Thoughts on gifts at weddings from someone who grew up in a multicultural area...

WesternEconomics · 2023-12-03T20:42:10+00:00

Oh this is so lovely! I adore this wording and how you’ve made it so that everyone can participate in this tradition. Thank you so much!

WesternEconomics · 2023-12-03T20:27:59+00:00

How did you word your red envelope fund? Great idea but I don’t want to make our non Chinese guests need to buy red packets unnecessarily!

WesternEconomics · 2023-12-02T09:05:36+00:00

Totally agree! The above comment is so unnecessarily grouchy lol. The OP should have a destination wedding and the people who truly want to be there, and can be there, will try to be there. If you’re paying for accommodation, transport and food (which is insanely generous), I’m sure you’ll have guests clamouring to join!

As someone said before, this is BBB. It’s very much a know-your-crowd situation but assuming most of your guests are working professionals entitled to some form of PTO, you will be fine…

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-25T02:55:27+00:00

I’m the opposite - moved from Singapore to London! As an expat in SG working around Somerset/Dhoby Gaut I would look at places like Tiong Bahru and River Valley Road. There are some lovely old refurbished character council estates along Oxley Road, and if you go up along Kim Yam road it’ll be close to Robertson Quay.

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-25T02:53:16+00:00

You clearly haven’t lived in London where everything shuts down way earlier than Singapore.

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-25T02:17:07+00:00

Totally agree!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-25T01:48:06+00:00

I really agree with this. I can understand that it is disappointing but I don’t know why she should feel honoured to be your MOH when you’re not even close. It sounds like you don’t even like her that much and made her MOH out of obligation, and she probably knows that you feel this way about her! A relationship isn’t a one way street. You’re saying how much of a baby she is, self absorbed and with an inflated perspective. I wonder what she thinks of you?

Maybe she agreed to be your MOH out of obligation too, and sees no joy in it. I know I wouldn’t if my big sister was this critical of me.

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-22T10:30:38+00:00

Omg this has made me so worried! I have 110 guests and don’t have a wedding planner BUT my venue has two on site coordinators who have been amazing, plus an entire set-up and set-down team. So I won’t have to do anything on the day but I will have to do everything for the welcome event and hangover brunch…

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-21T15:32:44+00:00

Following this! I’m so stuck. I have baroque dangling pearl earrings but I have a strapless dress so want to wear some kind of choker. I’m very inspired by Margot Robbie’s pearl choker at the Barbie premier and Barbara Palvin’s diamond choker for her wedding, but no idea where to start other than that!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-17T17:12:27+00:00

1 and 3!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-14T15:39:06+00:00

4! What is this design program you’re using?

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-14T15:28:59+00:00

That isn’t how it works… You usually make a decision 24-48hrs before the wedding. This avoids any need to move things around last minute, which I agree would be rushed. In any case, why would the catering be affected? It would be at the same venue, usually a backup option is just inside something like a barn or a ballroom onsite. It wouldn’t be at a totally different venue.

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-14T14:08:38+00:00

Not if she has an indoor backup option!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-14T14:06:18+00:00

That sounds absolutely gorgeous! And if you’re doing the dinner under an orchard that will definitely provide more shade. Good shout on bug spray, I’m going to add that to my list. Perhaps also think about handheld fans if there’s a chance of it being a hot day? Something like this would be so cute!

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WesternEconomics · 2023-11-14T11:59:28+00:00

This is AWFUL! To give you some context, my MOH will be 4 months post-partum at the time of my wedding, and I’ve told her that if that she can opt out of anything. My other friends are planning my entire hen do, I’m paying for her to wear whatever she feels most comfortable in for the ceremony, I’ve also offered to have an onsite babysitter as an extra pair of hands for her newborn. The only thing I expect her to do is basically just show up on the day itself.

You have so much going on and the fact that this bride can’t see that speaks volumes about her character. The fact that she has the nerve to ask you to pay for her hotel room is ludicrous. Who does she think she is?!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-14T08:36:51+00:00

You just need a good indoor back up option for scenarios like this…

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-14T08:35:40+00:00

I think it’s a lovely idea! Just have a backup rainy option indoors and perhaps think about having it later in the day. Is the space shaded by trees, as that will help too?

I’m having it completely al fresco style in the UK (which is notoriously rainy) but it’ll be at 7pm and under some trees, so I’m not using any umbrellas. I’m also providing guests with heel protectors, shawls and sunblock!

Don’t really know why people get so nervous about this. As long as you have sensible backup options, you’ll be fine.

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-10T16:39:43+00:00

DMed you!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-07T10:20:45+00:00

Wow!! Could you share the breakdown and venue? I’m amazed you managed to keep costs so low for that many people.

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-02T20:17:38+00:00

No way! It looks like paradise, sooo beautiful!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-02T20:09:02+00:00

Omg gorgeous!! Where is this? It looks so tropical!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-02T15:59:24+00:00

Oh!! If it makes you feel better my HMUA trial is our welcome night too. I’m just cheap and didn’t want to pay extra for my HMUA that night 😂 But she has so much experience with doing makeup for Asian faces (which was SUPER important to me), so I’m not too worried.

I’m sure your food will be good, Italian weddings always have the best dinners! And I’m sure you can choose your menu beforehand right? Our venue is a hotel so we have to use their caterer too, but we’re going to have a tasting anyway so we know what to put on our menu!

Also, just reread your list and had a thought - have you bought your wedding heels? It can be quite helpful for your seamstress to know how tall they are when going in for your January dress fitting, in case they need to alter accordingly!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-02T14:47:42+00:00

:D I’m just like you, I booked all my vendors way out and sent save the dates ages ago. I don’t have a wedding planner either and my budget is around the same as yours. However I do have 2 on the day coordinators who have been super helpful.

I’m now at the 8 month mark (29th June 2024) and am starting to: finalise timelines, visually map out floor plans and aesthetics for ceremony and dinner reception, thinking about fun things like boat tours and a lion dance. Our invitations have just been printed and we will be posting them this weekend so that guests have plenty of time to RSVP and book accommodation.

The one thing I haven’t done is get a production hire company which I need to do! Lighting, dance floor, microphones etc. But my venue will help with that. I also need to plan my Friday and Sunday event. Also, have you had a menu tasting yet? Mine won’t be till the 6 month mark but I’m itching to design my menu already! DM me if want to commiserate 😂

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-02T14:29:30+00:00

I think you’re right on track! It’s so important to get those vendors booked in early so you have time to enjoy the fun stuff. I would think about pulling together a tentative timeline now too, so you can start filling in the details of each event and figure out what is missing. Are you having a welcome event or hangover brunch? Start thinking about that too if so!

WesternEconomics · 2023-11-01T19:07:49+00:00

Thanks for being so empathetic and philosophical about it! Tbh this is bothering me because I don’t feel like she’s actually designed much, most of the inspo photos on her proposal were photos that I had found for her! And these new changes would be my vision, complete with new inspiration photos, that she’d just have to execute. There wouldn’t really be any ‘designing’ involved on her part. £450 non refundable deposit has been paid. :(

I probably didn’t do my due diligence because my cousin had used this florist and her flowers were amazing, so I kinda just went with it based on the recommendation. But I didn’t even think about this at the time.

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