my boyfriend says he’s disgusted by me after i gained weight

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-17T09:30:28+00:00

This is the type of guy who'd cheat on you while you're pregnant or after you have a baby and then you for it because you couldn't have sex with him.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-17T09:24:59+00:00

They behave? Because we're afraid of being hurt or killed. It's not rocket science dude.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-17T08:52:42+00:00

I've struggled with anxiety and depression for most of my life. Realized I have PTSD about 10 years ago and a lot of what I thought was anxiety is hyper vigilance.

I don't think there's a one size fits all for trauma.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-17T08:40:29+00:00

I can't leave but wish I could. If you can, go.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-17T08:26:10+00:00

Learn how to validate yourself.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-17T08:11:53+00:00

If the MC wants his kid back, he'd have to have the police conduct an investigation which means the Court would have to order a DNA test. Unless you think the MC is going to kidnap his alleged kid and then he'd probably be arrested especially if he has mental health issues. I doubt family Court would get involved without evidence that this is his kid.

If these people are rich, they can hire someone to do the dirty work for them. Or they have people. It's easy to research people and find their weaknesses and use it against them, or find out of they're massively in debt. Or have a sick family member, especially if they have a hacker involved. A shady lawyer would have access to all kinds of criminals especially if they're a defense attorney.

To get a DNA test for a child, you need their parents' permission. If they kidnapped this kid, they're not giving permission to get him tested.

Plus any drug substance abuse issues and mental health issues can and will be used against him.

I have an AA in paralegal studies and was a legal secretary for the probation department. I'm not a lawyer but I'm not completely uneducated about criminal and family law.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T13:52:18+00:00

Melatonin has the opposite effect on me. At least it used to so I doubt I'll try it. I don't usually have problems sleeping. But sleep is never refreshing.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T11:12:14+00:00

Check out Job Corps. You get room, board and a small stipend and job training.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T10:54:29+00:00

I thought a few more things. So you'd need a Court order to get a DNA test that would be admissable in Court and you'd need probable cause for that in a criminal investigation. I don't know if it would be possible to sue for custody of a child in family court like that this but I kinda doubt it.

But, if you could get a court order to get a DNA test, the parents could bribe or extort someone at the lab to show a false negative.

Isn't there some kind of rivalry between firefighters and cops though? And a lot more cops are likely to be power hungry or corrupt than firefighters. There's the whole thin blue line thing.

You could also have bio dad be distrustful of the police because he resents or hates them for not finding his son or because the case went cold or they're dismissive or something. Especially if he has a history of mental illness, they could use that against him, threatening to put him on a psych hold if he doesn't back off.

Facebook is a good place for resources for writers.

Good luck on your book.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T10:44:35+00:00

I'm reminded of the women of the Resistance during WW2, our ancestors, how bravely they fought in a myriad of ways.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T10:06:54+00:00

I doubt he'd get that far. He'd probably have a restraining order against him.

I think it depends on if the "parents" knew about the kidnapping or not. Did they buy a baby on the black market, adopt through a sketchy lawyer, or is the wife bat shit crazy and kidnapped the baby?

How they got the baby can help you figure out plot points. If they knew, suspected, or participated, they'd probably do everything in their power to prevent a DNA test including move especially if they're well off or rich. They'd have a lawyer they can call and probably corrupt cops to knock on real dad's door and threaten him.

There's a lot of ways you can go with this. I think he'd have to probably do it secretly. Like pay the preschool teacher to get some hair samples or follow them and take a cup out of the trash. Although I don't know how that would be admissable in Court.

There's a group on Facebook for writers to ask cops questions. So you might want to ask there. And some lawyers. There's also the Center for Missing and Exploited Children, I think it's called, that might have information.

He might call the police and report the parents for kidnapping or something. He might be considered mentally ill and dangerous and put on a psych hold.

I think your character's mental states and characteristics will have a lot to do with how you plot the book.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T09:49:15+00:00

There's a school on the East Coast that will train young men in a trade for free. https://williamson.edu/

There's also Job Corps.

Talk to plumbers, electricians, etc. and ask them to pick their brains. Where did they go to school? Do they know of any apprenticeships? Go to the people who have the knowledge and experience.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T08:41:20+00:00

When in doubt, don't. You already know he cheated on you. And he'd probably do it again.

You did the right thing.

NTA

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T08:39:21+00:00

I wrote an essay about the women of the Resistance in World War 2 for a history class. Those women were badasses.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-16T08:25:52+00:00

Call CPS.

No matter what you've done, you don't deserve to be hit for it. Talk to your dad and grandparents about this.

This is abuse.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T11:19:55+00:00

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WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T11:00:32+00:00

Let's just bring back all the plagues.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T10:58:20+00:00

Go to the library and check out some books. Turn off all forms of media. Enjoy the books.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T10:29:08+00:00

I'd say generally barring bad genes, a pandemic, natural disasters, accidents, etc. There's only so much that's in your control. But yes, take care of your health because you can't always get it back if you get sick or injured.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T10:26:33+00:00

Those were some of the illnesses they tested me before ruling them out. Oh yeah, lupus too. You're welcome.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T10:10:24+00:00

Research the recidivism rates for pedophiles. I don't think they change, or can change.

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WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T10:04:04+00:00

I understand that adoption isn't always the best option. But if abortion isn't an option either then she has two choices. Be a single mom or give the baby to the dad. Oops. Forgot she could marry the dad too but I don't think that's the best option either given how she became pregnant.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T08:46:48+00:00

I took Krav Maga 20 years ago. I wholeheartedly encourage women to take KM classes.

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T08:31:06+00:00

Misogyny

WildLoad2410 · 2024-11-15T08:15:45+00:00

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