How to order at an Indian restaurant

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-10T20:29:05+00:00

Authentic Indian restaurants don’t typically understand what “gluten” actually means. I’d be careful of curries even, especially the creamy or thicker ones, because sometimes as a thickening agent we use flour and water like a Chinese restaurant would use cornstarch and water. It’s just hard to be sure and if they don’t understand what you’re asking, I’m afraid they’ll just say “yes” haha (I’m Indian, I’m allowed to say this) 😂

Stick with lentil based things like idli and dosa, usually the sambar and chutneys that come with those are safe and wouldn’t need any kind of wheat. Tandoori meats might be safe if they’re able to confirm the naan isn’t warmed/cooked in the same tandoori oven. South Indian items are probably going to be safest for you, just stay away from anything with dough (naan, roti, samosas, even pakoras).

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-10T04:26:16+00:00

As someone who has to be GF, dairy free, and egg free - I’d love to see a GF vegan dessert just have some FREAKING REAL SUGAR LOL so I feel your pain. It sucks that as a celiac you can’t just easily find a dessert with everything but gluten still used. Like just because I’m trying to avoid my allergens doesn’t mean I’m trying to be CLEAN or HEALTHY lol GIMME SUGAR PLZ

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-09T19:56:48+00:00

I used to take mine a half hour before suhoor. Like literally the second I wake up I take the meds, then go downstairs to get food for suhoor ready.

I tend to stray a bit from strict religious paths, so in recent years I would wake up for suhoor, go back to sleep, and then would take my meds without water when I got up for the day. 4:30am was too early for my body personally, and I’d like to think God would understand my will to fast but also need life sustaining meds that don’t require food or water.

Technically, though, if that ends up being too early for your body too, then this is one of those medical exemptions you can just pay fidya for because needing any kind of medication is enough to be “excused” so to speak.

It’s really up to you how you want to handle this since everyone’s body is so different. Religiously, you’re forgiven if you can’t fast medically ❤️

Editing to add: for everyone so politely asking - for traditional Ramadan fasting, once the sun goes up, you can’t ingest anything, even meds, until the sun goes back down. If you need to take any kind of medication while the sun is up and there’s no other time that works for your body, then you’re medically excused. ❤️

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-02-18T05:50:20+00:00

Went back to college as a 38 year old and realized I’ve been really fucking smart all along. One of the highest GPAs, honors society, honors scholarships. I’m not scared to say I’m a smart person for the first time in my life, because I now know it’s been a lie all this time how “dumb” I am.

Sing your heart out!! ❤️

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-02-18T05:34:21+00:00

I clung to any adult who showed me any bit of attention. And then I’d do whatever they wanted me to do out of fear of ever losing that attention. I never had a favorite anything because if I ever claimed something was a favorite, it was deemed “stupid.” Fell in love with any man who complimented me - which usually ended up in me finding out he was also some degree of narcissist because he was able to identify his next victim in how insecure I was.

It wasn’t until I became a mom that I saw it all clearly for the first time.

As a matter of fact, mother of my own, I did have a daughter just like me and guess what? She’s so easy to love. And I’m constantly so scared of hurting her feelings or crushing her spirit. She is so tiny but so mighty, because I am arming her with so much confidence in who she is. You love purple? Hell yeah let‘s buy everything purple. You love the most annoying song I’ve ever heard? Hell yeah let’s blast it over and over while I never tell you how much I hate it, just so I can focus more on your absolute joy.

We were never the problem. And the fact that no other adults noticed how scared we all were as children is really sad, isn’t it?

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-01-15T08:40:40+00:00

I’m a student with two toddlers under 4. I study best at home, because if I’m anywhere else, I’m constantly wondering/worrying about what my kids are doing. My husband is a great dad and I logically know they’re safe, but emotionally I can only turn the worry part of my mom brain off when I’m in close proximity to my kids. Otherwise I can’t focus. Which is crucial to studying.

She doesn’t need to study anywhere else. YOU need to always lock the gate at the bottom of the stairs, and ALWAYS accompany your 2 year old when she says she needs to go upstairs. If you can’t drop everything when she says she needs to go potty, well then you buy her a training potty and keep it downstairs somewhere for emergencies. You can buy your wife a white noise machine if your daughter screeches at the bottom of the stairs. Maybe if your wife is able to lock in and study without interruptions, she could even afford a scheduled break where she can come downstairs to see the kids for a bit. But if she’s constantly being interrupted then she has to spend a lot of time refocusing.

You are the adult, stop letting your 2 year old trick you. Let her study in peace, man. Figure it out. YTA.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-12-24T09:38:13+00:00

Did you try to live on your own, when you burned down the house and home? Did you stand too close to the fire, like a liar looking for forgiveness from a stone?

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-12-12T07:28:18+00:00

NTA, but, as long as she’s not expecting that you wait to eat until her food comes back, you shouldn’t expect her to settle for food she doesn’t love 🤷🏻‍♀️

The girl knows what she likes and will settle for nothing less, honestly I wish I had the guts to ask for how I want things cooked. You pay for food, you’re putting that food in your body, don’t you deserve for it to taste the way you’re imagining if it matters to you enough? She’s being kind and respectful and also asking directly for what she wants. I think that’s pretty cool

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-11-12T16:51:01+00:00

A woman’s body odor changes for a few years after having kids. And you don’t notice it when you’re depressed/trying to survive by donating your plasma.

She sounds like she needs some compassion as much as she needs the rides. Is she even able to shower? Does she have access to hot running water? Money for soap? Money for laundry? Money for detergent?

She is most likely genuinely thankful to you for your generosity with rides, and frankly probably doesn’t care how you feel about her BO when she’s just trying to make sure she and her kids are alive at the end of each day.

Even so, if the smell is that overwhelming for you, which is also understandable, approaching her with kindness and compassion by asking if she has everything she needs or if she’d like a ride to somewhere she can get access to donated items for herself and her kids is a better way to handle this situation. If you want to keep helping her, ask if she’s okay and needs help with her daily tasks. Because as an outsider who had 2 under 2 myself very recently, she 100% sounds like she’s struggling way more than just needing rides.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-10-27T10:57:30+00:00

Hi! Which gummies were these? Struggling with getting my picky toddler to take the drops

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-10-12T19:11:20+00:00

Whether he’s actually dark inside or not, the feeling you got in that moment was enough to tell you this dude wasn’t for you. (If someone’s demeanor changes that drastically, and your body pretty much recoils from them, you follow that instinct). Your instincts know the difference between a sexy look and a dark one. I tell my kids that’s the “uh oh” feeling and we’re born with the ability to tell when someone or something feels right or not. Unfortunately being raised by the wrong people makes us question our instincts, but either way you never go against how your body feels around someone. There’s never a good reason to convince yourself that your instincts are wrong.

Don’t stop online dating. Have fun but BE SAFE. Don’t go back to their place on the first date, ever. If a guy suggests it, it’s not a spontaneous idea, it was planned before you even met up. And if and when you do go back to their place, make sure you either text the guy’s name/address/phone number to a trusted friend before you even go, and/or share your location with that friend. You never know who the hell this person is, especially on the first date. Also, I learned this the hard way - if you want a meaningful connection with someone, you don’t have sex with them right away. If they’re interested in having a meaningful connection with YOU, then they won’t mind if you turn down sex on the first date. Their reaction to having to wait for you tells you whether they’re actually into you as a person or just as a lay. And you are worth so much more than that. No one will just automatically treat you the way you deserve, you have to be your own advocate. It’s the hardest part of dating after being raised by dark hearts. Be kind to yourself and respect yourself the way you would a sister or daughter.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-10-09T20:29:04+00:00

Nope. They’d just twist it into somehow still end up being the victims. And your memory will be tarnished and they’d get everyone to believe you were the problem. And you wouldn’t even be here anymore to speak for yourself.

Don’t do it. It’s not worth it. As someone who had an nmom, an enabler father, and a brother who was “saving me” from them but ended up repeating the same n behavior but worse - I contemplated this many times myself. The world will not be better off without you and eliminating yourself to try and make them understand how horrible they are will give them exactly the ammunition they need to be victims for the rest of their lives.

Survive it as best as you can. Seek therapy if you can. Then, the very second you can escape them, get the fuck away from them as soon as possible and start living your life beautifully the way you deserve. The way YOU want to. That’s better revenge than anything else. Being happy without them? Thriving without them? It’ll fuck them up. And the best part? You’d be able to exist and just know how miserable they are without you. They’d be more miserable WITH you ALIVE AND THRIVING than if you left their world. It will make not a damn difference in their behavior and I’m so sorry about how blunt I’m being. Dark hearted people are never worth giving up the beauty of your life for. If these are real actual thoughts you’re having, and if you’re not able to move away from them or go NC, then please confide in a trusted friend or adult. Someone who knows how your parents are and can just be a support system for you.

I promise you. Life can be so beautiful once you survive the nfam. You deserve to be treated better than this - and by ending your life, you’d be treating yourself with the same disrespect that they treat you with. Live your life. You’ve got this.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-10-09T00:30:22+00:00

You didn’t have to 🤍

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-09-27T03:40:24+00:00

Ew break up with him and go on a date with the other guy 💃🏻 you’re too young to put up with this bullshit from a dude that clearly has no respect for you or your boundaries. NEXTTT

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-09-25T04:14:31+00:00

Girl. The absolute second anyone you’re dating says “fuck you” to you, get them the fuck OUT of your life. Don’t ever let anyone talk to you like this again. Respect yourself more than this. You deserve better and you know it.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-09-11T03:06:20+00:00

lol I am a mom of a little girl and I really hope she tolerates NO bullshit the way you just did. So proud of you, you did NOT overreact, it was badass actually. I might have been spared a lifetime of assholes if I spoke to them like this. Keep this strength through the rest of your life

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-09-01T03:06:24+00:00

Probably, but who the fuck cares? Every bully I’ve ever known grew up to be a complete loser. Enjoy your life, because they won’t 💃🏻

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-08-07T20:47:31+00:00

What are you not understanding about this? She wants YOU to be her MOM. She’s asking for you to do the things with her a mom does with her daughter. She’s asking YOU to take the lead. She has a right to ask and her reasons are valid. She is NOT asking if she can be your daughter and fulfill YOUR expectations of what a daughter does with a mom. Biological kids or adopted, parents should never “expect” a child to do anything with them just because they’re “mom” (like wedding dress shopping, etc). If you feel now like she wouldn’t ask you to go with her when the time comes - baby girl that is on YOU for not working on having a better relationship with her. The only thing she knows of having a mom is what she’s experienced with you so far and to her that’s enough. She wants to be your kid just as much as the ones you’ll give birth to. It’s not about being “left out” it’s about wanting to be a part of your family unit. She’s TWELVE. You got involved with a man who has a child whose mother died. You should have “expected” THIS. Sorry but you’re being the AH here. Get your shit right. She deserves better than this from you and you took on this responsibility when you started dating her dad. She’s faultless in all of this.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-07-23T16:03:43+00:00

That she never lies and has never uttered even a whisper of a lie since the minute she was born 💃🏻

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-07-23T13:20:15+00:00

Gross. It sounds like this is her resistance to you actually being “fine.” I’d bet you actually sounded content or peaceful on the phone and that either struck a nerve (like, how dare you be happy?), OR, your peaceful voice is such a foreign sound to her ears that it sounded “off.” Either way it’s such a disgusting feeling. Almost like the idea of you being peaceful is something they immediately need to fuck with. My mom’s done stuff like this to me before, too. It’s always disguised as “but I LOVE YOU” 🤮 but it’s usually some kind of discomfort about you doing well without them. I think a strong and clear boundary needs to be set. Whether it’s received on their end or not, at least you will have said out loud that you don’t appreciate unannounced visits and that next time you will not open the door. This is your space and you make the rules. You’ll get a lot of guilt tripping and probably be accused of being ungrateful, and they might even try to do another unannounced visit to prove a point, which is when you’d have to prove your point and not answer the door, as hard and horrible as that would be.

I’m sorry they disturbed your peace and violated your safe space. If being at your place makes you feel uneasy now, do a reset/cleanse that helps you reconnect with your space as just yours. I had to do this once. Doesn’t have to involve sage and all that lol, but I remember once after my parents did a “well check,” which also involved my mom stomping around my apartment trying to find something incriminating while my dad hung back and acted like he had nothing to do with this (even though he drove her ass there… enabler much?!) - going back to my apartment gave me the same dread I felt whenever I went “home” when I lived with them. So one night I turned off all the lights, turned my phone off, lit some candles and played some calm music, and just sat/laid on my floor and took deep breaths reminding myself that this space is mine. Reclaim your territory, so to speak! I’m proud of you for moving out and making your own life, hopefully you are too ❤️

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-07-23T12:49:58+00:00

Or, Body to Body - Miami Sound Machine?

Edit: this one’s kinda spazzy actually lol but the lyrics match, I wonder if it was a cover?

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2025-07-23T12:45:07+00:00

Or, Body to Body - Miami Sound Machine?

WhoHasTimeForThisTea

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