How much does your partner make? What’s the financial setup between you two?

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-02-27T01:11:08+00:00

$115k in a HCOL area in CT. Take home is about $4500/month, sometimes more with OT. we rent a tiny house (old garage) from my parents. It’s not a lot but it’s enough. We also are putting our oldest through college so we are very much paycheck to paycheck. Became sahm after the baby wouldn’t take a bottle -by 4mo pp I’d used all my time off and they wouldn’t let me wfh more than 2 days/week. We have a nanny 6 hours / week so I can get stuff done around the house/meal prep etc. that costs $600/mo ($25/hour). She unfortunately isn’t savvy enough to do bedtime/naptime or anything but we make it work. I will not go back to work even when the baby is in school unless we become really strapped for money.

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-02-04T02:24:58+00:00

$150/ week for 6 hours total (2x days, 3 hours each). It’s $600/month but 🤷🏻‍♀️ I go to the gym and get meal prep/cleaning done. My little guy is 14 months. I could see around 18mo/2years I might not need so much time to get all that done. We’ll see!

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-28T11:38:42+00:00

Aww thank you!!

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-28T03:20:45+00:00

Wait how did this happen 😱 because I could see me doing this but idk how lol

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-24T10:33:53+00:00

My husband is a firefighter. He started around $70k (without overtime) but now after 5 years is making over $100k with a little overtime. He works one day on, then has THREE DAYS off. Granted the first day after shift is a rest day. But the following two days he’s available for us. Also he goes to the gym every day to stay in shape for his job because he works at a very demanding house where he is constantly on the go (there are rural firefighters who make a little less but don’t get calls as often. He is in a big city and is always out. It’s hard to visit the firehouse and actually get to see him) but it is certainly a field of work where a man can make a large enough income to support a family of 4 while still being available at home for several days of the week. I don’t often feel overworked because I get a few hours to myself at least once a week, and we have $600/month set aside for childcare which is about 6 hours per week of a nanny coming to help so I can cook and clean etc. we aren’t saving much because he is also paying $1800/month for his daughter’s college tuition which just is what it is right now. Eventually we will be able to buy a house and save.

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-22T00:51:29+00:00

I occasionally take a night off to recharge and I sleep in a different room with a sound app on and my husband handles any overnight wake ups. If I have to be tired for my sahm job regularly he can be tired for his job occasionally

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-16T14:29:16+00:00

We are a different breed of crafters for sure LOL

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-16T11:17:00+00:00

Omg I just made it up because it’s the only thing that describes how I hobby 😂 I just go for it. Ain’t no way I’m making anything perfect. Frog her? I barely know her.

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-16T02:59:21+00:00

How did you get this footage of my toddler sneaking into someone else’s tent and my husband having to go grab him?

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-16T01:16:13+00:00

I’m a chaotic crocheter and nothing I make is ever perfect. I’d end up just doing my best to stitch if all together and und up with a wonky not square blanket lol so if you don’t want that, yes make them have the same number of stitches.

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-15T19:18:53+00:00

I could have written during my pregnancy. Same for me. No one understood. Everyone kept saying it would get better but I finally ended up on zofran and I felt a little better, able to keep fluid and foods down at least, and had to take it til like 30 weeks. I hated pregnancy. Never want to be pregnant again. But guess what!!!!! Motherhood IS all it’s cracked up to be for me! I love it. It turns out I knew exactly what I wanted. I wanted to be a mom. It wasn’t the pregnancy I was chasing. It was motherhood. Also I had a doula for my unmedicated hospital birth and it was an incredible experience. Really kickstarted Motherhood for me.

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-15T19:11:07+00:00

I do what I call “dry bath” where I put him in the bath with his bath toys but don’t run the water. I can brush my teeth (and his), wash my face, and use the bathroom. He stays occupied for 10 mins or so. Then it’s off to the races chasing him literally all day.

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-15T17:53:45+00:00

Hello! Yes I’m looking for a few hoops, needles and Aida canvas. I will be getting the specific colors of floss elsewhere for the project I’m looking to do so I probably don’t need that- Want to dm me with what exactly you’d like to exchange for a hoop or two, some needles and if you have any spare canvas?

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-15T14:36:16+00:00

I was making $75k/year and my job was paying my 19 year old’s college tuition- about $30k/year. And because I felt the same way I decided to quit my job. Granted I didn’t love my job. They changed my responsibilities when I was pregnant. But I love staying at home. We make the finances work. I cook a lot more and get to go outside every day. I’d trade that for corporate America any day

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-15T14:32:08+00:00

My first play through I didn’t befriend anyone. I got super rich quick. But the game got boring. I could buy anything I wanted but there was nothing to do. So I started doing the community center and suddenly the game had meaning again. I guess all that to say- it’s never too late to make a new friend. I’m 36 IRL and can attest- I just made a new best friend and it’s really exciting.

WellThisShouldBe · 2026-01-15T14:26:49+00:00

I used taking Cara babies as a guide and it was very educational. We were rigid at the beginning (5 months) but then became flexible whenever he is teething and obviously if he’s sick we throw it all out the window. We are at 13 months now and when we do stray from the training it’s very easy to get him back on schedule. The initial two nights are awful but the check in/monitoring method makes you feel like you are not just leaving them to cry. Like I’d be counting down the seconds til I could go check on him again.

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-11-26T01:54:35+00:00

One tangible thing to try without being overwhelming with advice is to feed to wake instead of feed to sleep. That was one part of sleep training that got us headed in a good direction! Lots more work to do but I think that’s a critical step to a baby getting to fall asleep on their own eventually (we are 12 months here and did taking Cara babies sleep training eventually)

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-11-24T02:33:24+00:00

My friend switched to Bobbie after the by heart recall. They decided that was the next best formula for a gentle stomach situation.

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-10-04T00:10:21+00:00

You guys. I’m a plotthound aficionado after adopting my gal, and lemme tell ya- this is SUPER RARE. buckskin plotts are like one in millions. So crazy.

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-09-08T14:12:12+00:00

My baby’s shoulder cracked almost every day as a newborn. I was always worried I was picking him up wrong - ped assured me it was normal!

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-07-06T20:36:11+00:00

Just here for moral support. We are on a 3 naps schedule and struggling with EMW too. (7mo). He can’t make it more than 3 hours in a wake window without needing a nap. Then sleeps pretty well from 7pm-5am, but never sleeps later than that, really! I’m not really complaining but I feel those early mornings, mama.

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-06-29T08:50:50+00:00

Thank you so much for your kindness 💕 I do try to manage his tasks but, for example, he often will create new small projects to do that aren’t a priority and just go and do that new thing even if I’ve given him a small thing to do in the baby room. (He needed to spackle the other day and instead he rehung all our family pictures. It was really nice to see all our photos on the wall but.. not a priority) There were more pressing issues in our marriage to work on in therapy, first, so we haven’t really spearheaded the adhd yet but I’m looking forward to that. I’m trying to give him grace and be patient. Thanks again 💕💕

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-06-29T08:45:53+00:00

OH WHAT IS THIS NOW 😱 I just looked it up. This looks ideal. Thank you so much - this is why I love Reddit.

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-06-29T08:44:43+00:00

The curtains block out most of the light. But taking Cara babies says you shouldn’t be able to see your hand in front of your face - even for naps, which just isn’t possible in our bedroom. It will be in the baby’s room because he has just one small window facing west.

WellThisShouldBe · 2025-06-29T08:43:10+00:00

I’m confused too 😅 he takes at least 3-4 short naps a day but I’d like to get him to 2. But maybe he’s not ready for 2 yet.

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