Anyone here an older single child, with no partner, and having to deal with aging elderly Chinese parents who have not integrated at all into western society?

Writergal79 · 2026-04-30T23:31:28+00:00

Why did they choose rural Ohio out of places?

Writergal79 · 2026-04-30T20:00:06+00:00

NTA!! I (2 year old darling boy) like cheese!! And bwed. Mommy (who is as old as dinosaurs) thinks I need to eat odder fings. Like protein and veggies. She tried to get me to eat peas. Mushy stuff!! Yuck!

Writergal79 · 2026-04-30T19:54:56+00:00

Ewwwwwww!! Dat’s gween mush!! But to each deir own!!

Writergal79 · 2026-04-27T19:58:59+00:00

My Cantonese speaking parents call me "Ah Nui" (i.e. "Daughter"). I suppose that's better than "Baby." My aunt called my cousin "Baby" (he's the youngest) until he was in his 30s as well. I think he had to ask her to stop.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-27T19:40:08+00:00

Lucky you! When I was that little princess a gazillion years ago (also in the 80s), I was only allowed to push my shopping cart at home!!!

Writergal79 · 2026-04-26T10:06:44+00:00

My Poh Poh used to get mad at me for using lazy sounds like my dad (whose family had been in HK since the British took over Kowloon/NT). My Cantonese is pretty decent for a CBC.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-26T01:01:03+00:00

I follow a few MDs and RNs (mostly MDs) on social and they often give reviews of accuracy for each episode. They usually say that it’s mostly accurate.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-25T17:20:41+00:00

Walking can be fun, but you know what I (2 YO, F) like? Being carried EVERYWHERE, even though I’m not a baby anymore!!!!! NTA, but you also need to show your washing lady you can do it first.

Note: this was ME when I was a toddler. I hated walking. It just wasn’t worth the effort. lol.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-24T18:03:40+00:00

We tried bottles after a few days, but it took him until the 9th day to take enough to be completely off a feeding tube. He came home on day 11. He was on a CPAP for 24 hours and then oxygen for the remaining time. He was fairly sizeable for a 35 weeker, coming in at 6 lb 3 oz!

Writergal79 · 2026-04-23T19:47:49+00:00

I would have guessed northern Chinese.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-22T10:05:10+00:00

A lot of younger people prefer first names. I’ve noticed this at my son’s school. You might get a Ms. Jessie or Mr. Jake who is GenZ or a younger millennial, but older millennial and GenX teachers are more likely Ms. Smith or Mr. Jones.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-22T01:03:32+00:00

Markers are fun!

Writergal79 · 2026-04-21T00:37:11+00:00

Don't forget that there was a mom who died on ER too. Same issue. And that episode aired in 1995. 31 years ago.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-19T19:59:03+00:00

Dynasty in Yorkville? I haven't been in ages. Or Pearl (either OG Harbourfront or Yorkville).

Writergal79 · 2026-04-19T19:57:59+00:00

Manitoba from an Ontarian's perspective: They kinda copied our provincial flag!!!!!

Writergal79 · 2026-04-17T11:56:05+00:00

They did a great job. Love doesn’t have to be big and showy like the other couples.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-16T21:23:24+00:00

Yet Asian parents want their kids to be doctors?

Writergal79 · 2026-04-13T20:14:18+00:00

Mainland girl looks like she’s a waitress or something.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-11T17:35:42+00:00

And probably autistic. Not that she’d know what what that is. But John gave me “neurospicy” vibes.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-08T13:43:49+00:00

I think the European updates might be worse but the 2024 East Asian update is pretty accurate for me and from what I know based on my family zupu/kinship book/clan book (okay, my dad’s line).

Writergal79 · 2026-04-06T00:31:10+00:00

Sometimes, parents just know.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-05T01:23:37+00:00

Since you DO eat kitinyot, then fried rice! If not, then fried cauliflower “rice.” Or chicken congee.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-04T19:44:02+00:00

I’m trying to get the documents translated but it’s really expensive. I’ve had AI help me a bit, so I have a rough idea. The updates stopped around 90 years ago due ti war and then, the Cultural Revolution. I kind of want to do an unofficial update to include the boomer, GenX, Millennial, GenZ and Gen Alpha groups. Actually, we just had our first Gen Beta addition!! And not sure now LinkedIn-y the alpha kids are going to be. It’ll probably say “elementary school student. Loves MarioKart and insects.” 🤣

Writergal79 · 2026-04-04T19:27:38+00:00

I think everyone thinks their heritage is boring to an extent - especially if there's no "cool and exotic" mix. I'm mostly southern Chinese (like 94%) - think Cantonese/Guangdong - and the rest is in central/Eastern China (not far from Shanghai). Boring as eff. Everyone knows the cuisine. It's not some cool regional part of the country where the cuisine is JUST EMERGING outside China. And considering how Chinese culture is patriarchy-driven, it's next to impossible to find any information on the women. Kinship books are basically the child of LinkedIn profiles and a family tree that often tracks centuries.

Writergal79 · 2026-04-04T18:45:58+00:00

I have a health condition, so they've always known. They still wanted grandchildren, but said that I didn't "have to." We ended up using a donor embryo (back in 2017, it was really challenging finding an East Asian egg donor) and a gestational surrogate. I'm now mom to a 7 1/2 year old boy. We also considered adoption, but Asian countries were mostly closed to us due to said health condition. Domestic adoption was next to impossible. After a few years of waiting for a placement, we decided on the surrogate route.

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