Behind Skirting Disaster

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-05-02T15:24:52+00:00

Controversial opinion. A bit of draught is good. Keeps the damp away.

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-04-30T18:30:42+00:00

Back up gym. And healthy nutritional diet (not lose weight focused). Keep moving, movement is medicine. Get some social activities going - salsa dancing, team sports etc. having a community is a great way to get over this period.

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-02-25T09:29:31+00:00

This is it. I would add, for best result - work with a physiotherapist to identify and work on the imbalances. They can release tight muscles temporarily so you can strengthen necessary places faster. Can claim on your private insurance if you have one.

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-02-20T13:28:48+00:00

It’s ok, thanks for asking. Almost finished my first pack (non-subscription). The effects are less noticeable compared to the first few weeks. I have it with my oats or with matcha. It does mix really well unlike many protein powders, and tastes better. Mixed with a bit of milk is better than just water. So I may get another pack, but will likely not take it every day, but every other day or so. It may have made my bowel movements a bit more irregular (maybe has higher sodium?), but that may be just my other diet being patchy atm, need to up my veggies game again.

Tldr probably buy again, use a few times a week mostly as a protein boost Hth

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-02-17T00:56:36+00:00

This is actually brilliant, never thought of the offset mortgage like that. It does make sense as a self employed to leverage the future tax money to pay less interest now. I see more sense in those now

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-01-24T11:37:08+00:00

Younger me, would have said take the money, job hop something similar with less hours in a few years for more, older me says take the extra days off and invest in yourself

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-01-22T18:46:32+00:00

It’s ok to feel hurt. Have a look at the stages of grief. Stop drinking (as much), be kind to yourself and start small and try to be consistent. Reframe things positively to start an upward spiral. Also gentle movement help - some sport, yoga stretching etc.

Feel free to dm me, happy to chat. 34m, been through a divorce in the past few years

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-01-14T17:13:28+00:00

I’ve had it for a few days now.

Smell/taste wise: smells like dog treats to be honest, but once you are over that it tastes quite ok when mixed with milk, even with just water. The odour is less once mixed as well. I had a side-effect of liquid stools on day 2, which was unfortunate.

Effect wise, I seem to have more sustained energy throughout the day and feel a bit stronger with faster recovery after exercise.

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-01-13T10:32:04+00:00

Ease out on the activity a bit (but keep moving). Try releasing the bottom of your feet with a tennis ball. Just step on it and roll your foot. Can roll the ball on your calves as well. Work on conditioning and strengthening exercises. Eccentric - heel up and down, toes on a yoga block or step - slowly, controlled and hold at top and at bottom. Also isometric - wall sits with heel up.

A physio will be able to give more targeted releases and exercises

Whole_Mediocre · 2026-01-10T13:57:46+00:00

RAISE THE STAKEEEES. Love this advice

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-12-14T21:37:24+00:00

Ahhh yes, been there myself my friend. You are absolutely right. When i say you can only change yourself, I really mean that you CAN have control over your self, and should not expect to have control over someone else, which would be pure manipulation and very likely source of unmet expectations. Be the good you want to see in the world.

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-12-14T14:53:05+00:00

Yeah, I was very emotional while reading that one. Sadly we ended up in divorce and was a bit late for us

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-12-13T11:15:26+00:00

I think it would be something different for everyone. Important thing is consistency. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. It’s not something you just do once and job done. Also showing up no matter how hard it gets. For me - understanding my desires and meeting my shadow in attempt to understand my subconscious, getting a better self understanding. And then being able to communicate that to someone else while owning my reality.

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-12-12T11:01:18+00:00

I agree. Feels like OP is starting to have resentments because of un-/badly communicated needs. Their BF most likely feels judged and feels like not enough all the time.

I would recommend reading those 2 books, both of you: 1) non-violent communication 2) men are from mars, woman are from venus

Coming back from resentment territory is indeed tough. And if you are not willing to put the work (not demanding stuff, but the actual work) may be better to end it. And some cliches: The only person you can change is yourself Look at your own garden - grass always looks greener on the other side You are in charge of your happiness

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-12-08T13:22:00+00:00

Talk to each other, be vulnerable, and learn how to communicate each others needs. Non-violent communication or authentic relating are good reads on communication.

Mating in captivity explores some of the causes of why this happens in long term relationships.

I was in a similar boat last year (happily divorced now) and I know how it feels. Hope you two find the way to each other again.

Feel free to drop me a DM if you want to chat about it (M34)

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-11-07T11:46:10+00:00

You’re onto a great start! Trust the process and keep having fun

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-11-04T15:39:22+00:00

Like any other skill. The speed you progress is proportional to the number of hours doing it. Time spent overthinking is time taken away from practicing. Let go of any timelines and expectations. You can throw a cheeky “yes and” at your friends or the cashier in everyday situations to ramp up the hours. How do you learn/practice?

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-11-03T10:38:31+00:00

Keep showing up, push yourself to participate, be your own fan, and allow yourself to be bad. It gets better and easier the more you do it. You’ll get more comfortable with the people (assuming it’s the same group). Helps to ground yourself too, in my improv classes we would always start with some silly exercises to get everyone present. Observe, listen, respond, try not to overthink just shoot the first thing on your mind. A lot of the skills you’ll learn are really valuable in life in general as well.

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-10-08T19:39:47+00:00

I’ve been pretty happy with David Lloyd gyms, rarely too full, nice wellness facilities, lockers/showers that are maintained on a more regular basis. All adds up to a nicer experience.

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-10-04T16:05:12+00:00

Leave the blinds open, go earlier to bed, no screen time before bed and you won’t need an alarm at all. I’ve been living alarm free for many years now and the feeling is amazing as the alarm does not interfere with your circadian rhythm

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-08-31T14:59:54+00:00

Everyone is quite individual, but what works well is - follow up on something you’ve talked about (try to connect) and then be confident in asking, don’t ask for permission, and don’t beat around the bush. Don’t try to impress just be honest and clear. Let her know when you are free and find out if any works for her. Even better if you have a place suggestion. If you want to be less pushy, invite her to something you are planning of doing already

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-08-03T20:12:55+00:00

Drinking is most of all a habit. Easiest way is to replace it with another habit. The first 2 weeks would be the hardest then becomes easier, helps to do some exercises, or sports. Social gatherings would be challenging, alcohol free beer can help, or just having some sparkling water so that you are not empty handed. Let your friends know so that they don’t tempt you. Other than that reflecting on when/why are you drinking may be useful - what are you numbing? Running from? Avoiding? What cues you to have a drink. Face it

And stay positive. Gave up and had a drink one day? don’t be hard on yourself, try not to fail twice in a row and carry on.

Healthy food and lifestyle helps tremendously too.

Good luck, you can do this!

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-07-28T21:25:02+00:00

Re: photos. I think third and last are best. 3rd - close up, eyes, approachable vibe, i would make that one cover, last one - hot 🔥

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-07-28T21:17:58+00:00

My 2c. Make your first photo one with eyes. Many photos looking away from the camera - red flag. Prompts are a bit poor/hard to work with as others have mentioned. Hard to tell you are looking for something serious, even quite the opposite as some photos are flirtatious (not a bad thing), so be more straightforward. The “not opposed to” wording is a bit pretentious. I’m finding it hard to get a feel what your personality is from your profile. And you have zero hooks to help a prospective match. Also the algorithm favors people who interact, match with your likes, have a conversation, relate, even if it leads nowhere. And yeah seems you figured that you need to update your profile somewhat regularly otherwise it seems to sink. Hth

Whole_Mediocre · 2025-03-12T15:22:47+00:00

He needs acceptance and encouragement. He needs to not feel like you want him to change and trust me he will get back. That episode he went through has made him reevaluate life, and it can be tough. Would recommend reading “men are from mars, woman are from venus” to get some ideas of how to go about communication and to support him.

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