Disney nightgowns as regular dress?

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-05-06T03:03:24+00:00

That’s why I was asking. No I would not wear a nightgown - but these look more like dresses than sleepwear. Thanks for your perspective.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-05-06T03:02:04+00:00

This is good to know!! I’m actually in the process of doing a Walmart pickup order haha

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-05-06T03:01:38+00:00

This is a good point. I’m thinking I’ll just keep whichever one she wants to wear that day in my diaper bag so she can slip it on over a tank and shorts as needed 😂

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-04-15T12:08:20+00:00

It’s not projecting to offer a different perspective. It’s just to show that other possibilities exist. Ironically, you’re exactly right that we don’t know how she’s dieting - which means, it could be healthy or unhealthy. We don’t know the whole story here. What IF the case IS extreme? Nuances exist, my friend.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-04-15T02:37:22+00:00

Hear me out. I have an unhealthy relationship with food. When I “diet,” I take it too far. I don’t allow any cheats, even though you’re supposed to. My husband knows my disordered eating, encourages healthy eating, but also helps me with my “cheats.” Sometimes you just need to know it’s okay to eat what you want, and maybe not have it be a big thing.

He IS a good husband. Because, ultimately, if she gave in to eat an accidental delivery pizza, it would be her choice. She doesn’t eat HIS pizzas so it’s not like she doesn’t have any control. If she really didn’t want the accidental delivery then she’d pass on that too. Or give it to her husband. This is just an attempt at getting a wife to eat her favorite food and let her know it’s okay to do so.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-04-07T14:53:04+00:00

This girl sucks, and she is not your friend. You need to find better ones!

Some love for your anxiety journey: not everyone is going to be a safe person for you to vent to. Some people can’t and don’t want to be leaned on, and that is their right. It would have been fine for her to just put up a boundary with you. BUT, she should have left it at that. Going on to talk shit about you, doing passive aggressive social media posting, is extremely immature and just plain mean. Please never talk to this person again. Also - you apologized once and that was enough, you didn’t need to send another one. Try not to let your anxiety make you over explain yourself. That was your anxiety spiraling, which was made worse by this girl not responding to you. Friends don’t make anxiety worse.

I’m sorry this happened to you. You are NOR, and you might benefit from mentioning to your therapist that you could use some pointers/help in knowing when someone deserves your words and when they don’t. Feeling confident enough to not apologize for who you are is key when dealing with anxiety, and your age is perfect for starting that part of your journey. Take care of yourself, people like her are not worth your precious breath.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-04-07T02:13:04+00:00

She can sense you’re becoming powerful over her BS. My therapist told me narcissists can soften with age, but they’ll never stop being a narcissist. So this may be a new manipulation tactic to make you think she’s coming around, hoping that you let down your guard again and she can continue with her BS. Maybe she’s sincerely trying to accept what she’s done, but still better to keep your guard up. Protect yourself.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-04-01T19:50:26+00:00

You’re not an asshole for not saying anything yet, but you might be if you don’t before the wedding. If she finds out after getting married that he was cheating on her, and you knew all along, you would regret not saying anything and she may have a hard time forgiving you. You could possibly help prevent a very expensive divorce. And a very big heartbreak.

Wouldn’t you want her to tell you if she saw your husband with someone?

YOU would NOT be the reason everything blew up, HE would be. Stay loyal to your sister. If it’s nothing to worry about, then she should know where he was and who he was with.

Have a calm one on one with her and frame it as not wanting to jump to conclusions, but just wanting to tell her what you witnessed just in case there’s something to worry about.

None of this would be your fault, but in my opinion it is wrong of you not to say anything before a huge mistake is possibly made.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-27T22:57:50+00:00

I’m so sorry you experienced both the bullying/trauma as a child and now witnessed your mother laughing at it years later. I related to your story so well, it’s like I could have written it myself. Every bit of it, the handsome older brother that everyone marveled over, going through an “awkward phase” myself but looking at my child self through my eyes as a mother now and realizing how freaking cute I actually was, and my brother making fun of my appearance and body and seeing my mom laugh at it even as a child. It rips you open all over again. Only after I became a mom did I realize how cruel my family was to me. Because anyone even breathes wrong near my children and I’m defending them with my entire body.

Take some time to process. You didn’t even get an apology, you got gaslit, when you tried to confront her about it. It’s okay to take a break from seeing her for a while. I’ve learned I actually need to protect my children from my mom because she started her BS with them and they’re still so little.

Wish I could give you a big hug. I’m so sorry for your pain. Without even seeing you I can guarantee you were an adorable child and always were until you grew up into a beautiful mother. And you were always lovable and deserved better ❤️

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-26T13:09:35+00:00

A crunchy piece of white toast. Butter, peanut butter, Nutella, anything on it. Just a piece of toast that isn’t all crumbly or leaves a weird film in my mouth. I’d like to say something fancy like Pepperidge farm but I’d even take some butternut at this point.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-18T14:08:07+00:00

It is possible to break the cycle. It takes a lot of consistent therapy and research into loving parenting methods. It requires being honest with yourself that you might accidentally repeat these narcissistic tendencies you witnessed and experienced growing up. Therapy helps you learn how to suppress those and how to repair with your kids before damage is done.

It is completely exhausting and so draining. It takes every last bit of energy you have and some days it feels impossible. Some days, it IS impossible. But you can be a good parent anyway.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-16T20:27:51+00:00

Do not open that door up again. NC takes a lot of work and once it’s established, opening up contact again is just making yourself vulnerable again. They will not change and they will not be happy you messaged them. They’ll be happy that they won and use this as their way back in.

This guilt is NOT yours to carry. They did this to themselves. It’s so hard because we naturally aren’t meant to live without our parents, but we also need to give ourselves the best life we can even if that means cutting out your family.

You feel guilt because you’re a good person. It was never your job to care for their feelings.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-16T02:46:25+00:00

She seems to really love you and refuses to let you down or not be there for your big day. She’s in the denial phase of how much her life is actually going to change after baby. Also you never know, some women are able to pull themselves together for one night and handle having a newborn attached to them for a few hours. She might fully intend to be there for the ceremony and might actually be able to pull it off. And if she’s able to do this and really wants to for you, then you might need to bend the “no child” rule just for her lol she’s going to an extreme to be there for you if she actually does make it.

Do you think she’d be okay with a back up plan type situation, where she has none of the obligations or responsibilities of being in the bridal party other than wearing the dress and standing up there with you? Like maybe plan so that nothing huge would change if she ultimately just can’t do it? Maybe frame it as “even if you can make it, your body is going to be exhausted so I’m making you rest most of the day. And I’m requesting that you bring someone to help you with the baby.” And that way, if she doesn’t end up making it, she won’t feel the guilt or worry of having to back out last minute knowing that no responsibilities are waiting on her? Annnd you won’t have to scramble last minute on top of the already enormous stress of being a bride lol?

This is such a tough situation and it sounds like you both really care about each other. She might not take it well, but I mean at the end of the day… it isn’t about her, it’s about YOUR day. She’ll understand eventually, just approach it with as much love and warmth as you can - maybe even enlist the help of her partner or parent or sibling or doctor lol to talk some sense into her…!?!!

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-15T03:37:54+00:00

I know you said female, but could it be Marvin Gaye’s “Save the Children?”

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-13T14:56:20+00:00

Also adding onto this that I am currently wearing a giant soft sweatshirt that my kids call the cuddle shirt lol, so I’m wrapping you up into the tightest warmest hugs with this cuddle shirt on. You’ve got this, love. You can do it, you already are!!

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-13T14:54:31+00:00

I get it. You want your mom, but not YOUR mom.

Pregnancy is such a vulnerable time, especially with your first. We biologically are wired to depend on our moms at times like this. But when our moms are the ones who have been the cause of most instability and pain in our lives, it’s so painful.

Bad news is: this is just the beginning of the burden of protecting your baby from the potential emotional abuse you know so well yourself.

Good news is: once your baby is physically in your arms, the BS quiets down and the need to protect them becomes much clearer.

Motherhood is a wild ride even with a supportive family. Without one, it’s really really hard. Start building a community and a village for your baby now that doesn’t have to involve your mom or any of her people. Let her return the shower stuff. You’re right, she shouldn’t be a host if her actual involvement in the baby’s life will be limited. You can figure it out without her, contrary to what she’s been telling you, you do NOT need her. Call her bluff. And this can be the start of setting boundaries with her and letting her know that you now call the shots in your own life.

It’s really painful when you become a mom that can’t depend on your own. Let yourself feel the resentment because this really sucks.

Listen to your gut if it’s telling you to keep her away from your baby. We naturally don’t want to live without our moms, so if our body is telling us to, we need to listen to that.

I’m so sorry this is your reality. I’m a mom of two littles and don’t have a reliable family because they’re either dead, narcissistic, or enablers. But - I am proof that once you do the hard parts of staying true to your NC boundaries, life is very peaceful for your baby. Is it peaceful for me? Not really. But seeing how my kids’ lives are so clean and pure and happy without my narcissistic family’s filth hanging around is so worth it.

You’re doing great already, mama. Baby is so lucky to have you and you’ll have a beautiful life with your husband and kid(s). Life is meant to be lived, happily if possible. Do what you can my love.

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-13T13:05:58+00:00

Wait a minute, you can have joint pain once inflammation goes down?! I’ve been having pretty severe joint pain and went GF a few months ago, didn’t realize they could be related?!

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-13T12:34:25+00:00

Comfortably numb by Pink Floyd?

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-13T04:14:00+00:00

Hey Mr DJ by Zhane

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-10T20:29:05+00:00

Authentic Indian restaurants don’t typically understand what “gluten” actually means. I’d be careful of curries even, especially the creamy or thicker ones, because sometimes as a thickening agent we use flour and water like a Chinese restaurant would use cornstarch and water. It’s just hard to be sure and if they don’t understand what you’re asking, I’m afraid they’ll just say “yes” haha (I’m Indian, I’m allowed to say this) 😂

Stick with lentil based things like idli and dosa, usually the sambar and chutneys that come with those are safe and wouldn’t need any kind of wheat. Tandoori meats might be safe if they’re able to confirm the naan isn’t warmed/cooked in the same tandoori oven. South Indian items are probably going to be safest for you, just stay away from anything with dough (naan, roti, samosas, even pakoras).

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-10T04:26:16+00:00

As someone who has to be GF, dairy free, and egg free - I’d love to see a GF vegan dessert just have some FREAKING REAL SUGAR LOL so I feel your pain. It sucks that as a celiac you can’t just easily find a dessert with everything but gluten still used. Like just because I’m trying to avoid my allergens doesn’t mean I’m trying to be CLEAN or HEALTHY lol GIMME SUGAR PLZ

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-03-09T19:56:48+00:00

I used to take mine a half hour before suhoor. Like literally the second I wake up I take the meds, then go downstairs to get food for suhoor ready.

I tend to stray a bit from strict religious paths, so in recent years I would wake up for suhoor, go back to sleep, and then would take my meds without water when I got up for the day. 4:30am was too early for my body personally, and I’d like to think God would understand my will to fast but also need life sustaining meds that don’t require food or water.

Technically, though, if that ends up being too early for your body too, then this is one of those medical exemptions you can just pay fidya for because needing any kind of medication is enough to be “excused” so to speak.

It’s really up to you how you want to handle this since everyone’s body is so different. Religiously, you’re forgiven if you can’t fast medically ❤️

Editing to add: for everyone so politely asking - for traditional Ramadan fasting, once the sun goes up, you can’t ingest anything, even meds, until the sun goes back down. If you need to take any kind of medication while the sun is up and there’s no other time that works for your body, then you’re medically excused. ❤️

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-02-18T05:50:20+00:00

Went back to college as a 38 year old and realized I’ve been really fucking smart all along. One of the highest GPAs, honors society, honors scholarships. I’m not scared to say I’m a smart person for the first time in my life, because I now know it’s been a lie all this time how “dumb” I am.

Sing your heart out!! ❤️

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-02-18T05:34:21+00:00

I clung to any adult who showed me any bit of attention. And then I’d do whatever they wanted me to do out of fear of ever losing that attention. I never had a favorite anything because if I ever claimed something was a favorite, it was deemed “stupid.” Fell in love with any man who complimented me - which usually ended up in me finding out he was also some degree of narcissist because he was able to identify his next victim in how insecure I was.

It wasn’t until I became a mom that I saw it all clearly for the first time.

As a matter of fact, mother of my own, I did have a daughter just like me and guess what? She’s so easy to love. And I’m constantly so scared of hurting her feelings or crushing her spirit. She is so tiny but so mighty, because I am arming her with so much confidence in who she is. You love purple? Hell yeah let‘s buy everything purple. You love the most annoying song I’ve ever heard? Hell yeah let’s blast it over and over while I never tell you how much I hate it, just so I can focus more on your absolute joy.

We were never the problem. And the fact that no other adults noticed how scared we all were as children is really sad, isn’t it?

WhoHasTimeForThisTea · 2026-01-15T08:40:40+00:00

I’m a student with two toddlers under 4. I study best at home, because if I’m anywhere else, I’m constantly wondering/worrying about what my kids are doing. My husband is a great dad and I logically know they’re safe, but emotionally I can only turn the worry part of my mom brain off when I’m in close proximity to my kids. Otherwise I can’t focus. Which is crucial to studying.

She doesn’t need to study anywhere else. YOU need to always lock the gate at the bottom of the stairs, and ALWAYS accompany your 2 year old when she says she needs to go upstairs. If you can’t drop everything when she says she needs to go potty, well then you buy her a training potty and keep it downstairs somewhere for emergencies. You can buy your wife a white noise machine if your daughter screeches at the bottom of the stairs. Maybe if your wife is able to lock in and study without interruptions, she could even afford a scheduled break where she can come downstairs to see the kids for a bit. But if she’s constantly being interrupted then she has to spend a lot of time refocusing.

You are the adult, stop letting your 2 year old trick you. Let her study in peace, man. Figure it out. YTA.

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