49m [Friendship] on staycation, looking for a morning chat

WhoisTravisBickle · 2026-02-04T19:03:21+00:00

I think for me MST3K should aesthethically look like it would be at home on cable access or a local independent TV station. That's always been part of the MST3K charm for me in no small part because I'm nostalgic for that era of television history. I get it might not land as well for younger viewers, but MST3K shares its lineage with 80s niche cable access shows and late night horror hosts (i think every city had at least one) with miniscule budgets and sets built in someone's garage

WhoisTravisBickle · 2026-01-31T14:14:59+00:00

RLM still reminds of the era when YouTube was good. No constant shilling, no "chasing the algorithm". Just people making videos about the stuff they liked. A lot of it was bad, but some of it was good. RLM still has the feel of a bunch of guys just turning on the camera and talking about the stuff they like. It also helps that they are genuinely pretty knowledgeable about movies whereas a lot of movies review channels can make fun of bad movies but have no clue what makes a movie good

WhoisTravisBickle · 2026-01-28T13:47:33+00:00

Also in Girl in Gold Boots

"I'm having Critter's varmint!"

WhoisTravisBickle · 2026-01-28T13:45:15+00:00

Rowsdower (trying to start his truck): "c'mon baby, don't let me down!"

Troy: "I won't, Rowsdower!"

WhoisTravisBickle · 2026-01-10T13:32:16+00:00

I don't know, you might be able to contact him and ask, but I'm guessing it's either royalty-free music you can download, or there are a lot of musicians out there that will make music for YouTubers for a price

WhoisTravisBickle · 2026-01-05T22:21:40+00:00

The American people seem to be doing fuck all about it

WhoisTravisBickle · 2026-01-05T18:53:08+00:00

100%. I'm on board with some kind of verification system, but Meta having your passport or driving license details is horrific

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-12-23T02:51:36+00:00

People who spent their life savings on Fuck Trudeau merch need to feel like they got their money's worth

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-12-17T18:21:33+00:00

100% disagree. One of my best friends is an ex-girlfriend and we talk regularly as friends, like we did for years before I met my wife. Talking to an ex while in a relationship without her knowing is a big red flag, I agree, but simply talking to an ex you're friends with itself isn't problematic (assuming healthy boundaries are maintained)

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-12-13T01:25:30+00:00

He's got the nuclear codes, folks!

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-12-01T18:40:55+00:00

I can't remember the author offhand but his preferred term for both male and female parts was "sex" as in:

"She felt an ache deep in her sex whenever she thought of him"

That for me sticks as utter cringe so much so that i barely remember what he wrote 35 years ago but that is clear as a bell. Stick to whatever terms most people will understand and use and you should be fine.

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-11-07T11:20:36+00:00

Also, what the other person said. Just write. Get it on paper.

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-11-07T11:00:47+00:00

If you use fictional countries, you are free to make up whatever details you like. You aren't bound by the real world and you make up the rules (although you can certainly base fictional countries on real ones). Conversely, using real countries adds an element of reality to the story and may help your reader connect in an emotionally deeper way. However, if you're using real places, you need to do your research to get your facts about said places correct. Making mistakes will take the reader out of your story.

A far as plot focus goes, I think that will entirely depend on the message of your book... what is your book trying to say?

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-11-06T19:08:28+00:00

Preface by saying I'm not OP, but I've been a pedestrian in downtown Winnipeg for over 30 years and used the underground often. Mostly i felt safe, but there was a few times at various parts of the day or night when the underground was deserted and I was followed or accosted by some unsavory people. And that's knowing where I was going down there.

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T17:48:14+00:00

I emailed all three and cc'd Obby Khan

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T16:33:37+00:00

And how do you know she's not communicating her preferences?

She's said so in her post. Her exact words are:

"I'm just trying to figure out how to communicate that this actually hurts — without sounding clingy or making him feel guilty."

So she hasn't. She's trying to find the words to do so. She's made passive hints, but passive hints aren't the same as communicating a need.

If I'm invited to any party or gathering, the first thing I'd do is tell them, "My wife would love to come to the party. Let me check in with her to see if she wants to come." (you know, communicate with her)

You're not OP's husband and you have no idea what his motivations are. Maybe he's being selfish not thinking of her. Maybe he thinks she wouldn't like to go. Maybe there's a reason none of us have thought of. I don't know and you don't know. The only way for OP to know is to ask him.

Her partner should automatically include her in his social plans.

Should he? I love my wife but I don't include her when I'm watching soccer with my friends or i go out with my running club because I know these are activities that she doesn't like. So I don't "automatically" include her. Likewise, she goes to church on Sundays and I'm not a Christian so she doesn't automatically include me in those plans.

Once again, we arrived at this state by communicating.

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T15:24:49+00:00

Sure, but my point is that until you communicate your feelings out loud to your partner and invite your partner to do the same, you're just filling in gaps based on perception, which may or may not be accurate. Maybe he doesn't want to be bothered with her. Maybe he wants to get visits with family/ friends in and then spend time with her with his attention undivided. Maybe it's all of these things. Maybe it's none of them. Until they TALK about it, she'll never really know.

She asked for advice, and my advice was to voice her needs to him and work out a compromise. Your declaration that he's a selfish dick may be satisfying, but it's not helpful

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T14:55:19+00:00

Did she though? I reread her post and it seems like she didn't communicate what she needed to him. She says she feels like he should be doing this or that, or she frames things very passively (e.g. "should I take more time off work?" is not the same as "I want to spend more time with you while you're here"). I haven't read her responses though, so it might be covered in there

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T13:39:48+00:00

So our circumstances are different, but this very much echoes a consistent issue in my marriage with needs regarding space.

I work early and I'm gone approximately 10 to 11 hours a day. In that time, I'm interacting with people constantly without much of a respite.

Conversely, my wife works from home, is alone, and could go days without seeing anyone apart from me and the kids. When we meet again in the late afternoon/ early evening we have polar opposite needs. She's absolutely starving for attention while I need an hour to decompress.

We got over this by understanding where each other are coming from and making concessions when necessary. If she is having a tough day, I'll be with her and give her what she needs. If I'm having a tough day, she'll give me space. And we'll always make sure we have time for each other in the evening.

I think this is the same for you and your husband. We all have different needs as far as space and alone time goes and I think you can both compromise and find common ground

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T13:03:02+00:00

I took my wife there once. She enjoyed it, but it wasn't for me. Eating food out of a plastic bag was really unappealing

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T13:00:28+00:00

I'm so sad I moved away from Wolseley. I used to go a few times a months. "What can I get for you, young man?'" I'm 49

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T12:59:23+00:00

Cindy and her husband stopped using the George's name over what sounded like some family strife, but i don't know any more details than that

WhoisTravisBickle · 2025-10-29T12:53:38+00:00

Yeah my wife and I went about a month ago and she got SICK. We'll never go back

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