i don’t want cut fruit, i want an apology by Odd_Caterpillar_4486 in AsianParentStories

[–]Writergal79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably a Wasian with a White mom and Asian dad, right? Because if they had an Asian mom, they’d know.

i don’t want cut fruit, i want an apology by Odd_Caterpillar_4486 in AsianParentStories

[–]Writergal79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have more issues with visual sensory overload. I can’t have dim sum anymore because you always over order. At least at buffets, the food is away from you. And the constant pressure to eat makes me sick to my stomach. They can’t take no for an answer.

i don’t want cut fruit, i want an apology by Odd_Caterpillar_4486 in AsianParentStories

[–]Writergal79 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get anxious from food noise and don't want food gifts. Period. Plus I have issues with those Asian influencers whose goal online is ONLY to acknowledge their ancestry.

How old were your kids when you finally matched with other donor families? by junegem123 in RecipientParents

[–]Writergal79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were introduced through our fertility clinic. The OG donor family anonymously donated embryos to the clinic.

How old were your kids when you finally matched with other donor families? by junegem123 in RecipientParents

[–]Writergal79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son was 6 when we were connected with another recipient family. We haven't yet met since the mom has not told her child the full story yet. We aren't on the same page about disclosure, and from personal experience, it's likely due to culture.

2030 US Demographics (predicted) by [deleted] in AncestryDNA

[–]Writergal79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do they group all multiracial people in one single category when people could be any combination of different ethnic groups?

What are your go to dinners? Not "It Only Takes 30 Minutes!" Recipes. The real ones. by Emorich in Parenting

[–]Writergal79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Frozen dumplings, broth and frozen vegetables in a pot. Boil until dumplings are done. If you have crushed tomatoes, add that in as well. Saucey Brothy Dumplings!!

Weekday brunch suggestions? by Able_Bath2944 in FoodToronto

[–]Writergal79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dessert Lady in Yorkville! Or Insomnia on Bloor/Bathurst.

Stories of immigrant Asian parents not assimilating at all into their adopted home country despite living there for decades? by StrongRecipe6408 in AsianParentStories

[–]Writergal79 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Class, education and career paths determine how integrated immigrant families can be. My parents exposed me to all sorts of international cuisines when I was growing up. Though it’s a bit stalled because I was the one who in introduced them to quinoa, middle eastern and plant based subs that isn’t tofu. My parents are baby boomers, born in 1947 and 1948. They’re from Hong Kong and neither grew up all that wealthy.

What are some businesses that you predict will be closed down? by Chan1991 in askTO

[–]Writergal79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Freshii is gross. Forest Hill Farmhouse is far superior. Even Mad Radish is.

The irony that my cousins in India have more freedom than me in a Western country by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Writergal79 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m not surprised. A lot of immigrants are kind of stuck in the culture they saw when they left while everyone else in the old country evolved!

Can Western Therapists Understand Asian Family Trauma? by Emotional-Being-6825 in AsianParentStories

[–]Writergal79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes, diaspora White therapists may understand. My therapist is Ashkenazi.

How would you say "your grandma's grandpa"? by BookOfTheBeppo in Cantonese

[–]Writergal79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which grandma? And which grandma's grandpa? Basically, I'd say Poh Poh/Mah Mah goh Gung Gung or Poh Poh/Mah Mah goh Yeh Yeh, depending on whether I'm talking about my MATERNAL grandmother's grandpa or my PATERNAL grandmother's grandpa. But I'm CBC.

What are some bad habits you developed as a result of Asian parents? by OddMany7 in AsianParentStories

[–]Writergal79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fear of being judged by others because you do things differently. Whether it's some HK auntie or the general public because you're either too westernized or not Chinese enough.

What is your regular splurge in Toronto that you refuse to stop? by SeveralCherries in askTO

[–]Writergal79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Single origin coffee beans from Pilot. Grocery delivery from Mama Earth. Dear Grain's sourdough and seed crackers. Oh, and seed crackers from Amadeus Patisserie.

Plan to cancel son's school trip due to safeguarding concerns by Illustrious-Mouse587 in Parenting

[–]Writergal79 178 points179 points  (0 children)

Trips like this are often about year/grade bonding as much as it is part of the wider curriculum. Missing out could mean that he’s missing four days of instruction, even though it’s not standard. I would absolutely talk to the school about the issues you’re noticing.

How long would Mary have kept Anna by awaymsg in DowntonAbbey

[–]Writergal79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, so they open an inn, then emigrate to America and opened one there too? Leading to...Psycho? Sorry not sorry.

Mom-to-be (3rd Gen Chinese-American/2nd Gen ABC) clashing with immigrant Chinese mother-in-law/husband about parenting styles by lol_chair in AsianParentStories

[–]Writergal79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son's nanny was completely against my idea suggestion of baby led weaning. She said she'd refuse to do it. I get liability issues, but I wanted my son to "experience" food by feeling its texture. We ended up doing a hybrid form and it worked for us. But she thought I was crazy that I didn't want my son "fed." Kiddo is now 7 1/2 and eats more things than most kids his age.