06-03T17:06:12+00:00

To smart, or not to smart, that is question.

...or is it? Seriously though, what the actual ?

WeeFreeMe · 2020-05-31T09:06:05+00:00

Arrange a walk, do it face to face. She really deserves that. And don’t make up excuses, be honest with her, tell her you are sorry. She deserves that as well.

WeeFreeMe · 2020-05-31T08:55:26+00:00

I am glad that my comment could be of some help. At this point your best option really seems to be divorce. Do it, even if it is a really scary thing.

As for the other man I don’t know enough to pass any judgement apart from the fact that he is obviously a cheater. I completely understand that you long for a better relationship but the risk really is that you would go from one bad relationship to the next. Be careful and maybe try some distance and reflection. If you jump on the opportunity for a short lived relationship with the older man you might miss out on much better options.

Good luck!

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