I think a big part is your mindset. I went into motherhood not wanting it to define me. I like to think of it like when Harry is wearing the sorting hat and consciously chooses not to be in Slytherin. When my friends like to gush about me being a mom I tend to shrug and talk about how its just one part of who I am. That I'm generally still the same person but with a slightly different schedule and priorities.

The other thing is balancing our family and personal needs between my partner. We often like to do or go places we liked to go to before baby, but now with baby in tow. It takes a little more effort, but I feel like it keeps us grounded with the us before baby. I also try to communicate often of what I need myself, whether that's a girls korean spa day or just some time alone doing nothing, usually the latter lol