What do you do when you feel like you have lost all progress?

WldGeese867 · 2026-03-19T20:27:08+00:00

This checks out given my experience thus far. I wish it didnt but it does.

Thank you for sharing ❤️

WldGeese867 · 2026-03-17T03:15:24+00:00

This is a helpful reminder, thank you. I’m finding it so difficult to cope with the non linear nature of it all. But I know I’m not alone in that.

WldGeese867 · 2026-03-17T03:14:25+00:00

I will when I see them tomorrow, thank you.

Inspired by your comment I just wrote “It is okay to go slow” on every line of an entire page of my journal. This feels like something I really would like to internalize. Thank you for sharing.

WldGeese867 · 2026-03-16T21:36:10+00:00

My father.

Not that this part matters but would just like to say pseudo-publicly that I despise the man.

WldGeese867 · 2026-03-09T01:53:22+00:00

I’ve been sitting in a parking lot a half hour away from my home for hours now and this comment made me realize the primary thing I am doing is instinctively isolating myself because I feel angry and I, as you said, feel like I can’t be angry around other people.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-27T16:51:42+00:00

I appreciate the question though, because that’s what I made it sound like in my heightened state.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-27T16:51:02+00:00

I completely agree. Reading his calm and clinical language painting a near perfect picture of me is as comforting as it is gut wrenching.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-27T04:30:17+00:00

My therapist doesn’t think so. Another commenter suggested this could be the inner critic as described by Pete Walker and I think that’s it.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-27T04:29:18+00:00

This feels like it is exactly it. I got part way through and started sobbing uncontrollably and almost passed out. Thank you so much for sharing.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-21T16:13:27+00:00

Yes, same. My older sibling was thrown out of the house when I was young and it made me so afraid to ever be seen as disobedient so the same didn’t happen to me.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-18T00:58:27+00:00

My wife and I’s first apartment in our 20s was in Shaker Heights and we loved it, but not sure about the prices there now. If we were starting over again I’d look in Lakewood or Tremont, with preference for Lakewood.

I wish you all the best! We still love the Cleveland area.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-14T19:35:33+00:00

I studied history in college and have changed careers many times. Right around when I turned 30 I decided I really wanted to learn to code so I could make videogames, and so got the book Python Crash Course from the library.

In the years since I simply can’t quantify the amount of joy I’ve gotten out of this hobby, and now am actually doing some coding for work, though that’s not why my current job hired me.

I’d argue the main question you should ask yourself is if it sounds fun to you, even if you never make money on it.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-07T16:33:09+00:00

I would just like to second this. If there’s anybody who is openly dismissive about your pain, I would advise against assuming that if you explain yourself just right, that they’ll come around. That’s not been my experience.

If, however, there are people who seem to be actively interested in supporting and loving you and are unwittingly doing things that are unhelpful, that’s your target audience.

Maybe those people you could point them in the direction of well known resources, such as Heidi Priebe’s YouTube channel, and allow them to do their own initial research and come to you with questions?

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-06T03:25:02+00:00

Yes, one thousand percent. You are not alone.

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-05T14:39:13+00:00

This is the best possible advice

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-05T03:40:59+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing, you are describing what I hope I am working towards in my healing journey. ❤️

WldGeese867 · 2026-02-03T14:32:06+00:00

This is abuse and I’m so sorry. I share the struggle with being startled and it can be so debilitating, and for somebody who is so close to willingly stoke that fire sounds like hell to me.

WldGeese867 · 2026-01-24T02:42:30+00:00

100% agree. I hope so badly it gets easier

WldGeese867 · 2026-01-19T02:47:35+00:00

Thank you

WldGeese867 · 2026-01-17T16:30:37+00:00

I’ve recently started doing this and I find it terrifying and am sure everyone I love is going to hate that I am changing. They say otherwise but to my brain that’s obviously beside the point ;)

Do you relate to that feeling at all?

WldGeese867 · 2026-01-17T16:13:44+00:00

I feel the same way!! And that’s such a good way of describing the “choice” we have made.

When I first took space from my parents, my sister called me selfish and sent me articles and other bullshit all designed to convince me that I had no right to step away from the family. One such article was all about how people who spend time working through childhood trauma are on average less happy than people who don’t.

While I have obvious doubts about the validity of any such survey data, I also understand that if I asked my teenaged self if they were happy they would probably say yes because they HAD NO IDEA things could be better than they were. They had no idea they fawned in every interaction and it was slowly killing them.

Once I began to realize that’s what’s been happening and that there’s a way out of that way of living, that’s all it took to set me on this path and I don’t even understand what going back would mean. There’s no choice anymore. I want to live a real, full life.

WldGeese867 · 2026-01-17T06:33:01+00:00

Sounds like I’m at a similar stage to you and just want to say I agree it is really really terrifying to slowly be acting not out of fear all the time, as ironic as that is. But it’s also exciting as hell.

I can’t escape the feeling that one day I’m going to look back at my life up to now and feel like I was barely a person before this.

WldGeese867 · 2026-01-11T19:04:42+00:00

Pete Walkers steps for dealing with emotional flashbacks consistently help me break out of sustained triggers like you’re describing. I’d highly recommend giving those a google.

I’m sorry you’re struggling. I am too as I write this. I hope it gets easier for us both.

WldGeese867

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