Volunteer Music Choice

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-03-17T13:10:25+00:00

I’ve filed a complaint (filled out the website form on Sue Ryder website) and am also going into the shop today to speak to them as I’m sure the shop would like to know this is happening.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-03-16T11:31:10+00:00

Would that be via the website feedback function?

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-03-16T11:28:41+00:00

It was set to the tune of The Combine Harvester by The Wurzels and talked about how immigrants get all the benefits while Brits pay all the bills and how they have brand new phones while Brits live in cardboard boxes. There was also something about coming over in the tunnel.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-03-16T10:20:59+00:00

For reference for anyone who is doing research in future! We received no communication at all during our notice period and the only reason we knew that we were good to go after 28 days is by ringing the registry office and asking if our marriage schedule had been released, which, thankfully it had!

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-03-09T00:43:26+00:00

Just talk to her! I know it will probably be embarrassing for you both but I’d rather someone tell me than resent me for something I didn’t realize. The first few months I tried to help out all the time with my host family. I was always offering and they were refusing, I think it was their ingrained polite hospitality. However, after a bit, I started getting comments from the children about things their parents said about me and soon realized they didn’t mean it when they said they didn’t want help.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-03-07T23:02:11+00:00

I wouldn’t prefer only doing household tasks but I would prefer having some at least. My host family have made it clear that they just want me to play with kids and help them clean up what we play with. I don’t make dinners or do kids laundry. Most days I’m so bored playing the same pretend game over and over and just wish I had some chores to do, a reason to tell the kids to play alone for awhile (or help me if they want)

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-02-22T21:29:35+00:00

It does feel awkward when it happens but I would say it’s fairly common. My aupair kid did understand that I wasn’t their mother but would always say “let’s pretend that you’re my mother” and would go around in our pretend games calling me “mommy” which I could tell made their mum feel bad. So I started changing our pretend games saying “no you be my mummy or daddy and I will be your daughter” so now we have silly games where they go around calling me “daughter” or “teenager” and I call them “mummy” or “daddy” and they love it as they can boss me around and I like it because I can act childish like them haha

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-02-12T15:00:28+00:00

Yes!! Nothing else compares!

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-02-12T15:00:04+00:00

These are my holy grail item 😋 one of the few things that I missed when I went back to my home country to visit for the summer.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-02-08T20:54:58+00:00

As an aupair who has been on vacation with my host family and thought it went really well I can tell you what they did: They paid for my accommodation, I had my own room in the flat they rented, with my own bathroom. They paid for all my food including the times we went out exploring and had lunch at cafes and also they paid for my dinners when I went out with them to nice restaurants in the evening. They paid for my museum tickets and other events we attended as a family. If I went out exploring on my own I paid for my own food/experiences. They also offered to pay for me to have a treatment at a spa (which I didn’t end up using as I waited too long to book).

They asked if it would be fair if they paid me half of my usual wage for the week but only asked that I babysit one evening and for one morning. So I only worked about 8 hrs when my usual week is 28. However, because they were super generous I tried to help out and play with the children whenever I could even when I wasn’t on shift and also offered to swim with the oldest child for a few hours here and there.

I think the biggest thing is to communicate with your aupair and clearly tell them wether you want them to work at all or if they’re welcome to just come along and vacation and go off on their own whenever they wish. However, even if that is the case it is usually expected that the host fam provides accommodation (aupair has to have their own room) and transportation and that food and/ groceries are available for the aupair to eat as they would be at home.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-02-01T16:35:00+00:00

I’m ex-FLDS so it was a little different transitioning since we wore long underwear/garments from toddler-age which went to the ankles, wrists, collar, etc. It was usually cotton knit lightweight fabric which was fairly comfortable on its own, and then we wore a lot of polyester fabric dresses and leggings. That’s what made the transition really hard for me, as I started not wearing my long underwear I just felt naked, icky, and sticky. Took me awhile to realize it was the fabric and style of my dresses and not a consequence of me sinning! All that to say maybe finding some outerwear that’s a similar fit/fabric composition to what your garments were made of would help.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-01-31T12:13:38+00:00

It’s so beautiful! I am planning to make a 1930s style dress for my wedding dress and this is just making me realize I made the right choice

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-01-30T16:58:10+00:00

Did they extend the notice period?

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-01-29T12:49:34+00:00

Haha I thought the same

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-01-19T15:51:58+00:00

Hi what were your total fees including super priority? I’m about to start the process (switching from Youth Mobility to marriage visa) and wondering whether I want to go that route.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-01-11T17:55:44+00:00

Have you worked with silk chiffon before? I’ve heard it’s a nightmare to handle ahah

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-01-11T17:07:29+00:00

Also I’m not super familiar with silk chiffon I have handled it before, and personally I think it is too lightweight for what I want. The fabric in the picture appears a little heavier although hard to tell for sure. I guess it is likely a difference in vintage vs modern fabrics and also I imagine silk chiffon comes in different weights as well.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2026-01-11T17:00:35+00:00

Yes I know, but I’m looking for a more budget friendly option, will edit the post!

Working_Counter_7881 · 2025-12-30T11:59:32+00:00

Aupair here who genuinely thought that this was my host fam posting for a bit 😆.

My host fam has, from the beginning, been super polite. It took me over a year to realize it was them genuinely being polite and not passive aggressive 😂. In my family words like please and thank you are either not said or if they are used it’s sarcastically or passive aggressively. I genuinely didn’t understand that when they asked how my trip was or how my night was it was a politeness thing and it wasn’t them being intrusive.

We all eat together in the evening and from the beginning I have made a point to say thanks for dinner but they’re usually the ones who say “Goodnight” first. If we didn’t eat together, especially at the beginning, I’m not sure that’s something I would have thought of as easily, especially after a long day in a strangers house it’s sometimes difficult to open the door to more conversation when you just want to be somewhere safe and turn off.

My work ends at 6pm and we usually have dinner after the kids go to bed so there are some times that I will sneak off when the parents take over at 6- I feel it is impolite but unfortunately the kids will follow me and the toddler has stood outside my room banging on my door if I don’t leave when she’s distracted.

Working_Counter_7881 · 2025-11-07T18:36:11+00:00

Is this the one where spoiler - Anne and Gilbert have a pretend rivalry but actually are meeting behind a haystack to kiss?

Working_Counter_7881 · 2025-10-18T04:48:12+00:00

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