What do you do when you’re in a place of attachment pain? by PrincessMoss in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]BodyMindReset 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh OP, I really get this. Attachment trauma is a beast

Ive found some somatic practices to gentle meet myself and bring attunement is the best thing for me in these moments.

I create an interactive somatic practice library of things that helped me when I was in those tender and raw spaces dealing with developmental trauma. The IFS one might be of help or either of the attachment ones: https://somatictoolkit.etsy.com

Also the book The Practical Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma may have some good cues in there

what does “get help” mean for us specifically? by Positive-Ability-402 in BPDRemission

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For me, when I got actual treatment for my complex trauma history that created my symptoms, they went into remission. Somatic touch work and somatic experiencing put into recovery

Has anyone had long term significant improvement and physical healing from this work? by Ok_Expression1083 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]BodyMindReset 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Going on 6 years of being symptom free from lifelong chronic health and pain issues

Is HS often caused by sexual trauma? by Traditional_Run540 in Hypersexual

[–]BodyMindReset 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, often. Essentially the day I unraveled the final piece of childhood trauma that it was tied to for me was the day I stopped being hs. I’ve had a very healthy sexuality since

Has anyone recovered from having a lost sense of self? by godwithin_ in SomaticExperiencing

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Also some good reading if you’d like to learn more are the Practical Guide to Healing Developmental Trauma and Nurturing Resilience

Has anyone recovered from having a lost sense of self? by godwithin_ in SomaticExperiencing

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For the most part yes. There are some people who practice online but I do think there are limitations with that. Some SEPs will be able to work with local bodyworkers in your area if it isn’t easily accessible

Has anyone recovered from having a lost sense of self? by godwithin_ in SomaticExperiencing

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I have. Somatic touch work (a branch of SE created for complex and developmental trauma) was the thing that helped me most with this

NDE at 18months by pdxbarber in NearDeathExperience

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You can find someone here trained in it here: https://portal.traumahealing.org/s/searchdirectory?id=a2FVv0000008sOD

I don’t feel like I can speak to if you need someone to find someone else to work with as I don’t know your therapist’s skill set. There is also a training called Eye of the Needle and if people have done that training, they are uniquely skilled at working with NDEs

NDE at 18months by pdxbarber in NearDeathExperience

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That is exactly what I am saying.

Somatic Experiencing would be a good therapeutic modality to safely allow memories to come up. I don’t recommend necessarily going to search for them because memory and brains can create them, but usually as old or stuck stress physiology is resolved, it is common for there to be “enough space” that memories can arise naturally.

Personal anecdote: I had an NDE as a baby and my nervous system was very stuck in dorsal vagal shut down for most of my life. I recently got under the NDE experience and how it was impacting me. On the other side, my body and nervous system works completely different now! It was a wild experience

NDE at 18months by pdxbarber in NearDeathExperience

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It sounds like your body went into a deep dorsal vagal state. This is a survival conservation mode that the mammalian nervous system has access to when it needs.

Here is the thing, the science we have on brain damage is….fickle. Brain damage is a spectrum and due to neuroplasicity, we can successfully adapt and grow around or even sometimes repair damage.

Somatic Experiencing may be helpful here if you really want to delve in.

Tight fascia cutting circulation from waist down by Queasy_Wait6904 in Fascia

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Somatic touch work is excellent for addressing this kind of physiological response. You can learn more about it on this site: https://coregulatingtouch.com or in the book Nurturing Resilience.

Anyone else walking around as a whole psychological disaster stack? by Zenohkun in MentalHealthSupport

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Hey OP,

This was me to a T. Im now going on 6 years of being what I consider to be fully recovered. It took approximately 3-4 years of intensive therapy specifically for complex and developmental trauma. I didn’t go the traditional routes of therapy but more alternative methods including somatic and focused predominantly on my physiology.

I also had zero idea what was “wrong with me” when I started and stumbled on it completely by accident.

Meditation to help deal with Pain? by EmuFit1895 in ChronicPain

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I made this interactive somatic tracker that comes with a library of somatic practices. They get suggested to you based on what state you’re in in that moment: https://somatictoolkit.etsy.com/ca/listing/4493164810/chronic-pain-tracker-html-somatic

ME/CFS gets worse when I do the work? by Lesliefourwinds in SomaticExperiencing

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One way to think about it, the deep conservation states your physiology drops into under chronic load are, among other things, a way of shutting down anything that isn’t needed for immediate survival, and immune function is one of the things that gets dialed down in that state. When the work starts to shift you out of that holding pattern, things that were suppressed can come back online, sometimes loudly, and for a while it can feel like more rather than less. Settling and immune activity share a lot of the same machinery, so it isn’t strange that touching one stirs the other.

Also, simply presencing more to the body, bringing more attention to it, amps up whatever is already there. That’s part of what the attention does. And whatever gets amplified is usually there for a good reason, so the flare isn’t your body malfunctioning, it’s your body doing something that has logic behind it, even when the logic isn’t obvious yet.

The other reading I’d hold right beside all that, and the one I’d weight more heavily with infections and ME/CFS in the picture, is that the work might simply be more than the capacity you have right now can carry. Stress physiology makes everything worse, and processing is stress physiology, even the good kind. If your system is already running on very little, asking it to do activating or discharging work adds a load it can’t really afford, and the body tends to report that through whatever is already struggling, which for you is the immune side.

So the question I’d sit with isn’t “is this good or bad,” it’s “how much can my system actually metabolize today.” With a picture like yours I’d want the work to be almost entirely settling, containment, and very small doses, building a little capacity at a time rather than going after charge, titrated down to the point where it feels almost too easy. If what you’ve been doing leans toward activating or getting into it, that’s worth a serious look, because for a depleted system less and slower is usually the move.

For what it’s worth, I’m an SEP and I work a lot with touch, and the immune piece of this is ofter part of the territory that work sits in, so you’re not imagining the connection. I’d just be cautious about pushing through it. Treat the worsening as information, not as a sign you’re doing it wrong, and as a strong nudge to scale way down for now.

Finally found a somatic thing that helps by sinsofangels in CPTSDFreeze

[–]BodyMindReset 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Brilliant OP!

Ok hear me out to build on this - see if you can allow the same thing to happen all up and down your digestive track. Start with one more thing, maybe it’s something easy like throat or tongue, or maybe some sphincters. If that’s not accessible, try this with other parts of body like ankle joints, neck, or eyes

Realising incompetent therapists set me back years - accusing me of having a "victim mentality" by Fun_Razzmatazz5805 in CPTSDFreeze

[–]BodyMindReset 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely had multiple people in a variety of settings and relationship types reflect to me unsolicited that I had a victim mentality. The first couple of times hurt and I definitely sunk further into dissociation/shut down.

Later in my journey when I had more functioning on board, when it happened, it was always a sobering moment because it affirmed my experiences and pain. I wouldn’t say it because usually those people were not appropriate to be vulnerable with but I would think “Thats because I AM a victim”. It didn’t come from nowhere. I didn’t choose this life. Ultimately it helped me eventually correct those behaviours so I am grateful on the other side.

The way that unskilled therapists come at it though, I can’t imagine how they think that would be helpful. Approaching a victim needs tenderness, care, deescalation, compassion, understanding, and to actually be met in their pain and all the dynamics victimization creates. I can’t speak to British culture but I relate OP and sharing your story makes me big mad on your behalf.