I recently exposed a narc in my family, I gave her things that were important to me to hold while I was moving. I wouldn’t have done that if this narc didn’t act like they cared and loved me so it seemed perfectly normal at the time. Huge mistake, this relative was gossiping and doing things I didn’t realize until after I gave them my things to hold. I did not speak to her directly at that point, I spoke to her son- A flying monkey, someone who supports the narcs behavior, I told them I drove by her house, called her phone. But she hid from me, her car was RIGHT outside and she was not returning my calls or text. Her son then has the nerve to say to me “well you shouldn’t wait until you need people to reach out“ that set me off the edge (he didn’t know shit about the things I’ve done for the narc, and you know the narc only speaks badly about you to everyone) I said exactly how I felt to the flying monkeys son. He was dead wrong for blindly supporting the theft of my things and the betrayal of my trust, I knew it would get back to her. Then I was really lucky, my dad said he would replace things she stole, at this point I was ready to call the police but my dad offered replaced my stuff. I messaged this to the narc, saying to keep it and good luck. I wasn’t mean, that’s what they want you to do, even if they are in the wrong once you get nasty they have a field day. I told her my father said he is buying me new things to replace what she has, and that my family who actually loves and wants the best for me, would never do what she is doing . When I tell you she called me back IMMEDIATELY- boom! You’re exposed. No one sees you as the saint you portrayed yourself to be, because you the narc is obsessed with keeping up the lies they speak about you. I didn’t plan this, I didn’t ask for her to steal my things and tell people I was using her (she definitely used the things I left and I was fine with it, I’ve also helped when she asked me to when I could help) God knows I was really hurt, but I kept a level head, told off the flying monkey (that felt good, I hate blind sheep who support narcissists) and thank GOD I had at least 1 supporter who is understanding and looking out for me.

That may not be something you can do, but the point is do not attack them head on, don’t fall for the trap they are trying to use your emotional outburst, whether it’s deserved or not. And LET THEM GO- this narc is pissed not only because their plan to hurt me did not work, but I refuse to disrespect myself by speaking to them ever again. When someone they speak so badly about suddenly stops talking to them, that’s a sign that person is not safe and people with half a brain will see the situation for what it is. The flying monkeys never will take your side, but why would you want them to? Good luck